Is This An Invasion of Privacy?

So, this girl I like asked if she could have my iPod for the weekend because she was going on a trip and wanted something to do.

I know that on my Facebook, I've had conversions with people, and a couple of them have mentioned her, but not in a negative sense, just about my feelings for her, what we did when we hung out at my house (nothing sexual, just movies or play video games), and when I first met her, I asked my friend who knew her about her since her name rung a bell. I've never told people any of her secrets or insecurities through these messages. I thought there was nothing wrong talking about this, and trusted her not to read my private conversations.

Well, I got a text last night telling me she was curious and so she read them, and told me how much she hates that I told our friend the stuff we've done, and why I like asking people about her and why I won't just admit to liking her or whatever (which I've done before). Now, looking back, maybe I shouldn't have mentioned the stuff about our hangouts since that's our thing, but I still see no problem in the other stuff. She doesn't agree this is the same as if I just took her phone and read through her texts or looked at her Facebook messages, but I think it is.

Is this my fault for talking about this stuff behind her back, or is this a complete invasion of privacy? Or are we both in the wrong? I trusted her, and I feel that all that trust is gone now.

Thanks for the feedback:)

Invasion of privacy and it tells a lot about her personality that not only would she read your messages behind your back, she also has no shame in doing so as she openly admitted to doing it. She even penalized you for what you said in the messages, that's absurd.

When people borrow an iPod, you'd think they just want some tunes for a trip and such. I'd call her out on it, if you actually still have strong feelings tell her then. But I wouldn't make snooping right. Hell, you two don't even go out yet, imagine what she'd do if you did?

Not a good start imho.

Hell, you two don't even go out yet, imagine what she'd do if you did?Yama

Well, I got a text last night telling me she was curious and so she read them, and told me how much she hates that I told our friend the stuff we've done, and why I like asking people about her and why I won't just admit to liking her or whatever (which I've done before). Now, looking back, maybe I shouldn't have mentioned the stuff about our hangouts since that's our thing, but I still see no problem in the other stuff. She doesn't agree this is the same as if I just took her phone and read through her texts or looked at her Facebook messages, but I think it is.

JohnBean42

This paragraph is bullcrap.

a) Any girl would tell a friend (or multiple friends) what happened while hanging with you, probably with more details than you would give.
b) Imo, this is the exact same as if you took her phone and looked through it.

Also, I like your sig :P

You gave her permission to use your iPod, so she had permission to snoop around anything that you've done on it. Should have logged off Facebook if you didn't want her to read anything, even if you do trust her.NiKva

[QUOTE="JohnBean42"]

Well, I got a text last night telling me she was curious and so she read them, and told me how much she hates that I told our friend the stuff we've done, and why I like asking people about her and why I won't just admit to liking her or whatever (which I've done before). Now, looking back, maybe I shouldn't have mentioned the stuff about our hangouts since that's our thing, but I still see no problem in the other stuff. She doesn't agree this is the same as if I just took her phone and read through her texts or looked at her Facebook messages, but I think it is.

zeldaluff

This paragraph is bullcrap.

a) Any girl would tell a friend (or multiple friends) what happened while hanging with you, probably with more details than you would give.
b) Imo, this is the exact same as if you took her phone and looked through it.

Also, I like your sig :P

Invasion of privacy and it tells a lot about her personality that not only would she read your messages behind your back, she also has no shame in doing so as she openly admitted to doing it. She even penalized you for what you said in the messages, that's absurd.

When people borrow an iPod, you'd think they just want some tunes for a trip and such. I'd call her out on it, if you actually still have strong feelings tell her then. But I wouldn't make snooping right. Hell, you two don't even go out yet, imagine what she'd do if you did?

Not a good start imho.

Yama

Why was she going through your stuff without your permission? You did give it to her, but still. That's going overboard.BranKetra

[QUOTE="BranKetra"]Why was she going through your stuff without your permission? You did give it to her, but still. That's going overboard.JohnBean42

You gave it to her.....LJS9502_basic

I don't understand this girl. Caving in to curiosity and snooping in your FB messages I guess I can kind get (it happens), but then blatantly admitting to it, and even having a go at things you said in them? Seems pretty mental.

Maybe she is making a mountain out of a non-issue molehill because she wants you to say you like her and ask her out now she's single.

It's both of your faults. She should of never even mention it to start all this drama(it just shows she's crazy), I mean I bet there are more people besides her that seen your messages but did they say anything about it? no. You should of already known something like this was gonna happen when you give it to her, If you had more than $1000 in your wallet and told someone to hang on to it and not go through it, Could you truly believe they won't go through it?

You expected her to not check your private stuff?

I think most people would, but no admitting it.

You gave it to her.....LJS9502_basic

He let her borrow the ipod for a weekend, for music, he didn't give it to her to go snooping at his apps and going into his facebook and deliberately reading his messages. If you let someone sleep over your home or have friends over, you wouldn't expect them to go through your dressers, closets, or even snooping on your computer would you? I know it's not exactly the same thing but it's like the saying "you give someone an inch, he'll take a mile". Then she has the nerve to make him out to be the bad guy?

Dude, she's got her own issues that you shouldn't even bother to try and deal with.