I'm distraught over my girlfriend

Ok, the story is she went on holiday in early august (not with me). She told me, a guy tried to kiss her but she backed away, she was with her cousins and family, she hung out with this guy for two weeks, they were just friends. I've questioned her several times if anything else happened and she said no, repeatidly!!! She told him she had a boyfriend (on bebo we're "engaged" but not in reality, we're together nearly eleven months and i truly do love her).

Anyway the two of them kept in communication after the holiday, he's from another country so email is the only way they can communicate. She told me her password for her acount and i decided to check her email tonight! She has 7 emails from him in her inbox, i didn't realise they talked so much. She has sent him ten, the last email he sent was on the 29th of august and the last msg she sent was on the 10th of september!

The emails contain many suspicious kisses and i miss yous and love yous. Now she didn't say "I love you" so i'm not sure what to think!! She has called him hunny and he has reffered to her as trouble. The only reference to my existance was in an email he wrote "ok ok i miss u alot! shame u had a fiance though haha!" That was one of the first emails he sent her. what does "haha" mean???

I'm generally a naturally paranoid guy and she knows that because she is beautiful and a few guys hit on her, but this is a little too friendly right??? She does leave kisses in her texts and such so thats not that big of a deal. Its 4 in the morning here and shes not up for another two hours! I need help, i do love her, but i couldn't forgive her for cheating on me. Opinions please!!!

I think that's the first time I've seen the word distraught on OT.shaza91

Yeah. And it was the guys first post.

On topic. He is in another country so it could never work out between them anyway. It seems like a lot of emails but I don't think you have much to worry about.

Yeah. And it was the guys first post.

spyke412

Ever hear anything about alternate accounts?...

You made this account so you could ask for relationship advice on a video game website off topic forum?megagene

He must have seen that one add about OT and the Relationship Advice.

'haha' is a slang representation of glee or joy, physically manifested in the form of laughing.

Considering the last email was sent in September I wouldn't worry too much unless she is using another email account now. Has her attitude or the way she is with you changed? Its really hard for a person to be emotionally involved in 2 relationships so if she seems very withdrawn then maybe you can worry because she is emotionally involved with the other guy.

For now trust her, unless hard evidence appears suggesting she is cheating.

Whew, that sounds bad. Reminds me of an old college roommate of mine. His girl cheated on him, slept with another dude, and he never had a clue. Don't be that dude. If she's actually your fiance I would consider that kind of behavior unacceptable. Confront her about it and beware of lies!

tht sucks

fiance and already she is to be doubted?

leave.

fiance and already she is to be doubted?

leave.

rowzzr

They're not really engaged.

Ok, the story is she went on holiday in early august (not with me). She told me, a guy tried to kiss her but she backed away, she was with her cousins and family, she hung out with this guy for two weeks, they were just friends. I've questioned her several times if anything else happened and she said no, repeatidly!!! She told him she had a boyfriend (on bebo we're "engaged" but not in reality, we're together nearly eleven months and i truly do love her).

Anyway the two of them kept in communication after the holiday, he's from another country so email is the only way they can communicate. She told me her password for her acount and i decided to check her email tonight! She has 7 emails from him in her inbox, i didn't realise they talked so much. She has sent him ten, the last email he sent was on the 29th of august and the last msg she sent was on the 10th of september!

The emails contain many suspicious kisses and i miss yous and love yous. Now she didn't say "I love you" so i'm not sure what to think!! She has called him hunny and he has reffered to her as trouble. The only reference to my existance was in an email he wrote "ok ok i miss u alot! shame u had a fiance though haha!" That was one of the first emails he sent her. what does "haha" mean???

I'm generally a naturally paranoid guy and she knows that because she is beautiful and a few guys hit on her, but this is a little too friendly right??? She does leave kisses in her texts and such so thats not that big of a deal. Its 4 in the morning here and shes not up for another two hours! I need help, i do love her, but i couldn't forgive her for cheating on me. Opinions please!!!

thisnameisgreat

She last contacted him in September. If she was still interested in him, she would have sent him email recently.

She hasn't, so she's chosen you. She maybe had a bit of a flirt-a-thon with some dude, but that's all it seemed to be.

Don't worry about it. You're being waaay too paranoid.

You made this account so you could ask for relationship advice on a video game website off topic forum?megagene

i know exactly what you are going through. however, the fact is that it was in september. sure she's a slut, but perhaps you need to find a way to communicate with her to find out where her commitment stands. either, he backed down and she actually is a bona fide slut, or she came to a realization of her love towards you. if she's illigitamate, she will show it by not looking you in the eyes or defending her actions. to realize your love for someone after instilling such torturous hurt is going to require her to be upfront with you knowing that you are fully aware of what has transpired. to defend herself will be an insult to the honesty needed in building a strong, faithful relationship.

figure it out dude. if you love her, then i hope she will be ligit and honest with you. if she is, be understanding and express to her that you need her to demonstrate her commitment with a little reassurance.

if she's going to disrespect you, though, curbstomp her, man... you don't need to put up with it.

Gee, man. I'm a bit sad over my girlfriend, too. Anyways, I suggest you confront her with yuor infromation, and just talk to her about it. Don't accuse her, just talk about it. 11 months is a long time to go to waste.

Dude, even when Im dating a girl I tell my friends I love them and I call the girls hunni and such. And you shouldnt of even went through her email, thats just pathetic. Relax

Or call Cheaters