Interracial Dating

Have you ever dated outside your race? Does race matter to you at all when dating?

Never been an issue from my side, though my prom date in high school, she had to tell her parents she was going to the opera with another of her girlfriends because her parents wouldn't have been okay with her going out on a date let alone one with someone who wasn't Japanese.

@angelcrr: I really need to get my terms straight. I first interpreted the question as "have you ever dated outside your species". Now that that's outta my mind:

Never have, but I totally would if I were attracted to the girl in question (or guy in question? Never say never I guess...). I've seen plenty of women from different ethnicities that I would totally date, though being where I live what it is, they've mostly been latin americans, and I'm not really all that surrounded by them (not in my class, not where I at my gym, nor my groups of friends from around here).

I did once have a chinese TA for one of my macro courses who I found extremely cute too.

@ianhh6: I am happy to hear that, it's always nice when we see the 'person' that's what matters. And by the way, your opening was hilarious lol.

Date as in going out with some with romantic intentions? No.

Date as in going out with someone for the sake of going out with someone? Yes.

And no, race does not make a difference to me. It did when I was young, but not anymore.

@angelcrr: Hilarious for you maybe, at first I was appalled :P

@korvus: I am a tad curious as to what made you change your point of view?

@angelcrr: Being exposed to people from other races, ideologies, cultures, etc. My parents are racist and homophobic and that's how they raised me. Until I could experience for myself that their prejudice was not warranted I just assumed they were right.

@korvus: Wow, I am happy to see you have come so far, I applaud you. :)

@angelcrr: Not as happy as I am ;-) Living afraid of people because of their skin colour or the way they look is a terrible way to live. And thank you for your kind words =D

I've never dated anyone of my own race. Only had two girlfriends though, and married the second one :)

@judaspete: ha ha that's adorable

I think it's sweet =P Then again, while I went out with quite a few girls I was ever only interested in one.

I grew up in a small town with very little experience to other cultures or races so never had to really think about it. When I went to college it was a whole new world out there and never once did I consider it taboo to think about someone of another race in terms of dating. Having said that though, I haven't but not because I'm against it.

had this thing back in high school...I don't experience any of these. race isn't the matter,it's what people's thinking pattern that matters the most,people these days are just playing "lab rats",they date the girls of their dreams,but ended in a shameful direction,shouldn't be a surprise to me,as I live among those jerks*,romance last long without doing a small talk and do big, sure,but what's the background of the girl,was she a wealthy? not so..was she a smartie? kinda..was she popular at school? yes,but not in my liking(I don't like people who became popular by aesthetic reasons)...just make it honest,romance is business too,even if I want to snag one,I don't like other childish "men" stalking me..otherwise I'd punch the hell out of them.

*= I wanted to be different,but I don't want people to know how,as I'm the stereotype breaker of the place

What's a date?

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As long as I found the woman attractive and she gave me a boner, I didn't care what race she was.

@gamerguru100 said:

What's a date?

fixed and..

I've been in a much lonelier days(I like it this way though)

Well I'm black, I have dated other girls outside race. I dated an Indian girl in the past and my baby mama is Asian-American when her parents migrant from China. That said, I grew up with different races but when I was a kid, it kinda bother me when I see a couple dating outside there race but when I got older, I relies we are all Humans so color doesn't matter to me.

@Smashbrossive50 said:

@gamerguru100 said:

What's a date?

fixed and..

I've been in a much lonelier days(I like it this way though)

:)

@thegerg: shallow or deep,if the girl I looked for is too good aesthetically,chances are other men would cheat,that's why I prefer people who thinks deep and work as planned,I don't want trouble just because she's popular and I'm not...people these days just want to persecute the weak by vision,but they underestimate the mission of the weak,social injustice happened at school too,and I tried to work a deal with the higher ups to control these social "criminals",but to no avail,it won't work,so I became angry everyday and a loner forever,I would be like this forever since the outrage began.

Never dated outside of my race, I wouldn't say no to it, but some races are less likely than others.

So, yeah, it matters, but it's not a deal breaker.

Due to what? Attractiveness?

I don't know why but I've only dated white girls. Race doesn't really matter as long as she's smart and sexy.

@korvus:

Yes, attractiveness, it's not like races share personalities.

@megane: I agree but sadly not everybody does.

I've always dated outside my race.

Yes and yes.

I'm pretty sure many of those who say race doesn't matter.....just say race doesn't matter. You know, easier said that done.

@elkoldo: I don't think so,actions speak louder than words alone.if you don't do something about it, you shouldn't have said it,just watch how the suffering works in you when a woman walked past you with a man you recognized and don't like(it's not a celebrity,mind you),now that's where you think of a plan to steal her attention to you

I think more to achieve the fullest,the more I said it,the more I will not do it

Yes. No. However, in my case it's a bit easier. I'm a product of interracial dating (and subsequent marriage) so the concept of "my race" is a bit fuzzy already. I would date any race but there are definitely physical characteristics that I'm more or less attracted to. I was dating a Viet girl who was pretty cool in a lot of ways, but after things got physical I realized that her dark skin was about the same color as my mom's and that was the end of that relationship (ack!). While I'm not very dark, I do tend to lean towards traits that are opposite my own (which makes sense anthropologically, since as a species there are many ways in which we are pre-programmed to promote genetic diversity).

@korvus: With a black mom and a white dad who had me in the 70s, my parents obviously were pretty open and taught me to be accepting of all cultures, races, orientations, etc. I would really like to think that if my parents were racist homophobes that I have the intelligence, empathy, and compassion to realize what a load of horseshit that is but to be perfectly honest I'll never know that for sure. You got to discover that you had the character to draw those conclusions on your own. While I don't envy your upbringing, I do envy you for that.

-Byshop

@Byshop: Yeah, I see what you mean. It's complicated though; while I would absolutely hate to be to my son the sort of parent mine were to me, if I had a choice on who to have as parents I would still choose them. Seeing them trip and fall throughout their entire lives, seeing the misery they caused to others and themselves wherever they went, seeing how self-imposed limitations of thinking hindered them and how after over 60 years they were so much less than they could be...all of this gave me invaluable insight to the kind of person I definitely did not want to become...all of their teachings were good examples, although they were good examples of what not to do.

I dated two white girls. It wasnt anything out of the ordinary than what i was expecting.

The white girls are fine, everything for the most part feels the same. Sex and all is pretty much the same. There are some minor differences about each race details, but nothing thats a big deal.

The only problem I had was that those white girls had semi-racist parents. But thats sort of expected and some what understandable.

Race doesnt matter to me, but Im not exactly attracted to black women tho. Its simply a preference thing, there are always exceptions.

Skin color and a person's culture is very much a factor to lot of people out there but if i were to settle, i'd go for what someone stated earlier- the person's thinking patterns. So Yes! i 'd date anyone based on the latter since i feel that's the most important thing

Agreed. I notice that everyone has a different perspective on racism. I've been attracted to wide range of women. I never understood the idea of skin color being the ultimate decision for choosing a mate until I met a friend who preferred dating interracially but just with Asian women. I know we tend to look at people oddly these days who just prefer dating within their own race, especially if you live in a place that's diverse. Is it being prejudice? Maybe. Is it racism? I'm not entirely sure. It might not be either, but it be a decision based-off attraction.

It isn't just racism, but its a combination of a couple of things like classism. I've experienced both. I use to date a girl who's mom absolutely hated me because I'm a Black American. It was so bad that they use to get in physical altercations. I've date woman who told me I had everything she liked in a man except for a college degree, and that's what broke the camel's back. Funny. Three years later I finished my degree in mechanical engineering. After seeing that I wasn't working in retail anymore, she tried to hit me up. No thanks.

People are just shallow, let alone don't have any type of compassion for others sometimes. And then there's the excuses. What will your family and friends think, or how will people treat your biracial offspring? You might as well say I'm not a strong enough person to deal with it.

I use to hate sushi for so long before actually trying it. To have a preconceived opinion not based off fact or actual experience is horrible. The experience was mostly bad after tasting it... lol

Off the record bud, she broke up with you and three years later she asked you for money? WTF ?

I have not tried dating anyone not human, no.

Even thegerg avoided posting that, so shame on you =P

Dated: no

Smashed: yes.

Colour doesn't matter to me. People are people, women are women.

It's obligatory in a thread like this.I understand it's semantics, but I like to distinguish between "race" and "ethnicity". Not only does "interracial" sound like a term from the 1950's, it makes the whole deal sound like dating/romance/etc is nothing more than skin deep.

@foxhound_fox: Yes, race and ethnicity are still different things but the current meaning of race is different from the one you are using =) If you google race vs ethnicity you'll see plenty of articles about this.

I wish she did, because I would have said no. But she and her friends come from old money. We're not meant to be together.

Three years later I'm working in aviation as a manufacturing engineer and my co-worker/friend tells me he wants to go on a double date. Why not! Well, the he was dating my ex-girlfriend and I did not know that. What a surprise. However, I manage to bring a woman who was not only better looking, but also down-to-earth. Apparently her last boyfriend(me) was a nobody; that's what she told him. They would eventually break up 3 weeks later. And guess who hits me up wanting to spend time together?

im white and i like asian some people say its because i watch anime for some reason

No, I never dated people from other "race" , where I live there aren't many people from other races, we are mostly Hispanic, just with different skin color ( morenos and gueros ).

No, I haven't dated outside my race, but I will soon. ;) Currently in a long distance relationship; she lives in Veitnam. I've been helping her with her English close to a year now but it didn't take us long to be more than just friends. I will fly out to Vietnam in July so we can meet for the first time. :3

@ssvegeta555: That's wonderful, I wish you both all the best :)

Yes I have. I think ppl make far too much of a deal about race. Pride in your race is just such a stupid concept to me.