is 17 too young to decide if you want to become engaged to someone?

One of my friends, who is 17, just decided she wanted to marry her bf (who is 21 btw). Do you think this is too young? I do. I mean, not because the guy is a total jerk who breaks her heart and treats her like crap all the time, but because she is just flat out too young and she needs to mature more before making this kinda decision. Whats your opinion? What age is the right age to make this kind of decision?

I would say so, yes, just because of how small the chances are of this ending happily, but I'm sure the naivity in your friend will make her say the chances are worth it lol.

Its out of our hands to say so, but if her parents are all right with it, then she's free I guess.But personally, I would say graduate high school first, find a job and work for a few months so that you can at least help pay for the wedding.

I wanted to marry her when i was 16... its never to late or to early when you are in love :3Solid_Tango

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]I wanted to marry her when i was 16... its never to late or to early when you are in love :3Darthkaiser

and if her boyfriend is being a dickhead to her, then I would say he needs to go becasue of his treatment of her.

[QUOTE="Darthkaiser"][QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]I wanted to marry her when i was 16... its never to late or to early when you are in love :3Solid_Tango

people used to get married at 14, sure it was arranged but thats another story...

If "love" is there, then go for it... who are we to judge someone else's happiness?

THere' no point in getting married unless you're going to start a family.

Starting a family is only feasible once you're financially stable.

Unless they're rich. Don't make babies yet.

THere' no point in getting married unless you're going to start a family.

Starting a family is only feasible once you're financially stable.

Unless they're rich. Don't make babies yet.

FeedOnATreeFrog

People that get married aren't forced to have kids you know...

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"][QUOTE="Darthkaiser"] Yeah we all know that feeling of love and young marriage. And well....did you? Darthkaiser

I can understand if someone says they want to marry someone in the future when they are 17, but actually going through with an engagement is just not very smart in my mind.

I honestly can't even begin to imagine why anyone would even WANT to be married at 18. You don't even get a taste of your adult life without being legally tied down. I say this as someone who wants to just find one girl and begin a lifelong relationship with her. I only desire a long-term relationship but at the same time I have NO DESIRE to get married anytime soon, and I am 22.

And Xile, I definitely think that is a big part of the thing there in regards to women being with older men, especially at that age. I already got to witness my friend at 22 start dating an 18 year old girl who almost immediately moved in with us (was his roomate at the time) and used him as a means to escape home. They got engaged like freaking 6 months or something into the relationship and then it fell apart after she cheated on him...

I would also say that I just think in general, women want the older, more experienced man for a provider and a protector and us guys seem to prefer girls who are younger than us, probably do to looks...

17 years old huh? That is a bloody young age to even consider marriage. There can be a frakkton more room made for experience and wisdom at that age that i say would disqualify her from being able to make a judgement on a marriage decision. What I recommend is that they just stay together, let things proceed as normal and let them grow up and then maybe* let her consider her decision of marriage. This could after all, be just a phase.

17 years old huh? That is a bloody young age to even consider marriage. There can be a frakkton more room made for experience and wisdom at that age that i say would disqualify her from being able to make a judgement on a marriage decision. What I recommend is that they just stay together, let things proceed as normal and let them grow up and then maybe* let her consider her decision of marriage. This could after all, be just a phase.

doanm

Yes I would think so, people change a lot after their high school years. She should wait a while, if they are really in love then they can wait for marriage but meh who am I to lecture on marriages?

Yeah, I think it's too young to make the commitment. My girlfriend wanted to get engaged to me when she was 18... she's 21 on Monday and is still waiting :P. We'll get there eventually :oops:

Yes, as they're both within the age where not only can they experience some major change within themselves, but also their surrounding circumstances. Especially since she's just a kid and he can probably barely be considered an adult.

Edit: Sorry, damn typos :roll:

I would say that is to early. horgen123

17 is too young to make any decision .that guy is also being premature if he's agreed witht the girl.

All I know is, my wife and I were 18 and 19 respectively when we got married...... and so far, after 15 years we're still going strong. So I'd say no, 17 isn't necessarily "too young." But I would urge you to put a LOT of thought into it first.

IMO, waaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy to young... to do much of anything...

But its your life, not mine...

Yes I think 21 is too young to decide to get married let alone 17.

yes, that's way too young imo.

Age isn't the indicator, it's maturity. It just so happens that most high schoolers (and many college students) aren't that mature. If both of them have a steady job and have already proven they can be self-sufficient and responsible, I don't see a problem.

Age isn't the indicator, it's maturity. It just so happens that most high schoolers (and many college students) aren't that mature. If both of them have a steady job and have already proven they can be self-sufficient and responsible, I don't see a problem.

nintendofreak_2

yes, but it depends on the person really. For most people though the answer is yes that is definitely too young.

There's a huge difference between talking about it and actually doing it. I had serious relationships in high school and we talked about one day getting married, having a house, moving across the country, etc, because it was a fun fantasy to have.

But when one of them actually popped out a ring when I was only 18 (which only happened because some of his friends eloped) I immediately knew it was a terrible decision.

Unless she's reading wedding magazines and apartment shopping, I'd let them keep dreaming.

No....personally I find one of the major components of divorce is that people don;t grow with each other....they wait until they are "ready" or completely established..by then you aren't as flexible any longer....you're stubborn and not willing to work with others........do I think everyone should get hitched at 17 or 18?...no...but it's no worse then what people are doing now...Omni-Slash

too young

theres a chance it would turn out ok, but most likely it will end in divorce or at a minimum years of misery