Ok, guys, so I do have a confession. The reason I'm really wound up about this whole gay thing is that I think one of my friends is gay and likes me. :( He paid for us to go see District 9 together even though I have money and he even bought us the drink and popcorn combo and made sure that he got the same drink as me. It was really uncomfortable. :( So have any of you guys brought a friend to a movie and paid for their ticket and liked them? I hope I didn't just go on a date with a gay
Step 1: Meet with your friend Step 2: Be open and honest about your concerns Step 3: Work them out together Step 4: If your friend is gay decide if that's something you can accept if your friend in turn is willing to accept just being friends. Nothing that folks on the Gamespot message boards might say will change any part of that process. It's where you're going to end up eventually. Edit: In fact, I think this is the process that should be applied to roughly 95% of the social help threads on GS. Talk with the person involved.
[QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"]Step 1: Meet with your friend Step 2: Be open and honest about your concerns Step 3: Work them out together Step 4: If your friend is gay decide if that's something you can accept if your friend in turn is willing to accept just being friends. Nothing that folks on the Gamespot message boards might say will change any part of that process. It's where you're going to end up eventually. I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. :( My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays and I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff. :( I don't want to know if he's gay
I am a girl. My friend is a girl. She bought me popcorn and............... we hadhand touching in the theatre. But then again, we buy each other stuff all the time and don't like each other in any intimate way.
I would say, you could probably find out about your friend, if you try to see how he acts around his other friends. Also, just touch his butt one time and see what happens. If he likes it, you have a problem.
I am a girl. My friend is a girl. She bought me popcorn and............... we hadhand touching in the theatre.
I would say, you could probably find out about your friend, if you try to see how he acts around his other friends. Also, just touch his butt one time and see what happens. If he likes it, you have a problem.
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Yeah, it's totally different with girls. Sorry but that doesn't apply at all. Girls can do all sorts of things with each other and still not be gay but if my friend were to like touch my thigh during the movie that would not be ok even if he keeps saying it was an accident.
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"][QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"]Step 1: Meet with your friend Step 2: Be open and honest about your concerns Step 3: Work them out together Step 4: If your friend is gay decide if that's something you can accept if your friend in turn is willing to accept just being friends. Nothing that folks on the Gamespot message boards might say will change any part of that process. It's where you're going to end up eventually. I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. :( My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays and I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff. :( I don't want to know if he's gay "I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. " Then they aren't true friends.
"My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays" That would be your problem, not his. If he was your friend yesterday, then he should still be your friend if he turns out to be gay Him being gay doesn't change who he is as a person. If you enjoyed hanging out with him or talking with him or going to movies or whatever, then none of that should be any different just because he may be gay. "I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff." Part of friendship is keeping secrets. If he doesn't want his parents or anyone else to know, then you should be willing to accept that and let him talk with his parents when HE is ready. But if his parents wouldn't be able to accept him for who he is, then, again, that would be THEIR problem and not his. He is who he is. Parents should love their children unconditionally. "I don't want to know if he's gay" Yes you do. You wouldn't be asking the question to the entire Gamespot OT community if you didn't. You may be scared of the answer, but that's only because you're not sure if you can accept this about him.
Yeah he's gay There's no way he was just being polite and treating you like a good buddy. You're a great friend by thinking he's gay after he just treated you at the movies. /sarcasm
[QUOTE="D3nnyCrane"]Buying popcorn is not gay. Reaching in and finding he's stuck his todger through the bottom is. Lol, I know that's a joke but even if he did that... which one of us would be gay
[QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"][QUOTE="Sbellybell"][QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"]Step 1: Meet with your friend Step 2: Be open and honest about your concerns Step 3: Work them out together Step 4: If your friend is gay decide if that's something you can accept if your friend in turn is willing to accept just being friends. Nothing that folks on the Gamespot message boards might say will change any part of that process. It's where you're going to end up eventually. I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. :( My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays and I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff. :( I don't want to know if he's gay "I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. " Then they aren't true friends.
"My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays" That would be your problem, not his. If he was your friend yesterday, then he should still be your friend if he turns out to be gay Him being gay doesn't change who he is as a person. If you enjoyed hanging out with him or talking with him or going to movies or whatever, then none of that should be any different just because he may be gay. "I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff." Part of friendship is keeping secrets. If he doesn't want his parents or anyone else to know, then you should be willing to accept that and let him talk with his parents when HE is ready. But if his parents wouldn't be able to accept him for who he is, then, again, that would be THEIR problem and not his. He is who he is. Parents should love their children unconditionally. "I don't want to know if he's gay" Yes you do. You wouldn't be asking the question to the entire Gamespot OT community if you didn't. You may be scared of the answer, but that's only because you're not sure if you can accept this about him. I wish that I lived in your after-school special world but that's just not how where I live works, y'know? I appreciate all the happy sappy democrat bleeding-heart advice but that just ain't how things work sometimes, sorry. I wish I could follow your advice but I can't. :( :(
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"][QUOTE="D3nnyCrane"]Buying popcorn is not gay Reaching in and finding he's stuck his todger through the bottom is.D3nnyCrane
Lol, I know that's a joke but even if he did that... which one of us would be gay Depends how long you held on for. I have a feeling you've had experience in this field...
Yeah man, he totally wants you. You just went on a date with a gay guy, sorry to break it to you. That makes you pretty gay too. You better go do something really straight to even it out like joining an MMA club.
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"] I wish that I lived in your after-school special world but that's just not how where I live works, y'know? I appreciate all the happy sappy democrat bleeding-heart advice but that just ain't how things work sometimes, sorry. I wish I could follow your advice but I can't. :( :( Sure you could. Whether you want to follow my advice or not is a different matter, but there's nothing preventing you from doing so. I live in Idaho. It's hardly renowned as one of the most gay-friendly "after-school special" places in America. All the advice in the world boils down to this really: If he's really your friend, then you'll accept this about him. If you can't accept it, then maybe you aren't really that good of friends and it is time to move on.
Maybe he is a good friend and has money? Maybe we just wants to be good friends? Id love it if a guy would do all that for me as i have little money:S gay or not
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"][QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"]Step 1: Meet with your friend Step 2: Be open and honest about your concerns Step 3: Work them out together Step 4: If your friend is gay decide if that's something you can accept if your friend in turn is willing to accept just being friends. Nothing that folks on the Gamespot message boards might say will change any part of that process. It's where you're going to end up eventually. I don't know if I want to just go out and ask him if he's gay because if he is our friends will definitely beat him up. :( My friends (and well me to be honest) really don't like gays and I'd e really sad if my friend was gay because a lot of trouble and harm will come to him and I'm sure his parents will disown him and stuff. :( I don't want to know if he's gay That sounds very prejudice and like you are living in the dark ages.
[QUOTE="D3nnyCrane"][QUOTE="Sbellybell"] Lol, I know that's a joke but even if he did that... which one of us would be gayRiseAgainst12
Depends how long you held on for. I have a feeling you've had experience in this field... Not really - a bad hot melted butter experience ensured my first attempt was my last...
I wish that I lived in your after-school special world but that's just not how where I live works, y'know? I appreciate all the happy sappy democrat bleeding-heart advice but that just ain't how things work sometimes, sorry. I wish I could follow your advice but I can't. :( :(Sbellybell
There's so many things wrong with this I can't even believe it. You can't accept him because that's "not how things work"? Are you human at all? Newsflash: just because the other people there are close-minded, bigoted, homophobes, willing to leave (and even beat up) someone who used to be their friend over something as trivial as sexuality, doesn't mean you have to go along with it. You are an individual human being, capable of independent thought. There's literally nothing stopping you from being his friend, even if he's gay If you find out he's gay and you decide not to be his friend anymore, then you were never really his friend to begin with, and you should hit yourself in the head with a hammer, because believe me, it can't do any more damage than has already been done if the idea of not being his friend because he's gay is even crossing your mind.
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"] I wish that I lived in your after-school special world but that's just not how where I live works, y'know? I appreciate all the happy sappy democrat bleeding-heart advice but that just ain't how things work sometimes, sorry. I wish I could follow your advice but I can't. :( :(Crypto138
There's so many things wrong with this I can't even believe it. You can't accept him because that's "not how things work"? Are you human at all? Newsflash: just because the other people there are close-minded, bigoted, homophobes, willing to leave (and even beat up) someone who used to be their friend over something as trivial as sexuality, doesn't mean you have to go along with it. You are an individual human being, capable of independent thought. There's literally nothing stopping you from being his friend, even if he's gay If you find out he's gay and you decide not to be his friend anymore, then you were never really his friend to begin with, and you should hit yourself in the head with a hammer, because believe me, it can't do any more damage than has already been done if the idea of not being his friend because he's gay is even crossing your mind. This. I cannot agree more. Perfect.
Oddly enough a friend and myself went to see Jerry Maguire and he paid for me, that felt gay Another time we went to see The English Patient and I paid for the both of us, that felt really gay It was just a matter of who was carrying cash on each occasions, nevertheless it felt extremely gay
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"] I wish that I lived in your after-school special world but that's just not how where I live works, y'know? I appreciate all the happy sappy democrat bleeding-heart advice but that just ain't how things work sometimes, sorry. I wish I could follow your advice but I can't. :( :(Crypto138
There's so many things wrong with this I can't even believe it. You can't accept him because that's "not how things work"? Are you human at all? Newsflash: just because the other people there are close-minded, bigoted, homophobes, willing to leave (and even beat up) someone who used to be their friend over something as trivial as sexuality, doesn't mean you have to go along with it. You are an individual human being, capable of independent thought. There's literally nothing stopping you from being his friend, even if he's gay If you find out he's gay and you decide not to be his friend anymore, then you were never really his friend to begin with, and you should hit yourself in the head with a hammer, because believe me, it can't do any more damage than has already been done if the idea of not being his friend because he's gay is even crossing your mind. I deleted my reply to his quote because this one is just perfect. Agreed 100%
Your gay.You are the "friend" and you paid for your best friend to see the movie; and you got the same drink as your friend (But he knows you hate it) and gives you a funny look. As yourwatching the movie you keep the popcorn on your lap and you won't let him move; the popcorn is running out and his hand gets closer to your "area" you think "O no, this is turning me on" andsuddenily throw the bag upon your friend, your friend gives you another funny look. He runs out of his pop and ask for some of yours; as soon as he takes a sip you find your self licking the straw. After the movie is over you say "Wow this great *Blushing of the cheeks* I...I..lov-* your friend interrupts saying "look at those girls". You feel sad know ur friend is not gay he looks down and see something down there and you come out and say *I *. Your friend leaves you standing there, you have your self a good cry.
You come home think your friend has told everyone on facebook, but he has not. You ask him why *You are my friend I won'tembarrass you like this*. But now your going to be really nice to him so he doesn't tell, not to nice just enough so you will never fight. After years of keeping this epic secret you post on facebook your gay and now that leaves your parents you think "They might get rid of me". They will still love just not as much; ok.
You're free now go into the world your a new person, have a great life.
[QUOTE="Sbellybell"]Ok, guys, so I do have a confession. The reason I'm really wound up about this whole gay thing is that I think one of my friends is gay and likes me. :( He paid for us to go see District 9 together even though I have money and he even bought us the drink and popcorn combo and made sure that he got the same drink as me. It was really uncomfortable. :( So have any of you guys brought a friend to a movie and paid for their ticket and liked them? I hope I didn't just go on a date with a gay This is not unusual at all...you are making it weird. My best friend and I pay for each other all the time. -movies -food -bar tabs -cab rides etc. We don't keep track, it is just "understood", we trade off paying for stuff Nothing wrong with treating someone to something male or female -what is more weird is standing there in line at the movie ticket counter with two people and the first guy saying "1 please" and the next guy doing the same thing...all while the first guy could have just got both tickets and saved everyone in line time
I paid a girl friend of mine a 20 euro ticket to watch dragonforce and turisas live (screw off haters btw), and i didn't like her, she's just one of my best friends..
He's just being nice, you're his friend and gays don't date friends...especially ones they know are straight but still 'accept' them. Me and my buddies pretty well take turns paying for the movies we go to
Keep taking advantage of the freebies until he tries to kiss you. That's when you break the news to him that you were just being greedy and happy you didn't have to pay for things.
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