Maybe not in that situation, but dont tell me you guys have never known somone who compltely changes when drunk. I know i can sometimes and i have a friend who is a very mean drunk but nothing like that normally and I dont judge her for what she does in that situation.
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It's kind of you to not judge her, but unfortunately she needs to realize something. If she is a mean drunk, there is a simple solution: stop drinking. And changing when you're drunk is not an excuse to keep drinking. If you change into a "cooler" person, it looks like you just need to talk to someone about your confidence level. I'm not saying this is true for you, but in general many people feel more confident when they are drunk, and it makes it easier to talk to people.
Like for example, my friend couldn't talk to guys. So one night a mutual friend gave her a beer and said, "relax, now go talk to him". She wasn't drunk at all. But just the idea that a beer helped her talk to a guy started a fire. From then on it went from two beers, to three beers, to a six pack and so forth. She is an extreme situation I will admit, but it has to start somewhere.
Back on topic. I do not think being drunk is ever an excuse for anything, because honestly, you didn't have to get drunk in the first place. But, I will say that not driving when drunk is an excellent idea. I wouldn't call it an excuse, just a responsible choice. However, I think some people (mainly girls), and I have fallen into this trap before, need to think seriously about a guy that would use being drunk as his excuse for cheating on you. In my experience, every guy that has ever said that to me has been cheating sober as well. It's an excuse to put you at ease, and make you think he's still there for you, but really it's just his way of saying "yeah I was drunk that one time, but not the other four times this week". It's a very hard situation because you're never sure if the guy is sorry or not.
Oh, and don't get me wrong. This can easily go the oppoiste way, and frequently does. A girl can use the exact same excuse on a guy, especially if the guy is vulnerable or "whipped". It's a sad thing really.
My pet peeve though is when a girl says "well he was drunk, he didn't really think she was hot. she was probably ugly, and I know he regrets it". I never know what to say to that except "sorry honey, that's a bunch of bull ****".
Oh well. As for religion, it doesn't matter what any book says, it's societies rules that really reflect accuratly why some people would use drunk as an excuse in the first place. It's great if some people use faith or whatever to keep them on the moral road, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, it's what society says is ok. Thank god drunk is one of the worst. It will be a sad day when society accepts all of the worlds "flaws" shall we say.
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