If a girl suddenly noticed me for my looks...

...should I give her a shot or tell her to piss off for being shallow and rejecting me before?

Let's say I used to be quite unattractive but since starting college I lost weight, did my hair differently, shaved more often, etc. and became average to decent-looking at best, and only then did girls start to notice me. Then suppose one girl I liked who rejected me outright before suddenly shows interest in me after this "transition," should I really give her another shot or should I reject her to her face for not accepting the way I was before? Normally I would pick the former but the idea of rejecting her the same way she did to me sounds a bit exciting.

Or you could just ignore her and see somebody else who's not a prick.

Assign yourself and her a number.

I think using numbers.

...should I give her a shot or tell her to piss off for being shallow and rejecting me before?

Let's say I used to be quite unattractive but since starting college I lost weight, did my hair differently, shaved more often, etc. and became average to decent-looking at best, and only then did girls start to notice me. Then suppose one girl I liked who rejected me outright before suddenly shows interest in me after this "transition," should I really give her another shot or should I reject her to her face for not accepting the way I was before? Normally I would pick the former but the idea of rejecting her the same way she did to me sounds a bit exciting.

Tigerman950

I'd lead her on, become a couple, wait a year, propose to her, she accepts, then dump her a week later.

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

...should I give her a shot or tell her to piss off for being shallow and rejecting me before?

Let's say I used to be quite unattractive but since starting college I lost weight, did my hair differently, shaved more often, etc. and became average to decent-looking at best, and only then did girls start to notice me. Then suppose one girl I liked who rejected me outright before suddenly shows interest in me after this "transition," should I really give her another shot or should I reject her to her face for not accepting the way I was before? Normally I would pick the former but the idea of rejecting her the same way she did to me sounds a bit exciting.

chaoscougar1

Her "kind" personality but I stopped liking her because of how she started treating me (ignored me when I tried talking to her, snapped at me often, etc.). She was only suddenly nice to me again when I came home from college, and I can't help but wonder why...

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"][QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

...should I give her a shot or tell her to piss off for being shallow and rejecting me before?

Let's say I used to be quite unattractive but since starting college I lost weight, did my hair differently, shaved more often, etc. and became average to decent-looking at best, and only then did girls start to notice me. Then suppose one girl I liked who rejected me outright before suddenly shows interest in me after this "transition," should I really give her another shot or should I reject her to her face for not accepting the way I was before? Normally I would pick the former but the idea of rejecting her the same way she did to me sounds a bit exciting.

Tigerman950

Her "kind" personality but I stopped liking her because of how she started treating me (ignored me when I tried talking to her, snapped at me often, etc.). She was only suddenly nice to me again when I came home from college, and I can't help but wonder why...

LOL

she's a faker.

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"][QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

...should I give her a shot or tell her to piss off for being shallow and rejecting me before?

Let's say I used to be quite unattractive but since starting college I lost weight, did my hair differently, shaved more often, etc. and became average to decent-looking at best, and only then did girls start to notice me. Then suppose one girl I liked who rejected me outright before suddenly shows interest in me after this "transition," should I really give her another shot or should I reject her to her face for not accepting the way I was before? Normally I would pick the former but the idea of rejecting her the same way she did to me sounds a bit exciting.

Tigerman950

Her "kind" personality but I stopped liking her because of how she started treating me (ignored me when I tried talking to her, snapped at me often, etc.). She was only suddenly nice to me again when I came home from college, and I can't help but wonder why...

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"] Why did you like her originally?chaoscougar1

Her "kind" personality but I stopped liking her because of how she started treating me (ignored me when I tried talking to her, snapped at me often, etc.). She was only suddenly nice to me again when I came home from college, and I can't help but wonder why...

Of course there was that too but mainly her personality. We're friends, or at least we were.

Or you could just ignore her and see somebody else who's not a prick.

metroidfood

sounds like tc is also.

TC I think you two are perfect for each other.

Hold on.

You said you started losing weight, shaving more often, taking care of your hair, etc., and you're pissed becuase the girl wouldn't give you the time of day before you started taking care of yourself?

That's not a shallow decision, it's a smart one. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of anyone else?

And on the subject of being shallow and caring only about looks, when is the last time you asked the fat girl out?

Hold on.

You said you started losing weight, shaving more often, taking care of your hair, etc., and you're pissed becuase the girl wouldn't give you the time of day before you started taking care of yourself?

That's not a shallow decision, it's a smart one. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of anyone else?

And on the subject of being shallow and caring only about looks, when is the last time you asked the fat girl out?

br0kenrabbit

Yeah, who knew being hygienic and fit actually equaled results?

Hold on.

You said you started losing weight, shaving more often, taking care of your hair, etc., and you're pissed becuase the girl wouldn't give you the time of day before you started taking care of yourself?

That's not a shallow decision, it's a smart one. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of anyone else?

And on the subject of being shallow and caring only about looks, when is the last time you asked the fat girl out?

br0kenrabbit

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

Her rejection of me before didn't bother me, it's just that she's pursuing me now despite treating me like sh!t before and pretending she never did; that's what makes me mad.

[QUOTE="br0kenrabbit"]

Hold on.

You said you started losing weight, shaving more often, taking care of your hair, etc., and you're pissed becuase the girl wouldn't give you the time of day before you started taking care of yourself?

That's not a shallow decision, it's a smart one. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of anyone else?

And on the subject of being shallow and caring only about looks, when is the last time you asked the fat girl out?

Tigerman950

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

[QUOTE="br0kenrabbit"]

Hold on.

You said you started losing weight, shaving more often, taking care of your hair, etc., and you're pissed becuase the girl wouldn't give you the time of day before you started taking care of yourself?

That's not a shallow decision, it's a smart one. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of anyone else?

And on the subject of being shallow and caring only about looks, when is the last time you asked the fat girl out?

Tigerman950

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

Droid and Rabbit probably treat fat people like sh*t in real life.

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

Tigerman950

Respect and relationships are two different things. I respect plenty of women I wouldn't have a relationship with.

Real adult relationships are a hell of a lot of responsibility and shared burden. If you can't find the time and energy to clean yourself up then you probably can't find the time and energy to dote properly on a romantic interest.

So she's acknowledging you've changed for the better (which is far, far better than the line "you still haven't changed") and now you want to treat her poorly because you felt slighted by her in the past?

Yeah, you're definately not ready for a relationship.

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

br0kenrabbit

Respect and relationships are two different things. I respect plenty of women I wouldn't have a relationship with.

Real adult relationships are a hell of a lot of responsibility and shared burden. If you can't find the time and energy to clean yourself up then you probably can't find the time and energy to dote properly on a romantic interest.

So she's acknowledging you've changed for the better (which is far, far better than the line "you still haven't changed") and now you want to treat her poorly because you felt slighted by her in the past?

Yeah, you're definately not ready for a relationship.

Well, I elaborated in the post, but what I meant was she rejected me (which was fine) and she was mean for no apparent reason, but after I came back from college she seemed nice to me all of a sudden. Of course I don't want to be mean to her back, even though it sounds truly appealing it still wouldn't make me any better than she is, but I only ask to make sure I'm not making a mistake by giving her another chance.

Well, I elaborated in the post, but what I meant was she rejected me (which was fine) and she was mean for no apparent reason, but after I came back from college she seemed nice to me all of a sudden. Of course I don't want to be mean to her back, even though it sounds truly appealing it still wouldn't make me any better than she is, but I only ask to make sure I'm not making a mistake by giving her another chance.

Tigerman950

There's your confusion. You aren't giving her another chance, she's giving you another chance. You take it or you don't.

And perhaps she was mean to you because you were bugging her. There's a very fine line between persistence and annoyance.

[QUOTE="br0kenrabbit"]

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

I'm friends with plenty of girls who "don't take care of themselves" and always treat them with respect. My treatment of them wouldn't change with their appearance. It's the fact that she's nice to me all of a sudden for reasons she has made more than obvious.

Tigerman950

Respect and relationships are two different things. I respect plenty of women I wouldn't have a relationship with.

Real adult relationships are a hell of a lot of responsibility and shared burden. If you can't find the time and energy to clean yourself up then you probably can't find the time and energy to dote properly on a romantic interest.

So she's acknowledging you've changed for the better (which is far, far better than the line "you still haven't changed") and now you want to treat her poorly because you felt slighted by her in the past?

Yeah, you're definately not ready for a relationship.

Well, I elaborated in the post, but what I meant was she rejected me (which was fine) and she was mean for no apparent reason, but after I came back from college she seemed nice to me all of a sudden. Of course I don't want to be mean to her back, even though it sounds truly appealing it still wouldn't make me any better than she is, but I only ask to make sure I'm not making a mistake by giving her another chance.

You said you were friends?

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

Well, I elaborated in the post, but what I meant was she rejected me (which was fine) and she was mean for no apparent reason, but after I came back from college she seemed nice to me all of a sudden. Of course I don't want to be mean to her back, even though it sounds truly appealing it still wouldn't make me any better than she is, but I only ask to make sure I'm not making a mistake by giving her another chance.

br0kenrabbit

There's your confusion. You aren't giving her another chance, she's giving you another chance. You take it or you don't.

And perhaps she was mean to you because you were bugging her. There's a very fine line between persistence and annoyance.

I doubt it, I rarely talked to her afterwards but when eventually I asked her how her day was or something like that she'd make a snobby remark or tell me to go away.

I'd never pass up a girl that I liked who gave me a second chance, I was just a bit hesitant accepting her friendship (or whatever) again when she was previously mean to me for no apparent reason, as many of my (and her) friends pointed out.

[QUOTE="Tigerman950"]

[QUOTE="br0kenrabbit"]

Respect and relationships are two different things. I respect plenty of women I wouldn't have a relationship with.

Real adult relationships are a hell of a lot of responsibility and shared burden. If you can't find the time and energy to clean yourself up then you probably can't find the time and energy to dote properly on a romantic interest.

So she's acknowledging you've changed for the better (which is far, far better than the line "you still haven't changed") and now you want to treat her poorly because you felt slighted by her in the past?

Yeah, you're definately not ready for a relationship.

chaoscougar1

Well, I elaborated in the post, but what I meant was she rejected me (which was fine) and she was mean for no apparent reason, but after I came back from college she seemed nice to me all of a sudden. Of course I don't want to be mean to her back, even though it sounds truly appealing it still wouldn't make me any better than she is, but I only ask to make sure I'm not making a mistake by giving her another chance.

You said you were friends?

Well I thought we were, that's why it came as a bit surprising. I had no problem moving on eventually.

maybe she changed. college/uni has a positive effect on some people.

maybe she changed. college/uni has a positive effect on some people.

rocinante_

Good point, I always give people the benefit of the doubt.

[QUOTE="rocinante_"]

maybe she changed. college/uni has a positive effect on some people.

Tigerman950

Good point, I always give people the benefit of the doubt.

Cut her face off and wear it as your own

I'd get another girl and then purposefully try and go near the original girl to make her mad.

I wouldn't really blame her to be honest. If you were "unattractive" and "ugly" before then why is it her fault? Blazerdt47

Yea that's true, but purposefully ignoring you and snapping at you is mean af.

What about you? Do you notice girls because of their looks?

maybe get to know her a bit before flat out rejecting her michael_1234576

You should hit and never talk to her againBucked20

[QUOTE="michael_1234576"]maybe get to know her a bit before flat out rejecting her dave123321

why would he want to get to know a girl that purposefully ignored him and snapped at him?....

[QUOTE="dave123321"][QUOTE="michael_1234576"]maybe get to know her a bit before flat out rejecting her kingkong0124

why would he want to get to know a girl that purposefully ignored him and snapped at him?....

It sounds like you want to let the anger out from all the times you were rejected now that you can get a date. It will only make you feel worse about youself unless your a douche. From the sounds of it you are worse than her if you want to get revenge on someone for not being attracted to you when you werent good looking. For something to happen there has to be an initial attraction. Also college changes people, most girls find out what they want in a guy and vice versa. Highschool girls are very stupid and self absorbed, it changes with time.

[QUOTE="stanleycup98"]Think about it this way OP. Imagine there is a girl that is attracted to you. She is overweight, has ugly hair, has a mustache, wears huge t-shirts and bagging sweatpants, and she is probably a 3/10 on the looks scale. One day, she asks you out. But you are an attractive male, and you can easily get with some hot girls who are 8/10s. What do you say? I'd say no, no matter how nice she is. Now imagine it's 5 years later and you see her again. She lost weight, changed her appearance, shaved, and changed her style. Now she looks pretty good, say a 7/10. She also has a great personality, unlike many of the hot girls you were with **** all of them). Oh, and she has nice **** and a perfect ass. Would you fault yourself for being attracted to her now, but not before, even though she is still the same person on the inside?Socialist696