If you found out your gf was having an internet affair what would you do?

If you found out that your gf was having an internet affair with someone would you dump her? If they hadn't had sex? What about if you read your gfs text messages while she was in the shower and that is how you found out. You also found out she has been telling the other guy that she isn't sleeping in the same room as you or anything anymore, meanwhile it is a lie. Would you just kick her to the curb or would you make sure the other guy knew she had been lying to him too? Would you be mad at the other guy seeing as she has been lying to him to get him to believe the relationship is one way when it isn't?

I just found out on the weekend that my gf has been doing this and I don't know what to do. I had to leave to think, and I don't know how to deal with it. I love her and she always tells me how much she loves me and how she wants us to be together forever so why is she doing this with this other guy?

She is doing this because she is a lousy person. Do you want to be around a lousy person?FragStains

[QUOTE="FragStains"]She is doing this because she is a lousy person. Do you want to be around a lousy person?Jandurin

that's what ppl who have affairs often say too ;)

dude no offense meant but your women sounds like a straight up piiiig id dump her cuz if shes doin that she doesnt love u but u should give her a second chance i guess but if u decide to give her a second chance keep her on a short leash bra

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="FragStains"]She is doing this because she is a lousy person. Do you want to be around a lousy person?Ontain

that's what ppl who have affairs often say too ;)

Meh. Its nothing. Just a fantasy thing. If it gets to be a problem id end it if not than treat it as watching porn etc.freshgman

Smack a *****

seriously though, sit her down, have a conversationg with her, figure out why she was doing it, chances are she has no good reason, and you kick her to the curb.

[QUOTE="Ontain"]

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="FragStains"]She is doing this because she is a lousy person. Do you want to be around a lousy person?Jandurin

that's what ppl who have affairs often say too ;)

that they were bored in the relationship

I would destroy them both.

Seriously.

that they were bored in the relationship

Ontain

I'd create a secret account and flirt with myself. o_OMissRiotmaker

[QUOTE="Ontain"]

that they were bored in the relationship

Jandurin

I agree. Unfortunately relationships are more complex than quantum space physics in another dimension. I can only speak from experience and since everyone's experience is different, my input isn't very helpful.

yeah... I suppose that when you're bored, you should just move on, rather than string someone alongJandurin

you'd be surprise at how many ppl i know aren't all that thrilled to be with their gf/bf but stay with them because they don't have any better opinion or are too lazy to look for another at the moment. this can last for years. A friend of my wife is getting married to a guy only because her mother just flat out asked the guy what he's planning on doing since they are about 30 and had been dating for several (5+) years. My wife doesn't know if it's in her place to question if her friend should actually get married to that guy.

If you found out that your gf was having an internet affair with someone would you dump her? If they hadn't had sex? What about if you read your gfs text messages while she was in the shower and that is how you found out. You also found out she has been telling the other guy that she isn't sleeping in the same room as you or anything anymore, meanwhile it is a lie. Would you just kick her to the curb or would you make sure the other guy knew she had been lying to him too? Would you be mad at the other guy seeing as she has been lying to him to get him to believe the relationship is one way when it isn't?

I just found out on the weekend that my gf has been doing this and I don't know what to do. I had to leave to think, and I don't know how to deal with it. I love her and she always tells me how much she loves me and how she wants us to be together forever so why is she doing this with this other guy?

UR_lying2_both

honestly, I would laugh.

unless she showed the guy pictures, that would kind of piss me off

[QUOTE="MissRiotmaker"]I'd create a secret account and flirt with myself. o_OJandurin

you'd be surprise at how many ppl i know aren't all that thrilled to be with their gf/bf but stay with them because they don't have any better opinion or are too lazy to look for another at the moment. this can last for years. A friend of my wife is getting married to a guy only because her mother just flat out asked the guy what he's planning on doing since they are about 30 and had been dating for several (5+) years. My wife doesn't know if it's in her place to question if her friend should actually get married to that guy.

Ontain

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="MissRiotmaker"]I'd create a secret account and flirt with myself. o_OMissRiotmaker

Wouldn't care, internet relationships are about as real as those "you've inherited 90 million dollars" emails.Andrew_Xavier

[QUOTE="Ontain"]

you'd be surprise at how many ppl i know aren't all that thrilled to be with their gf/bf but stay with them because they don't have any better opinion or are too lazy to look for another at the moment. this can last for years. A friend of my wife is getting married to a guy only because her mother just flat out asked the guy what he's planning on doing since they are about 30 and had been dating for several (5+) years. My wife doesn't know if it's in her place to question if her friend should actually get married to that guy.

Jandurin

you're still young. when if you get to 30 and still haven't found anyone that's "perfect" you'll might just end up settling for just good enough also. all your friend start getting married and you don't wanna be the only single person going to friends' parties and get togethers, etc.

you're still young. when if you get to 30 and still haven't found anyone that's "perfect" you'll might just end up settling for just good enough also. all your friend start getting married and you don't wanna be the only single person going to friends' parties and get togethers, etc.

Ontain

[QUOTE="Andrew_Xavier"]Wouldn't care, internet relationships are about as real as those "you've inherited 90 million dollars" emails.Jandurin

I agree. I actually knew a chick in my guild that dumped her real life bf to move in with another guildmate.

when we are together it is great. Nothing has changed. She isn't moving away from me emotionally, she has brought up getting married. We do all kinds of things together and she certainly has not problem letting me buy her things. We both have jobs so we are not together all the time. I think it must just be an attention thing. You know, to see if she can still pull a guy. I am hurt though and while for the most part I think it is just a game she is playing I don't understand why. I mean we live entirely across the country from this guy. I don't think I have any other choice but to talk to her about it and try and see if there is some emotional need I am not meeting somehow. I think I feel bad for the other guy because he only knows what she has been telling him. From the texts I read, she has been telling him a lot of lies. I don't get it. Why are women so hard to understand.

Everyone else already is married. Dumbasses. Nah, as far as I can tell I've already found what I seek in who I'm with :oops:Jandurin

what are you waiting for then? her to ask? I believe that 1.5 years is as long as anyone should date for. after that you break up or plan to marry.

[QUOTE="Jandurin"]

Everyone else already is married. Dumbasses. Nah, as far as I can tell I've already found what I seek in who I'm with :oops:Ontain

what are you waiting for then? her to ask? I believe that 1.5 years is as long as anyone should date for. after that you break up or plan to marry.

when we are together it is great. Nothing has changed. She isn't moving away from me emotionally, she has brought up getting married. We do all kinds of things together and she certainly has not problem letting me buy her things. We both have jobs so we are not together all the time. I think it must just be an attention thing. You know, to see if she can still pull a guy. I am hurt though and while for the most part I think it is just a game she is playing I don't understand why. I mean we live entirely across the country from this guy. I don't think I have any other choice but to talk to her about it and try and see if there is some emotional need I am not meeting somehow. I think I feel bad for the other guy because he only knows what she has been telling him. From the texts I read, she has been telling him a lot of lies. I don't get it. Why are women so hard to understand.

UR_lying2_both

how long have you been together? What did you guess decide about on the marriage topic?

Why are women so hard to understand.

UR_lying2_both

[QUOTE="MissRiotmaker"]I'd create a secret account and flirt with myself. o_OJandurin

LOL. I've been dating her for... longer than that, though through lots of different stages. At this point, I'm planning on asking her dad for his blessing, or whatever, and he just got back from IRAQ, so it'll be pretty soon that I talk to him. And then the ring and etc. as time goes on. Neither one of us is really that pressed.Jandurin

are you already living together? i know that sometimes puts ppl in a state of laziness about getting married. I know one friend that lived with his GF for like 2-3 years before she got preggers and they finally married (so that his insurance would cover her too) good lord :lol:

are you already living together?

Ontain

[QUOTE="Andrew_Xavier"]Wouldn't care, internet relationships are about as real as those "you've inherited 90 million dollars" emails.Jandurin

Not so much. If there's absolutely no indication of actual chemistry, which can only be found when 2 people actually meet, it's nothing, it's casual chatting.

Not so much. If there's absolutely no indication of actual chemistry, which can only be found when 2 people actually meet, it's nothing, it's casual chatting.

Andrew_Xavier

we've been living together for a couple of years now. I know she is an outrageous flirt. She does other things too like tell people she is broke so they will buy her xbox live cards and things like that. I keep telling her not to do that, but she does it anyway. She says she isn't asking people to send her things, so if they do that is their problem.

I think I really have to sit down and talk to her about this. I also think I might contact the other guy and talk to him.

Wouldn't care, internet relationships are about as real as those "you've inherited 90 million dollars" emails.Andrew_Xavier

we've been living together for a couple of years now. I know she is an outrageous flirt. She does other things too like tell people she is broke so they will buy her xbox live cards and things like that. I keep telling her not to do that, but she does it anyway. She says she isn't asking people to send her things, so if they do that is their problem.

I think I really have to sit down and talk to her about this. I also think I might contact the other guy and talk to him.

UR_lying2_both

[QUOTE="Andrew_Xavier"]Wouldn't care, internet relationships are about as real as those "you've inherited 90 million dollars" emails.ferranisha

I agree. Sometimes life or feelings forces you with someone you can no longer trust and it's just awkward.

we've been living together for a couple of years now. I know she is an outrageous flirt. She does other things too like tell people she is broke so they will buy her xbox live cards and things like that. I keep telling her not to do that, but she does it anyway. She says she isn't asking people to send her things, so if they do that is their problem.

I think I really have to sit down and talk to her about this. I also think I might contact the other guy and talk to him.

UR_lying2_both