Is it wrong to enjoy teasing girls?

I'm 22, and yeah I like to have fun. When I meet new girls I always end up flirting with them, and I find it sort of funny how they get so attached so easily. Like if I'm at a bar or a party I go right up to girls and will start conversing with them, and acting really playful towards them. I whisper things in their ears, mostly something dirty. Then when I grow bored I tell the girl I'll call her later, but I never do. Why? Simple: I'm not into girls.

Some of my friends have even told me that I'm a jerk (usually in a joking way) but it's not like I'm hurting anyone, right? Most of those girls probably just want sex anyways. I mean, who really seeks a serious relationship in a club/bar?

*Note: I know this isn't the most serious of problems, but it would be interesting to hear what other people (outside of my friends) think about this. Be honest please.

How would you like it if women teased you?

Yes, I'm gay.

How would you like it if women teased you?

leviathan91

Well I'm not into women so... I wouldn't affect me in the slightest, I guess.

And I've never been teased by a guy; I'm usually the one that does the flirting.

Yes, I'm gay.

Ace_of_Spades90

Okay I needed to hear that. This is going to sound weird, but thank you.

That sounds gay both figuratively and literally.

Now we are getting such excellent moral advice from wise people on the video game forum. Is it wrong for me to punch people? I really just don't know.

Now we are getting such excellent moral advice from wise people on the video game forum. Is it wrong for me to punch people? I really just don't know.

KingKinect

Yes, I'm gay.

Ace_of_Spades90

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Yes, I'm gay.

PernicioEnigma

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Yes, I'm gay.

PernicioEnigma

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 [QUOTE="Ace_of_Spades90"]

Yes, I'm gay.

megagene

No, I'm not sexually attracted to women. Women are very beautfiul, yes, but they just don't do it for me.

No, I'm not sexually attracted to women. Women are very beautfiul, yes, but they just don't do it for me.

Ace_of_Spades90

I don't know.. I think I did it more for an ego-boost, if you will.

Maybe I'm just narcissistic. :roll:

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No, I'm not sexually attracted to women. Women are very beautfiul, yes, but they just don't do it for me.

PernicioEnigma

What is this? Ask the gay guy questions day? lol

To answer your question, no, I'm not into girly guys. But neither am I into guys that are overly masculine; a guy in the middle would be preferrable. Basically just a guy who is himself and not fake.

So you like toying with peoples emotions and hurting their feelings for s***s and giggles? That's really douchey. 

No. Keep doing, what you do bro. It's not as if a little teasing is going to ruin a persons life. 

You sound like a douche. =PAllicrombie

as what I've come to expect: insightful, witty, and eloquent.

I don't really see this as teasing...unless you are actually leading them on (can't really tell in OP). To do this purposely isn't a nice thing to do, I expect you'll relize this soon enough if you havn't yet...what goes around comes around. Be nice, fair, respectful if you expect the same in return. However, if they know you are playing around than I don't see the harm in what you're doing....

Well I'm leading very horny ladies on... so I guess, in a way, that's not so nice. It's not like I go around doing this to everyone, but I really should kick the habit.

You sound like you are very immature...regardless of your sexual orientation.

Well I'm leading very horny ladies on... so I guess, in a way, that's not so nice. It's not like I go around doing this to everyone, but I really should kick the habit.

Ace_of_Spades90

If I promise to kick my habit, can you guys please not view me as the gay guy who enjoys teasing women because he's a douche, if I do stick around these boards?

lol seriously though, yeah, I'm now officially done with messing with people.

I'm curious as to what you say to these girls. can you gives an example of how you lead them on?

Just stop being a douche. chrisrooR

grow up. he's not insulting them, just intentionally leading them on. I doubt that single conversion is going to cause damage that will reverberate throughout her life.

I'm curious as to what you say to these girls. can you gives an example of how you lead them on?

[QUOTE="chrisrooR"] Just stop being a douche. SirWander

grow up. he's not insulting them, just intentionally leading them on. I doubt that single conversion is going to cause damage that will reverberate throughout her life.

lol seriously though, yeah, I'm now officially done with messing with people.

Ace_of_Spades90

lol, no. you're not...

but if serious; wow you are quite the pushover. unless of course this is something you've been giving some thought to as of late. If you created this thread to help you think it over, and if it helped you to reach a conclusion, that's good I guess. it's you're life after all, and the onus of your actions are yours to bear alone.

That's really, uh... thoughtful(?) to defend my behaviour. But let's be honest: it's really not okay to derive satisfaction from leading people on. Additionally, I don't want people who know me irl to know me as the flirty, sleazy guy; I want to be known as the nice, classy guy who can hold a conversation that is devoid of sex.

To reiterate one more time, I don't go around messing with every girl. Regardless, I know it's wrong hence my decision to stop.

That's really, uh... thoughtful(?) to defend my behaviour. But let's be honest: it's really not okay to derive satisfaction from leading people on. Additionally, I don't want people who know me irl to know me as the flirty, sleazy guy; I want to be known as the nice, classy guy who can hold a conversation that is devoid of sex.

Ace_of_Spades90

I'm not defending it. I really have no idea what you do when you "lead" these girls on for me to defend your actions. I'm just offering a different perspective on the subject. That is quite the tame aspiration. I hope you know that single, and quite honestly inconsequential, aspect of yourself is not the going to be the assessment people are going to base their judgment on you as a person.

But if you think it will help... it's not as if it's going to make your friends forget about the time you intentionally lead those girls on for kicks.

Where I come from, people like that get slapped.

Flirting and teasing with a man or women is always fun in my opinion.

You know I'm starting to think people don't know what flirting is--- I guess you can't be nice to anyone anymore without them thinking you're trying to get into their pants. Fightingfan

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That's really, uh... thoughtful(?) to defend my behaviour. But let's be honest: it's really not okay to derive satisfaction from leading people on. Additionally, I don't want people who know me irl to know me as the flirty, sleazy guy; I want to be known as the nice, classy guy who can hold a conversation that is devoid of sex.

SirWander

I'm not defending it. I really have no idea what you do when you "lead" these girls on for me defend your actions. I'm just offering a different perspective on the subject. That is quite the tame aspiration. I hope you know that single, and quite honestly inconsequential, aspect of yourself is not the going to be the assessment people are going to base their judgment on you as a person.

But if you think it will help... it's not as if it's going to make your friends forget about the time you intentionally lead those girls on for kicks.

How I lead women on? Ha, where do I even begin? Seriously, though, I don't have any sort of tips or guidelines I follow. Mostly, I just think it helps to have confidence in yourself and to be really comfortable in your own skin - I think that's what draws a lot of people in. You can be the most attractive person (which is subjective anyways) and stumble and fret to the point of looking like an idiot. Also, I do feel as though women (most that I've "seduced" I guess you could say) gravitate towards a guy who takes charge; someone who isn't overly polite, if you will. I'm not saying to treat a woman like dirt, rather, don't be a doormat either.

Anyways, you bring up good points. But like I said, I'm done with teasing women.

Might I add that you straight guys are so lucky in that women are so easy to talk to. Men, on the other hand, make me so nervous at times. Gay men are so vain and criticial of appearances, it's almost enough to "turn" me straight lol. That was in jest btw (for those of you who cannot detect my sarcasm)

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]You know I'm starting to think people don't know what flirting is--- I guess you can't be nice to anyone anymore without them thinking you're trying to get into their pants. Allicrombie

Anyways, you bring up good points. But like I said, I'm done with teasing women.

Ace_of_Spades90

Thanks for reading my sloppily written posts.

I suppose this can be interpreted as change for the "better." It's your choice, and I want to make sure that I wasn't trying to coerce you into acting a certain way. That was not my intent.

But there's something I want to make clear: You are not a terrible person for doing this. It may not have been the nicest thing to do to another person, but does not mean your actions can be seen as bad. You were not doing this with any malicious intent (at least I hope not). It's just a very foolish thing to do.

I never teased girls besides my sister when I was younger. I played practical jokes on her.....not the "yucky" stuff.

What I learned from that is when they get pissed off, you don't want to be in their line of sight.

If it's about the "yucky" stuff, I still don't tease. It's usually the women who tease and I fall flat on my face.

You're going to hell man, straight down to the core of the earth.

i used to be like that! trust me, you'll regret it once you start to need sex.