Is Flirting Cheating?

Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

If you have to hide it, it's probably the wrong thing to do. mrmusicman247

good point

Well if your married then yes, I would consider it a form of cheating. You may not be doing anything but you are still sort of "teasing" sexual energy between yourself and this women, who you should be doing it solely with your wife instead.

But I'm not judging you, infact I admire you in a way. You see I'm not married but I have a girlfriend and I live with her, but when I flirt with other women it always leads to...well you know... and then I feel guilty afterwards and I have to lie about it to my GF and the other women is usually hurt emotionally by me andthen I don't like myself. I wish I wasn't like this but I went to see a psychiatrist about this and she made me realise that because my father was like this I sort of "learned" or mimiked him since we learn about things from our parents.

I'm doing much better now though and I haven't cheated on my GF in months! I'm very happy.

Ask your wife. See if she thinks it's cheating. If you show initiative by confiding in her, it'd certainly look better than if you were found out some way.

If it extends beyond the "look but do not touch" saying, then it probably is wrong unless your wife knows her and is fine with it. I seriously doubt your wife knows though from the sounds of things. Don't do it anymore.:x

Flirting is a way of blowing off steam. Also, cheating is something taken too seriously. I don't value one person enough to turn down a golden opportunity with someone else.

Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

todd2r

I might not be so experienced with this kind of thing, but generally if you are going to other women for something your wife cannot (and should be) provide then it is somewhat a concern.

I gotta say, flirting is quite dangerous. You can "flirt" with a girl in the same way you joke around with your male friends, but the intent and feeling you get back from flirting with a female is going to be quite different. It's sort of like two dogs sniffing each other out, take an eye off them and the next thing you know they're going at it and you gotta get the hose to get them apart and oh god there's a horrible mess to clean up.

As someone else said, I guess ask your wife, or talk to her about wanting to feel good about yourself. Your wife should be there to help out. Likewise, ask yourself if you'd be okay if she was flirting with males and sniffing them out. It really comes down to the couple as to whether or not it's (deceitful) cheating. Even if it's not, she might not be okay with it which means there's some responsibility on her to make sure you don't go wandering, as well as your own conviction to stay honest to her.

Edit: I might just note that a lot of people see flirting as "just being friendly" but the other party might not see it that way. I know I've mistaked "being friendly" for flirting, and at times even for feelings, and on their behalf all tey've been doing in enjoying my company and being friendly. Nothing more. So as I said above, try and clarify with the others invovled exactly what's going on and what's okay.

If it isn't, then it's pretty damn close. You're leading the girl who isn't your wife on.

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Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

DigitalExile

I might not be so experienced with this kind of thing, but generally if you are going to other women for something your wife cannot (and should be) provide then it is somewhat a concern.

I gotta say, flirting is quite dangerous. You can "flirt" with a girl in the same way you joke around with your male friends, but the intent and feeling you get back from flirting with a female is going to be quite different. It's sort of like two dogs sniffing each other out, take an eye off them and the next thing you know they're going at it and you gotta get the hose to get them apart and oh god there's a horrible mess to clean up.

As someone else said, I guess ask your wife, or talk to her about wanting to feel good about yourself. Your wife should be there to help out. Likewise, ask yourself if you'd be okay if she was flirting with males and sniffing them out. It really comes down to the couple as to whether or not it's (deceitful) cheating. Even if it's not, she might not be okay with it which means there's some responsibility on her to make sure you don't go wandering, as well as your own conviction to stay honest to her.

Edit: I might just note that a lot of people see flirting as "just being friendly" but the other party might not see it that way. I know I've mistaked "being friendly" for flirting, and at times even for feelings, and on their behalf all tey've been doing in enjoying my company and being friendly. Nothing more. So as I said above, try and clarify with the others invovled exactly what's going on and what's okay.

i might try the sniffing thing next

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Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

todd2r

I might not be so experienced with this kind of thing, but generally if you are going to other women for something your wife cannot (and should be) provide then it is somewhat a concern.

I gotta say, flirting is quite dangerous. You can "flirt" with a girl in the same way you joke around with your male friends, but the intent and feeling you get back from flirting with a female is going to be quite different. It's sort of like two dogs sniffing each other out, take an eye off them and the next thing you know they're going at it and you gotta get the hose to get them apart and oh god there's a horrible mess to clean up.

As someone else said, I guess ask your wife, or talk to her about wanting to feel good about yourself. Your wife should be there to help out. Likewise, ask yourself if you'd be okay if she was flirting with males and sniffing them out. It really comes down to the couple as to whether or not it's (deceitful) cheating. Even if it's not, she might not be okay with it which means there's some responsibility on her to make sure you don't go wandering, as well as your own conviction to stay honest to her.

Edit: I might just note that a lot of people see flirting as "just being friendly" but the other party might not see it that way. I know I've mistaked "being friendly" for flirting, and at times even for feelings, and on their behalf all tey've been doing in enjoying my company and being friendly. Nothing more. So as I said above, try and clarify with the others invovled exactly what's going on and what's okay.

i might try the sniffing thing next

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[QUOTE="DigitalExile"]

I might not be so experienced with this kind of thing, but generally if you are going to other women for something your wife cannot (and should be) provide then it is somewhat a concern.

I gotta say, flirting is quite dangerous. You can "flirt" with a girl in the same way you joke around with your male friends, but the intent and feeling you get back from flirting with a female is going to be quite different. It's sort of like two dogs sniffing each other out, take an eye off them and the next thing you know they're going at it and you gotta get the hose to get them apart and oh god there's a horrible mess to clean up.

As someone else said, I guess ask your wife, or talk to her about wanting to feel good about yourself. Your wife should be there to help out. Likewise, ask yourself if you'd be okay if she was flirting with males and sniffing them out. It really comes down to the couple as to whether or not it's (deceitful) cheating. Even if it's not, she might not be okay with it which means there's some responsibility on her to make sure you don't go wandering, as well as your own conviction to stay honest to her.

Edit: I might just note that a lot of people see flirting as "just being friendly" but the other party might not see it that way. I know I've mistaked "being friendly" for flirting, and at times even for feelings, and on their behalf all tey've been doing in enjoying my company and being friendly. Nothing more. So as I said above, try and clarify with the others invovled exactly what's going on and what's okay.

DigitalExile

i might try the sniffing thing next

lol

Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

todd2r

Flirting is not the same as cheating by any means, but if your wife wouldn't like it, you probably shouldn't do it out of respect for her.

well that depends.....do you still flirt with your wife?

It's not cheating, but it's a really **** thing to do. Wouldn't your wife be upset if she found out?

Why don't you ask your wife?

I don't think flirting in itself is cheating, unless you are emotionally involved with this woman. But even though it might not be "cheating", it's probably not okay with your wife.

there is flirting...then there is ..FLIRTING..some slight joking around,some off color humor,a nice complement?..OK..BUT...touching too much, going to eat lunch or whatever,suggestive talk,sexual playing...that is right on the line of cheating and not acceptable.

No, but it's still shady.

Well, I'm 18 years old so my advice is pretty much the furthest thing from an expert opinion, but I know that when I was in a relationship sometimes I couldn't help myself from thinking about or flirting with other girls, but I always felt bad about it afterwards. If you don't feel bad about it then I don't see what harm is coming of it, though.

Would you like your wife flirting with men at her work that you didn't know? The answer to that, answers your question.

Making harmless flirtatious comments to random women every once in a while is one thing, but constantly flirting with someone you refer to as a "beautiful woman" and see nearly every single day at work is iffy. I just think it could potentially lead to problems down the road, and is a situation you should probably avoid.

Im happily married with a daughter. Married 7 years, but I work with some beautiful women. There is one that I constantly flirt with and she flirts back. I would never do anything with her but is it wrong to flirt? I do it cause i get off on it. It makes me feel good about myself. Is that so wrong?

todd2r

Depends on if you ever (implicitly or explicitly) gave your wife the impression that you wouldn't flirt with anyone but her.

I mean, even intercourse with a non-spouse wouldn't be "cheating" if it's clearly established that you and the wife are both okay with it.

Flirting is a way of blowing off steam. Also, cheating is something taken too seriously. I don't value one person enough to turn down a golden opportunity with someone else.

Rhazakna

No.

It's not cheating but I think you should ask your wife if she thinks it's ok.fabz_95

Ask your wife if she thinks it's ok?!? Add that to the list of things never to do if you don't want to get murdered by your wife. Now then, you have to keep an eye on that woman you are flirting with because it has been proven time and time again that women are far more attracted to men in relationships then men who aren't and that can lead to a simple action or word resulting in getting stabbed, a divorce, and finally child support. However, another important thing is what you are saying. So what were you saying?

[QUOTE="fabz_95"]It's not cheating but I think you should ask your wife if she thinks it's ok.Vangaurdius

Ask your wife if she thinks it's ok?!? Add that to the list of things never to do if you don't want to get murdered by your wife. Now then, you have to keep an eye on that woman you are flirting with because it has been proven time and time again that women are far more attracted to men in relationships then men who aren't and that can lead to a simple action or word resulting in getting stabbed, a divorce, and finally child support. However, another important thing is what you are saying. So what were you saying?

Im happily married to my daughter.

todd2r

my advice tell her you don't like it

Simple answer :

Flirting is a defination of a loose character , they can cheat anytime . Those who have personality and character , you never see them flirting around .

I wouldnt say it's cheating but it's not nice either, considering the relationship is monogamous of course.

If you have to ask, yes, it is wrong. XilePrincess

Simple... If your wife thinks it's wrong, it's wrong.
I hate "perception is reality", but in this case it's true.
When it comes down to it, only her opinion matters.