If you don't have any friends, how do you survive living without one?

Currently, I'm in 11th grade (senior high school in the Philippines). After 2 years, I'll go to college and I imagine myself that I'm not gonna have any friends. They'll think my life would be boring.

i'm sure if you made friends in high school you'll make friends in college

Just remember, many of the people going to college as freshmen will be in the same boat as you.

Why do you think you're not gonna have friend? and who are 'they' who'll find your life boring?

Friends are overrated. Get a dog. You can train them to attack people who ask questions like this.

I'm a solitary person by nature. Honestly, I'm more bothered hanging with friends than when I'm alone.

Never had friends at school and still don't. Its not the end of the world and I mostly prefer it this way. I had a best friend until 4th year at school until some one new started that year and he never spoke to me since and was just like rest of them picking on me. Since then I thought I will be on my own and not bothered. Every one stabs you in back in the end.

This ^^

Its easier to make friends in University, the people in what you study tend to have the same interests as you.

With college, just be yourself and pursue your interests. Friends won't be a problem.

Well, loneliness can sure take its toll on your mental health. Anyway, there's the chance you'll lose contact with some of any friends you may have. If you're any good at making friends, then you'll probably make friends in college. If not then it'll be harder to make friends, of course. This applies to pretty much any setting. If you're really concerned, just put in the effort to get involved in things like clubs. So at the very least you could say you tried.

i don't need anyone,not even online friends

I used to know a lot of people, lots of school mates with the title of "friends" ...... haven't seen any of them in ages; I can only call "friend" my SIL's husband which .... I haven't seen in months, hell, not even a phone call from any side to know how we've been doing.

So, I'm pretty sure you can survive without "friends".

Lighten up, you will probably make new friends in college! Plus remember that you don't need many "friends", but good ones.

*high five*

I would high five you back but that would require another person.

I'll get in on this non-action.

Friends will come and go, and some will be more of a friend than others at any given time. Most of my life I didn't have friends, or didn't have very many close ones. For the past couple of years I have had two friends, but I still think the friendship with these two people only carries so far. There's a good chance that once I get a different job, whenever that will be, I will not really hear from either of them much again.

As much as you will appreciate having friends around, you will look forward to your alone time.

Try to get along with other mates. Life without friends, real friends is a mess. I too am a shy, solitaire kind of person but at one point in time, you will realize this world alone is a poophole.

I'd agree with the first comment that you are going there as a freshman and a lot of people will be in the same boat as you. You'd have a lot of opportunities. Don't worry!

I didn't have any friends for most of my high-school years. Then at the university I started fresh and made some great friends, with whom I am still close 6 years later. It helps if you have things in common. If I could do it, then you can too.

And in line with others here proclaiming their loner nature, I can identify. I like my friends but I still feel a loner deep down and enjoy being by myself. Heck, there are times when I think that having to deal with other people in general frustrates me.

I live alone, i'll die alone. you don't need freinds ( Unless they are True freinds of yours ) to survive. Trust me on this :)

@ShepardCommandr: Oh why do you think like that ?

@rockfield:

Buddy the thing is that i have analysis much closer than anyone in this era's peoples & have chasing a lot, if you wanna find or make a long term relationship friends firstly you have to make yourself clear well ( brief them about your hobby, personal life, personality you like and stuff) secondly you have to spend time with them a lot, even have to build a friendly trust, shoulder them out in jeopardy and get together in journey & enjoy every moments or in short you have to spend a lot more time then by sometimes you will get a best friends nowadays..

Also i think Old friends are Gold! New friends are Diamonds! if you get Diamonds, don't forget Gold. Because only Gold can hold a Diamond.

Friends are overrated. But you're going to make some in the process. Just be wise and don't go with someone out of the boredom.

Don't need friends... I don't

Reading through more of these comments I hope I can one day also convince myself that I don't need friends =|

@SoNin360:

Ultimately, the only friend you need is yourself. If you take care of yourself and aren't needy, other people will want to be friends with you.

@AFBrat77: I am opposed to your comment dear,

Remember that. A real friend mostly show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness. So you have to wait till then..

Hmm, I think you have a point as far as being friends with myself. Maybe I would come off as a more likeable person if I didn't think so many negative things, not that I hardly ever vent things out loud. Though on the other hand I really wouldn't mind if someone were to rant about their problems to me. I would appreciate that level of trust, but maybe I'm straying away from the topic here...

@melisajones:

Why are you opposed to my comment? If you are best friends with yourself and take care of yourself, other people will be attracted to you, it's very true in real life. But if you are desperate and needy and don't like yourself you will drive people away, also true. Gotta love yourself to get close to other people, it's a simple psychological fact that so many people miss. Unfortunately some people kill themselves before they figure this out.

Don't worry about it. You'll make new friends, maybe even your best friend, like I did, in college. As others have said, everyone else is going to be in the same boat as you.

Just be yourself and put yourself out there, don't stay inside all day.

MRW as a married gamer w/ kids and people ask about my friends.

Hobbies and distractions. I don't have friends but there are a few people that I socialize with at work. I don't invest any of my personal time with them though. I have many other ways to preoccupy my time like gaming, bike rides, cruising in my car while listening to music, or simply resting/relaxing....

I can tell you from my experience, the only way you will ever make truly great and possibly life-long friends is if you know and love the person that you are. I know your probably thinking "what does that have to do with making friends" well, when your unapologetically yourself instead of trying to be whoever you think you need to be people will see that and some may even be very similar to you which would then foster a great friendship.

Become the Leapord Man of India?

Although to be fair he did have to nip down to the shops for his pension.

I have no friends and life is for sure better with friends. At least I got God if you want to know.

@uninspiredcup: Ewww lol

You friends are probably the crab type. If you place several crabs in a bucket none of them will escape cause they keep pulling each other down. Forget about them and do whats best for you. Most likely you'll end up with plenty of new better friends.

Can a biochemist explained to me why it feels so good to talk to yourself out loud? Gotta shake it off when in public because sometimes it slips out.

OP, will you attempt to score or "round the bases" with another human in college? If so, this drive at your age will usually make your "need" for friends seem low on your priority list.

I am strictly talking about your attempt. Regardless if you succeed or fail , it is your attempts and the fact that you try different tactics and techniques that is the excitement process itself. This process will preoccupy you. Do not be shamed, do not have self-pity, do not be embarrassed if you are not a looker or if you are not well gifted, all that doesn't matter.

Nothing can be worse than not trying IMO.