Is my girlfriend crazy?-Should I break up with her?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months. We just recently started having sex and love each other. We spend pretty much every day for a 2-5 hours at least together.

A lingering problem in the relationship is these crazy mood swings she has. Everything will be fine, and all of a sudden she'll be mean, angry, snappy, insert any adjective here. Yes, I have dated other girls and know girls have these things, but she is not on her period, nor is it by any means normal in any way shape or form. Even she realizes she has something going against her.

For example. Last night we had sex then were just talking. She blows up the used condom like a balloon(it was weird and creepy i know) and it pops. She laughs and a moment later maybe she thinks i was mad or something I have no idea, but she shuts up and rolls over and won't talk to me. I ask what's wrong and she says she feels sick. Of course, this is not even 10 percent of what's wrong. She asks me twice to stop rubbing her stomach wth my thumb because it's "annoying her." She then takes my hand or arm off of her a few times, and puts the covers over her and when I try to talk she's very abrupt and out of nowhere she gets mad and attacks me with "you're getting mad. Why are you getting mad?" and just starts saying a bunch of stuff. I explain what I feel is going on and how I'm trying to be understanding of what's going on but she's just pushing me away. The next moment she's like "you're making me feel bad" rolls under the covers and 5 minutes later she's like "I'm always the problem." Then she wants to suck my dick because it'll "make me happy." I say "no" because she's not right in the head or something and anyways this is just one example of about 6-7 situations similar to this in the past 2 and half months.

Also she told me last night she feels like she's "not good enough for me" and is uncomfortable sometimes because I'm a stable guy in college and treat her right and she's crazy and wild. She says when she was with her ex-boyfriend who cheated on her by having sex with another girl while they were dating that she felt comfortable with him because she knew he was an ******.

I don't know what to do. That was a lot to read, and write, but I'm so confused. I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school. I don't feel I deserve the accusations and mood swings(obviously) for no reason and I really can't stand it for much longer despite my loving of her as a person. What should I do, and what could be wrong with her? I don't think she's bipolar or anything. And no, she's not pregnant. This has been going on a while.

Please do not bypass the censor - UnlivedPhalanx

I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school.

Mittsman890

Yes.B05T0N

Hmm, ive never known girls go nuts like that. Try talking to the parents. Sorry im at loss at that:?clyde46

DON'T DO THIS!!!!!!

Anyways, she sounds a lot like my ex-girlfriend. I hate to tell you my friend, but it sounds like she's bipolar.

I LOVED my ex-girlfriend with all my heart, but I had to walk away, because the mood swings and her snapping was just too much to take after awhile. You have to think about yourself first.

Break up with her gently, and move on. It'll only get worse with time.

[QUOTE="clyde46"]Hmm, ive never known girls go nuts like that. Try talking to the parents. Sorry im at loss at that:?InterpolWilco

DON'T DO THIS!!!!!!

Anyways, she sounds a lot like my ex-girlfriend. I hate to tell you my friend, but it sounds like she's bipolar.

I LOVED my ex-girlfriend with all my heart, but I had to walk away, because the mood swings and her snapping was just too much to take after awhile. You have to think about yourself first.

Break up with her gently, and move on. It'll only get worse with time.

whats bipolar mean?

Ah, I'm at a loss of what to do. I do love her so much as a person, but it's not fair to me at all. :(

[QUOTE="Mittsman890"]

I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school.

PBSnipes

I second this notion.

if shes on edge now, breaking up with her may sent her over it. clyde46

She's going to go over the edge regardless, TRUST ME

[QUOTE="InterpolWilco"]

[QUOTE="clyde46"]Hmm, ive never known girls go nuts like that. Try talking to the parents. Sorry im at loss at that:?clyde46

DON'T DO THIS!!!!!!

Anyways, she sounds a lot like my ex-girlfriend. I hate to tell you my friend, but it sounds like she's bipolar.

I LOVED my ex-girlfriend with all my heart, but I had to walk away, because the mood swings and her snapping was just too much to take after awhile. You have to think about yourself first.

Break up with her gently, and move on. It'll only get worse with time.

whats bipolar mean?

I'm not really that much older. I just graduated high school and she's already half way through her junior year.

[QUOTE="Mittsman890"]

I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school.

PBSnipes

lolz

How self-confident is she?

Perhaps she feels like you might cheat on her like her ex, and so is worried that you might leave, which is putting her into a wierd mood.

Maybe that explains the need to give uh.. oral, and other sexual activities, ya know, so it'll keep you happy and stay with her?

Perhaps you should have a proper talk, re-assure her that you love her.

She does sound like she could have something psychological (such as being bipolar) going on with her.

Otherwise, I'd say shes just acting immature. With her age, and if this is her first "real" relationship, then she might not know how to handle it yet.

How self-confident is she?

Perhaps she feels like you might cheat on her like her ex, and so is worried that you might leave, which is putting her into a wierd mood.

Maybe that explains the need to give uh.. oral, and other sexual activities, ya know, so it'll keep you happy and stay with her?

Perhaps you should have a proper talk, re-assure her that you love her.

StevenCrockett6

That actually makes a LOT of sense. She told me before that she thinks the reason she goes even more over the top in those moments is to try to get me to leave her. Maybe it's a psychological thing. She seems self-confident, but she told me and I've seen her talk about her "many insecurities." I told her she was beautiful and she's like "you have to say that." The thing is, she is very attractive, so it doesn't make much sense. She really is, she doesn't want to believe it.

Oh, another thing that happened after that one moment described in my first post. We were about to have sex again later last night and she said something about a girl in her class that has F sized boobs. I (stupidly) said my friend Amanda(whom she's never met) has size G boobs and then my girlfriend woudln't take off her shirt like she normally just wips off. She was like "stop baby" and stuff. Then later she's like yeah I just felt inseure about it. Wtf...yeah.

Oh, and I tell her I love her all the time. More than most just because of how insecure she seems.Mittsman890

She blows up the used condom like a balloon(it was weird and creepy i know) and it pops.Mittsman890

After witnessing this, was there ever any question that she wasn't a total psychopath?

She is female, therefore, yes she is crazy, yes she will have mood swings, the question is do yo want to deal with it.

Oh, and I've gotten the 'I'm not good enough for you' thing also. Good luck man.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months. We just recently started having sex and love each other. We spend pretty much every day for a 2-5 hours at least together.

A lingering problem in the relationship is these crazy mood swings she has. Everything will be fine, and all of a sudden she'll be mean, angry, snappy, insert any adjective here. Yes, I have dated other girls and know girls have these things, but she is not on her period, nor is it by any means normal in any way shape or form. Even she realizes she has something going against her.

For example. Last night we had sex then were just talking. She blows up the used condom like a balloon(it was weird and creepy i know) and it pops. She laughs and a moment later maybe she thinks i was mad or something I have no idea, but she shuts up and rolls over and won't talk to me. I ask what's wrong and she says she feels sick. Of course, this is not even 10 percent of what's wrong. She asks me twice to stop rubbing her stomach wth my thumb because it's "annoying her." She then takes my hand or arm off of her a few times, and puts the covers over her and when I try to talk she's very abrupt and out of nowhere she gets mad and attacks me with "you're getting mad. Why are you getting mad?" and just starts saying a bunch of stuff. I explain what I feel is going on and how I'm trying to be understanding of what's going on but she's just pushing me away. The next moment she's like "you're making me feel bad" rolls under the covers and 5 minutes later she's like "I'm always the problem." Then she wants to suck my dick because it'll "make me happy." I say "no" because she's not right in the head or something and anyways this is just one example of about 6-7 situations similar to this in the past 2 and half months.

Also she told me last night she feels like she's "not good enough for me" and is uncomfortable sometimes because I'm a stable guy in college and treat her right and she's crazy and wild. She says when she was with her ex-boyfriend who cheated on her by having sex with another girl while they were dating that she felt comfortable with him because she knew he was an @sshole.

I don't know what to do. That was a lot to read, and write, but I'm so confused. I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school. I don't feel I deserve the accusations and mood swings(obviously) for no reason and I really can't stand it for much longer despite my loving of her as a person. What should I do, and what could be wrong with her? I don't think she's bipolar or anything. And no, she's not pregnant. This has been going on a while.

Mittsman890

BEST FRIEND SEX HER

ugh the more you post the more it seems like shes an insecure manipulator.

She uses all her drama to get you to make her feel good, by making you feel bad that she feels bad.

She may or may not realize that... but shes really playing you to make her feel good... and youre letting it happen, which makes it worse.

You guys need time apart for her to get herself together.

[QUOTE="StevenCrockett6"]

How self-confident is she?

Perhaps she feels like you might cheat on her like her ex, and so is worried that you might leave, which is putting her into a wierd mood.

Maybe that explains the need to give uh.. oral, and other sexual activities, ya know, so it'll keep you happy and stay with her?

Perhaps you should have a proper talk, re-assure her that you love her.

Mittsman890

That actually makes a LOT of sense. She told me before that she thinks the reason she goes even more over the top in those moments is to try to get me to leave her. Maybe it's a psychological thing. She seems self-confident, but she told me and I've seen her talk about her "many insecurities." I told her she was beautiful and she's like "you have to say that." The thing is, she is very attractive, so it doesn't make much sense. She really is, she doesn't want to believe it.

Oh, another thing that happened after that one moment described in my first post. We were about to have sex again later last night and she said something about a girl in her class that has F sized boobs. I (stupidly) said my friend Amanda(whom she's never met) has size G boobs and then my girlfriend woudln't take off her shirt like she normally just wips off. She was like "stop baby" and stuff. Then later she's like yeah I just felt inseure about it. Wtf...yeah.

Perhaps a bad move on your part but still.

A sense of paranoia leads to some strange, crazy behaviour.

Over time however, her insecurities should start to fade. That's what i think anyway... hopefully. I'm not an expert in such matters, but i hope i've been a little helpful. :)

I'm getting angry now. Here's another thing.

Four days ago we were talking about her being crazy or whatever she is. She was telling me to not admit she's going crazy because that would only make her angrier(it has when I try to be honest) and that I should just ignore it or just say I love you and we'll work it out tomorrow or something like that. I'm manipulated. Any time I try to be the male I am(a nice one, not overly) she gets mad. I dont' deserve this stuff. She's crazy. I'm going to have to end it. Thanks guys.

[QUOTE="clyde46"]if shes on edge now, breaking up with her may sent her over it. InterpolWilco

She's going to go over the edge regardless, TRUST ME

Ya, dont let her take you down with her. Dont they have medications for this?..

I appreciate the posts so far. The more I post the more even I feel that I have to end it and maybe she doesn't even realize she's using me to make herself feel better. This is deeper than I thought.Mittsman890

Dude...talk to her and tell her exactly what you've told us. She is just insecure and maybe a little immature that's all.

Its simple.

Your girlfriend has bad-boy attraction disorder (also known as BBAD)

She also sounds like a bit of a sexpot. Blowing up a used condom til it pops? Thats pretty kinky and frankly that turns me on, but I understand why it might throw some guys off.

My roommate was exactly like your girlfriend. She was a druggie and had a kid when she was like 14; she was totally cool but she was dependent on relationships with bad guys, but we hooked up and it got really weird cuz she was like "your the only nice guy I ever dated" and she did crazy stuff. We basically got drunk and, in a technical sense, tried to rape me lol. I didnt want to since we were both drunk and on an ethical basis it is wrong to me, but she was "ooh dont you want to take advantage of me". Awkward, to say the least. I said no and she got pissed and tried making moves.

Basically, your girlfriend seems to be slightly nympho.

Anyway, I think you should go out with her for a bit and see if she adjusts to you. If she stays crazy, then end it.

[QUOTE="Mittsman890"]I appreciate the posts so far. The more I post the more even I feel that I have to end it and maybe she doesn't even realize she's using me to make herself feel better. This is deeper than I thought.wii4panta

Dude...talk to her and tell her exactly what you've told us. She is just insecure and maybe a little immature that's all.

ya, immaturity is a big issue with many girls. its like theyre women physically but not mentally.

Human beings inherently strive to formulate long-lasting relationships, both romantic and plutonic. These relationships are often necessary for our personal comfort and self-confidence. Many people, yourself and myself at a different point in my life included, can rationalize and validate ANY choice we make concerning relationships when said choice ensures the continuation of a given interpersonal relationship, we utilize any positive consequences or factors to invalidate negative consequences and factors, such as psychological disorders. Likewise, sexual desire is obviously a factor.

From the story you told, I can assure you that this is not the woman for you, or possibly for any man. You don't "work it out." We often cling to our relationships under the misguided illusion of reconciliation. I am currently with the woman that I am going to spend the rest of my life with. Yes, sometimes there will be problems that need to be addressed and discussed, but problems such as the ones that you are confronting are those that she has created on her own accord. You cannot alleviate these issues. Yes, if you commit to this woman her psychological disposition may stabilize and you may even be a major factor in her developing mental stability, but the reality is that she personally must address these issues. You cannot be her crutch. Also, this instability may persist throughout her adult life. She also may not be able to address these issues at this point in her life. People also often forget how complex other individuals are, out of our own self-interest.

Because of the statements that you made, I believe that a part of you knows that she isn't the one for you. When you're with her, do you remember all of your relationships with criticism? Do you view them all as absolutely inferior to your current relationship? If not, you have your answer. When the "right one" comes along, you will know. Until then, drop it like it's hot, man, or you'll end up knocking her up and being the stupid bastard she exploits for the next 20 years.

I'm getting angry now. Here's another thing.

Four days ago we were talking about her being crazy or whatever she is. She was telling me to not admit she's going crazy because that would only make her angrier(it has when I try to be honest) and that I should just ignore it or just say I love you and we'll work it out tomorrow or something like that. I'm manipulated. Any time I try to be the male I am(a nice one, not overly) she gets mad. I dont' deserve this stuff. She's crazy. I'm going to have to end it. Thanks guys.

Mittsman890

Hold ya horses, give her an ultimatum, say look your carazy mood swings are pushing us apart, i've tried my best to make things work between us, but if this continues i will have no choice but to end it, im at my wits end and even though i still love you, your anger towards me is breaking me apart, so for both our sakes this is your last chance to show me for once, how much you love me by changing your ways.

Yes.B05T0N

I want a shot at her. She sounds like a fun girl.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months. We just recently started having sex and love each other. We spend pretty much every day for a 2-5 hours at least together.

A lingering problem in the relationship is these crazy mood swings she has. Everything will be fine, and all of a sudden she'll be mean, angry, snappy, insert any adjective here. Yes, I have dated other girls and know girls have these things, but she is not on her period, nor is it by any means normal in any way shape or form. Even she realizes she has something going against her.

For example. Last night we had sex then were just talking. She blows up the used condom like a balloon(it was weird and creepy i know) and it pops. She laughs and a moment later maybe she thinks i was mad or something I have no idea, but she shuts up and rolls over and won't talk to me. I ask what's wrong and she says she feels sick. Of course, this is not even 10 percent of what's wrong. She asks me twice to stop rubbing her stomach wth my thumb because it's "annoying her." She then takes my hand or arm off of her a few times, and puts the covers over her and when I try to talk she's very abrupt and out of nowhere she gets mad and attacks me with "you're getting mad. Why are you getting mad?" and just starts saying a bunch of stuff. I explain what I feel is going on and how I'm trying to be understanding of what's going on but she's just pushing me away. The next moment she's like "you're making me feel bad" rolls under the covers and 5 minutes later she's like "I'm always the problem." Then she wants to suck my dick because it'll "make me happy." I say "no" because she's not right in the head or something and anyways this is just one example of about 6-7 situations similar to this in the past 2 and half months.

Also she told me last night she feels like she's "not good enough for me" and is uncomfortable sometimes because I'm a stable guy in college and treat her right and she's crazy and wild. She says when she was with her ex-boyfriend who cheated on her by having sex with another girl while they were dating that she felt comfortable with him because she knew he was an @sshole.

I don't know what to do. That was a lot to read, and write, but I'm so confused. I'm 19 and in college. She's 17 and in high school. I don't feel I deserve the accusations and mood swings(obviously) for no reason and I really can't stand it for much longer despite my loving of her as a person. What should I do, and what could be wrong with her? I don't think she's bipolar or anything. And no, she's not pregnant. This has been going on a while.

Mittsman890

umm don't make her mad because what you did there constitutes as statutory rape...

If I was to break up with her it would be hell. She might do something stupid to herself. She told me two weeks ago when she went nuts then too, that after I left she just drove her car for an hour and thought about just not coming back. See, she's just....weird. And before you know her well you think she's like the happiest person ever. It makes no sense.Mittsman890

your not alone dude, it sounds like my girlfriend. besides the cheating part. were seeing eachother this weekend. she has the most insane mood swings. and she always thinks im mad or sad at her.