If you had a retarted sibling would you put him in a home when your parents died

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#1 leegar88
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A friend of mines older brother is mentally retarded and my friend will have to take care of him when his parents die. His parents said that he could either put him in a nursing home or take care of him. His parents said that it might be easier to put him in the home. My friend is really protective of his brother and doesn't like the idea, but he thinks it might be hard to work and take care of his brother at the same time.
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#2 CheddarLimbo
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He thinks it will be hard work? Of course it will! But you work hard for the people you love.

It sort of depends on what level of retardation, though, and what medical problems he has, and what his abilities are.

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#3 SpiritEmu
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Nursing home.
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#4 icekoldwater
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I dont know..

its hard to put myself in that position >.>

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#5 The_Ish
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I will probably put him in the home because I would have to work.

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#6 alex1889
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a home, atleast then he gets the care he needs an will never be in trouble
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#7 Bourbons3
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I'd probably be unable to manage, so yeah some sort of home would be the answer. Although I'd visit regularly, they would be my sibling, after all.
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#8 uncledeath2005
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I'd probably be unable to manage, so yeah some sort of home would be the answer. Although I'd visit regularly, they would be my sibling, after all.Bourbons3

What he said

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#9 lcman92
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God... That's a tough situation... I guess I'd leave it to the pros, but part of me would feel terrible.
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#11 JustPlainLucas
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It would have to depend on what stage of my life I'm in when they pass away. I mean, if I'm in the middle of building a company and running a household with children of my own... not to be cruel or anything, but I wouldn't have the time or emotional energy to do it. If I was able to do, I'd definately do it, though.
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#12 204259106jk
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I would look after him for some time, but then I wouldn't be able to manage financially on my own so I'd have no choice but to put him in a nursing home.

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#13 LouieV13
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Hell no my sister is bad enough she kept stealing my psu when I was building my computer last week... I cant wait to move out!
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#15 LouieV13
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Throw that beast in ahome...Ale_22
Wow thats a realy mean way to put it...
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#16 lcman92
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[QUOTE="Ale_22"]Throw that beast in ahome...LouieV13
Wow thats a realy mean way to put it...

Daaaaaaaaaaaaaamn.... That's messed up...

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#17 Mrnebbie
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Some people just dont have the resources that are required to take care of special needs people. My mother works in a group home for the mentally handicapped and most of the people she helps just need help with their banking and nutrition needs. Their families are active in their daily life but just dont have the means to take care of the people they love. Its a tough choice to be made either way though.
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#18 Mrnebbie
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Throw that beast in ahome...Ale_22

Take your ignorance elsewhere.

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#19 2good2betrue
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It just depends how bad their condition is, if it is pretty bad though, i would put em in a home, but try to visit everyday
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#20 needled24-7
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It depends on how retarded he is. My mom's brother was mentally retarded, to a point where he couldn't do anything himself. He had to wear diapers, he had to be fed by someone else, and he couldn't hold things right. If he was like that, unless I had help from somebody else, I'd probably put him in a home where he could get better care, but I'd still visit him a lot.

My dad's brother, he's not really retarded, but you can tell there's something wrong with him. I think he got really sick when he was a kid and didn't make a full recovery, I dunno. But if he was like my uncle, then I would let him live with me. My uncle lives with my aunt now, and she has to drive him everywhere because he can't drive, but she doesn't have to worry about him as much.

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#21 MattUD1
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I'd have to. She can't live on her own.
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#22 HandheldJunkie
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It'sa bad situation to be left with someone who is mentally inccapable to take care of themselves and usually require constant attention all time. This can be a big strain on someone and their life. My advice is do the decent thing and put the person in a nursing home where they can be looked after properly and will be in safe grounds aswell.
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#23 CHAOSWEAV3R
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It would be easier to put him in a nursing home.
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#24 rudyroundhead
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Depends on if they were functional or not. If I had the ability to take care of them I would try but if by doing so I diminished their quality of life I would put them somewhere that they coudl be taken care of and visit them often.
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#25 deactivated-5de2fb6a3a711
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I have a younger one and I'd take care of him. it would be hard work, but then again I have a few relatives who wouldn't mind.

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#26 jrhawk42
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depends on how he is. I'd feel bad if he got hurt cause I wasn't watching him, and watching him 24/7 might be a bit too much for me.

There's also the idea of how easy it is to get along with my brother. Just like everybody else some handicap people are easy to get along with and take "orders" really well, and others are really stubborn and fight you every step of the way. I really couldn't handle taking care of such a stubborn person all the time, and though I may love him, it would be the best for me to put him in a home.

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#27 trophylocoste
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I proably wouldnt be able to give him his time or take care of him so if im not helping him/her I might as well put the sibiling in a nursing home
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#28 Def_Jef88
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A home would probably be able to take better care of him than I could. And besides, I have my own life to live too, I cant be bogged down by others that I dont have the time or money to take care of.
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#29 SlickAndJick
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Nursing home.SpiritEmu

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#30 Proobie44
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Take care of him/her. I don't mind having my life be like "Rain Man"............yeah...........k-mart.