Long distance relationships su ck

They don't last......LJS9502_basic

I had one, I met her on a summer vacation, then when we both went back home to ourseparatestates we tried the long distancerelationship. She gave up on it in 2 months though, it kinda pissed me off but I got over it.cryptosopoidium

Chances are in won't work. For a long distance relationship to work you really need to have some sort of foundation to start with (i.e. you have a relationship then someone moves away, it's tough to just meet someone and start a relationship as long distance).

Also you really need to have some sort of end in sight (i.e. knowing the distance is temporary, knowing when it is going to change, etc, it likely won't work if there is no change coming in the foreseeable future).

They can work but they aren't the best plan ever... My parents had one for many, many years.

My dad work made him go overseas for months at time, come home and then leave a few days later. Went on and on and on. Pretty rough on my ma sometimes.

Yeah but we obviously don't have kids so it's only going to be hard on us.

I'm not an expert either. That's why I'm asking you guys.

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What kind is it?

[QUOTE="cryptosopoidium"]I had one, I met her on a summer vacation, then when we both went back home to ourseparatestates we tried the long distancerelationship. She gave up on it in 2 months though, it kinda pissed me off but I got over it.bigse63xy

Dude I met a girl in NJ who was from Illinois and I'm from NY and we have had a relationship for 2 years. They can definitely work. By the way, I met her in NJ during the Summer because both of our families have houses on the beach. Neither of us are from there. Just try one. It could work.AngelsFan32

Long distance relationships are extremely tough, it's real sad to say but most don't really end up working too well. The older you get however, the easier it gets, to handle something like that, because you have more control over what you're actually capable of doing to keep the relationship going.

I'm currently in one, me and my girlfriend are 4 hours away, at our universities. If it works, it works, it's just that you have to have some sort of goal in mind in order for it to work... you can't spend the time unsure if you'll ever get to see this person on a regular basis.

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They don't last......LJS9502_basic

...any more than 3 days.

Long distance relationships are extremely tough, it's real sad to say but most don't really end up working too well. The older you get however, the easier it gets, to handle something like that, because you have more control over what you're actually capable of doing to keep the relationship going.

I'm currently in one, me and my girlfriend are 4 hours away, at our universities. If it works, it works, it's just that you have to have some sort of goal in mind in order for it to work... you can't spend the time unsure if you'll ever get to see this person on a regular basis.

dbz345

The funny thing is that most relationships in general, long distance or not, don't really end up working too well.

I hope they can work, this girl i want to ask out is moving to spain next year :( (im in England, so not too far away) but she is going to return to England after 2 years and they are keeping a house in England to go to in the holidays, so im hoping that would work. But before she moves there is a 2-3 month holiday so that would be time to build up a decent relationship i think.

My long distance relationship was ok. She was hot and i was paranoid cause she told me that a lot of girls/guys would always touch her and hit on her. It sucked cause i couldn't do anything about it. Our relationship ended when i found out she still liked her old boyfriend who is also long distance. I don't like her now and i hope she gets beat up by some people or in a car accident and die, i will be satisfied.kurama2002

Sounds like the problem wasn't her. It's you, chief. Your jealousy and lack of trust killed the relationship. There isn't a person in the world who will go through life feeling an emotional connection with only one person. They may well deny it, but they're lying. And you've got to respect that and trust that she's with you for a reason, even though she may be close to others as well. She's a human, not your possession. That last part was one of the pettiest things I've read here.

They only work for certain kinds of people - usually those who have a combination of strong loyalty, strong trust, and strong independence. Emotionally needy people or those with limited control of their sexual urges usually can't make it work in long distance relationships if the distance lasts for more than a couple of months. But if you don't require a lot of contact and are confident in the fact that the distance problem will eventually be resolved, such relationships can and do survive. I've seen it first hand.pianist

Well we don't have that strong of sexual urges seeing as how we are both virgins. And as for those other things, I think we are those things. We don't have a plan on when we can see each other regularly and I think that is our only problem bet that is kind of a big one.

[QUOTE="kurama2002"]My long distance relationship was ok. She was hot and i was paranoid cause she told me that a lot of girls/guys would always touch her and hit on her. It sucked cause i couldn't do anything about it. Our relationship ended when i found out she still liked her old boyfriend who is also long distance. I don't like her now and i hope she gets beat up by some people or in a car accident and die, i will be satisfied.pianist

Sounds like the problem wasn't her. It's you, chief. Your jealousy and lack of trust killed the relationship. There isn't a person in the world who will go through life feeling an emotional connection with only one person. They may well deny it, but they're lying. And you've got to respect that and trust that she's with you for a reason, even though she may be close to others as well. She's a human, not your possession. That last part was one of the pettiest things I've read here.

She said she was my possession and that she would be with me forever. She also lied to me and said she had no feelings for her ex. She said that if we ever broke up she wouldnt go out with anyone else and she wouldnt go back to her ex cause all he wanted was her vigrinity. When we broke up the day later, he was the first guy she ran to and they went out again.

[QUOTE="dbz345"]

Long distance relationships are extremely tough, it's real sad to say but most don't really end up working too well. The older you get however, the easier it gets, to handle something like that, because you have more control over what you're actually capable of doing to keep the relationship going.

I'm currently in one, me and my girlfriend are 4 hours away, at our universities. If it works, it works, it's just that you have to have some sort of goal in mind in order for it to work... you can't spend the time unsure if you'll ever get to see this person on a regular basis.

pianist

The funny thing is that most relationships in general, long distance or not, don't really end up working too well.

True, but in the world of love, it's all about taking chances and trying to hold on to what's close to your heart. If that requires enduring lots of time apart, then so be it. It just goes back to the point I made before; there has to be an escape from the long distance, even if it's years down the line. Otherwise it's only a matter of time before even the strongest ties break.