Is it possible to have a relationship with someone through the internet?

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#1 thelastguy
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So one of my good friends was in a multiplayer game, and all of a sudden this girl starts talking. After he leaves the match, she adds him and keeps talking to him. He is pretty sharp so he did not believe she was a girl. She sent him pics with his username on a piece of paper in her hand.

So they keep talking for a couple of days and now they are "virtually kissing each other goodnight." He always comes to me for advice and I did not now what to say when he told me this. Is it possible to have a serious relationship with someone you have never even come in contact to in real life? This just seems a little weird to me, what do you guys think?

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#2 xid32
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No it is not. You get nothing out of it, no connection except for a little animated heart every now and then in an MSN chat window. Even if you met before and she moved, its not worth it at ALL.

EDIT: In other words --- if you have an online relationship that means you cant get a girl in RL.

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#3 EmpCom
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It is weird you should have nothing more to do with this sad act
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#4 69ANT69
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It is possible, but very difficult.
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#5 kayn83
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Well, you can have a pretend relationship I guess but I don't think you can have a real legitimate relationship. Real relationships require a little more than MSN convos.
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#6 GodLovesDead
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It's possible to have a relationship. A meaningless one. And it's weird. Borderline creepy.
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#7 dracula_16
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It's possible but it's very difficult. The distance has a big chance of killing the relationship.
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#8 GamerBoy53
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No. Unless they ever plan on meeting in person. Otherwise it's virtually impossible. It may SEEM like it work's but it doesn't.
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#9 deactivated-5a79221380856
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So they keep talking for a couple of days and now they are "virtually kissing each other goodnight."

:lol: I found that comment funny.

As for dating from the Internet, two of my friends found each other through MySpace and they pretty happy with each other. I can't say it works for everyone. Lately, I've been considering it but I think I would have to lower my morale to do such a thing.

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#10 duxup
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Well it is a sort of relationship, but nothing like an in person relationship.
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#11 black_cat19
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I think he's just fooling himself, a "good" friendship is the best you can get through the internet, and I think that's stretching it...

Now, let me clarify, if they had met and fallen in love with each other in real life and then were forced to separate and were using the internet to keep it going, or any similar scenario where they have actually met each other in real life, then I'd say yes, it's really, really hard, but it's possible, but in this case I'll stick to my previous statement.

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#12 TBoogy
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I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.
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#13 TBoogy
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I should add i can and do date locally. i am no social outcast. i just like foreign women, and she is freaking gorgeous! It can work for your friend if they are mature and honest with each other about what they each are looking for.
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#14 omfg_its_dally
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Possible? Yes. Practical? Not in most cases.
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I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.TBoogy

I actually cringed at that, you're planning to marry someone you've never met in person before after just 9-10 months of actual physical contact? :? (And that is assuming I got the visiting part right, and she'll stay with you all that time until you get married in september...)

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#16 1mpaler-w6rbnd
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Sure. But it can't lead to anything serious.
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#17 soulless4now
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Well anything is possible.
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#18 ChiefvsGordon
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sure it is possible. but i would never do, i would need to physically touch her or see her not like through a computer screen.
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#19 OfficialJab
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No. Even though the emotional connection is the more important part in a relationship, there needs to be a physical/personal connection too. You may hear all the "it's what's inside that counts" and that's true, but you do need both parts of the relationship.
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#20 danjammer69
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It should make sex rather easy since the internet is just a Series of Tubes.

Seriously though, NO!!!

There is no substitute for holding a beautiful woman in your arms.

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#21 Sajedene
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Its possible to meet someone online but I personally believe it is impossible to carry a legitimate relationship purely on the internet.
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#22 Lord_Daemon
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Its possible to meet someone online but I personally believe it is impossible to carry a legitimate relationship purely on the internet.Sajedene

Pretty much this. Although fairly unlikely, it is possible to start a relationship online and have it become a real relationship as long as you make some actual physical contact with the other person provided not too much time has passed. I have several friends who have long been married and had kids and they met their future wives on the internet (although a couple met on the old BBS chat boards).

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#23 MistressMinako
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Yes, it is possible. I do know quite a few people who have been married for years and they met online. It's risky, but yet, it's possible.
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#24 JustPlainLucas
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It's about as possible as winning the lottery.
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#25 TBoogy
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[QUOTE="TBoogy"]I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.black_cat19

I actually cringed at that, you're planning to marry someone you've never met in person before after just 9-10 months of actual physical contact? :? (And that is assuming I got the visiting part right, and she'll stay with you all that time until you get married in september...)

U read right. of course, it depends on how the visit goes, but we both knew right away that something was pushing us towards each other. it seems almost mystical. we have to investigate.
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#27 RabidChocobo1
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[QUOTE="black_cat19"]

[QUOTE="TBoogy"]I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.TBoogy

I actually cringed at that, you're planning to marry someone you've never met in person before after just 9-10 months of actual physical contact? :? (And that is assuming I got the visiting part right, and she'll stay with you all that time until you get married in september...)

U read right. of course, it depends on how the visit goes, but we both knew right away that something was pushing us towards each other. it seems almost mystical. we have to investigate.


:)
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[QUOTE="black_cat19"]

[QUOTE="TBoogy"]I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.TBoogy

I actually cringed at that, you're planning to marry someone you've never met in person before after just 9-10 months of actual physical contact? :? (And that is assuming I got the visiting part right, and she'll stay with you all that time until you get married in september...)

U read right. of course, it depends on how the visit goes, but we both knew right away that something was pushing us towards each other. it seems almost mystical. we have to investigate.

You know something dude... Not to bring you down or anything, but I've felt that what you've described, a few times actually, and it has yet to materialize. Always be prepared to face that possible eventuality that something will happen and cause whatever you thought you had to just dissipate. I wish you the best of luck, though...

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#29 Sajedene
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Oh, pfft, first off
1) Bitterness in this thread is amusing, because all of these nerds probably had their hearts broken over Battle.net
2) What do they know what's creepy, whats a Legitimate relationship and all that jazz seeing at about 90% of the users here have never kissed a girl?
3) The Lake House /threadRabidChocobo1

1. Lol

2. Yeah, I've never kissed a girl.. but a girlfriend of mine kissed me. Does that count? What if my mouth was closed? Because it was! O_O

3. LMAO. /thread

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I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.TBoogy

that's pretty much what happened with me and my wife. we visted back and forth for 4 months or so, then she stayed a week, then the summer. She eventually moved into my house and then we moved up and lived in her uncle's lake house. Now we've been married for 7 years and she gave birth to our sun this past june.

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[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]Oh, pfft, first off
1) Bitterness in this thread is amusing, because all of these nerds probably had their hearts broken over Battle.net
2) What do they know what's creepy, whats a Legitimate relationship and all that jazz seeing at about 90% of the users here have never kissed a girl?
3) The Lake House /threadSajedene

1. Lol

2. Yeah, I've never kissed a girl.. but a girlfriend of mine kissed me. Does that count? What if my mouth was closed? Because it was! O_O

3. LMAO. /thread

Is that sarcasm or do you agree with him? Sorry, I can't tell... :P

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]Oh, pfft, first off
1) Bitterness in this thread is amusing, because all of these nerds probably had their hearts broken over Battle.net
2) What do they know what's creepy, whats a Legitimate relationship and all that jazz seeing at about 90% of the users here have never kissed a girl?
3) The Lake House /threadblack_cat19

1. Lol

2. Yeah, I've never kissed a girl.. but a girlfriend of mine kissed me. Does that count? What if my mouth was closed? Because it was! O_O

3. LMAO. /thread

Is that sarcasm or do you agree with him? Sorry, I can't tell... :P

I can't tell you either :P

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#33 TBoogy
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[QUOTE="TBoogy"]I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.Poedon

that's pretty much what happened with me and my wife. we visted back and forth for 4 months or so, then she stayed a week, then the summer. She eventually moved into my house and then we moved up and lived in her uncle's lake house. Now we've been married for 7 years and she gave birth to our sun this past june.

WOW! Congrats, and thanks for sharing. i wont lie and say i am not nervous about it, and i love hearing success stories.
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#34 TBoogy
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[QUOTE="TBoogy"][QUOTE="black_cat19"]

[QUOTE="TBoogy"]I would have said no a year ago, but i met someone online last october and by december we were talking on the phone. by january we were talking almost daily, and by the end of the year she will be coming for a visit and we will be getting married by next semptember.JustPlainLucas

I actually cringed at that, you're planning to marry someone you've never met in person before after just 9-10 months of actual physical contact? :? (And that is assuming I got the visiting part right, and she'll stay with you all that time until you get married in september...)

U read right. of course, it depends on how the visit goes, but we both knew right away that something was pushing us towards each other. it seems almost mystical. we have to investigate.

You know something dude... Not to bring you down or anything, but I've felt that what you've described, a few times actually, and it has yet to materialize. Always be prepared to face that possible eventuality that something will happen and cause whatever you thought you had to just dissipate. I wish you the best of luck, though...

Thanks. i hear you. i am an optimistic realist with this.
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#35 Poedon
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i thought we were moving fast, you are planning on marriage before meeting her. Becuase you love her doesn't mean you can tolerate living with her. We lived together for 1 1/2 years or so before getting married.
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#36 TBoogy
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i thought we were moving fast, you are planning on marriage before meeting her. Becuase you love her doesn't mean you can tolerate living with her. We lived together for 1 1/2 years or so before getting married. Poedon
Not a big fan of living together before marriage. done it before. i think if u ask the right questions beforehand and listen when your mate does not know you are, u can determine if u can live together. and luckily i am a really good judge of character.
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#37 Premier1101
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I guess it is, but no physical relationship = fail.
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#38 Big_Bad_Sad
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How far apart do they live?
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#39 Premier1101
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How far apart do they live?Big_Bad_Sad

thats what I thought when I thought of having a relationship with someone I met on Halo :P

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#40 --Anna--
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Nope. But, the situation sounds fishy.
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#41 MattUD1
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I've seen it happen. The relationship developed online and eventually it got to the part where they lived together and got married.
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#42 LJS9502_basic
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Eh....it's one form of a relationship but unless they eventually meet and see if that will work....nothing will come of it.
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#43 freshgman
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it could still be a guy btw or an old lady
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#44 biBLioTek
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funny how so many can state "NO ITS NOT GONNA WORK" as some relationship experts, although none of you have experienced it. i was together with a girl who live in another country for 2 years, and most of our contact was over the net. we met up about 3 times a year, and it worked perfectly, although we sorta grew apart (she had some emotional change that ruined it). was great while it lasted. so stop talking about stuff you have no idea about.

as for TC: tell him it demands alot of devotion. a common hobby cant be all that keeps them together. tell him that the most important is to have an open relationship, otherwise, jealousy might ruin it.

PS: no, although many of you probably wish, im not some social outcast. currently together with a girl from my university

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#45 LastRebelKing
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It is very unlikely it will work out for your friend, online relationships never work really.
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#47 Silenthps
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it's possible to start off your relationship on the internet. but if its just full internet with no hope of ever being together in person... probably not.
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#48 Omni-Slash
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Only through the internet?....no.....Internet with meeting....spending time together?..yes....
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#49 Ontain
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unless they are in the same area i don't see the point.
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:lol: no