Marriage...yay or nay??

So, im kind of on the fence with Marriage these days. Ill come out right away, and say that im Agnostic, so the religious part of marriage(under God) doesnt mean much to me, although I value the morals it represents.One side of me wants to find my true love, and completely devote myself to them in the form of Marriage....till death do us part.

The other side of me thinks thats Marriage is virtually useless, and doesnt mean much of anything these days withsuch high divorce rates. People get married, people get divorced. Its a bit too easy in my opinion.I can devote myself to somebody withoutneeding to havemy devotion validated by the State (again, God doesnt really come into play). I believe my word is all I truly have, and should be valued higher than any sort of marriage certificate, or wedding band on my finger.Which is the only thing I would feel good about, is confessing my love to this person with both our families as witnesses. Again, giving my word to both her and themany people attending.

I also know some people think that Marriage is an attempt to keep a feeling alive that may not be meant to. Forcing a relationship to last because of the binds of Marriage, and ends with two very unhappy people for the remainder of their lives. I guess thats one reason we have divorce though. In the end, I think I want to get married. Its probably a nice feeling, knowing you have a person who feels just as strongly towards you as you do them, I just sometimes dont understand why marriage is the only way to show those feelings.

What do you think of Marriage? The only way to trulydevote yourself? The one true act of Love? Useless? Overrated? TELL ME.

Yeah, I would love to get married some day.

I think I'll play the field a bit more before I think about marriage.

I think I'll play the field a bit more before I think about marriage.

clyde46

meh...i feel indifferent about it

I think I'll play the field a bit more before I think about marriage.

clyde46

I think thats a wise decision. But, what if you find that the next person you date, isthat "somebody"? Is marriage still a far far way down the road? I fyou wanted to show this person that you truly love them in your life, would marriage come into mind?

The idea of marriage doesn't sound cool, but it is the thing society expects out of us.

No, I don't want to be around another person for that long.

Been there....done that. Would have to be someone awesome for me to make that mistake again....

I want to be sure I tie the knot one day :).

Been there....done that. Would have to be someone awesome for me to make that mistake again....

LJS9502_basic

Yeah, same here. It was mostlyby a misunderstanding... me not understanding that her tattoo "beautiful disaster" wasnta Kelly Clarkson reference, but a statement of truth. It was half of that though...less beautiful...more disaster...

I would Marry my GF right now, but we're both not ready yet :P (plus I said I would propose to her when she turns 21, which her Birthday is July 3 and our anniversary is July 21st, pretty cool :D)

Marriage is fine, just don't rush into it. I strongly suggest co-habitation first along with at least a few years of togetherness beforehand.

I've been divorced since 2002. I wouldn't mind getting married again someday, but it's something I'm going to be very cautious about next time around. Right now, I'm not even looking just because I can't be bothered to.

Marriage is fine, just don't rush into it. I strongly suggest co-habitation first along with at least a few years of togetherness beforehand.

starfox15

Yeah, same here. It was mostlyby a misunderstanding... me not understanding that her tattoo "beautiful disaster" wasnta Kelly Clarkson reference, but a statement of truth. It was half of that though...less beautiful...more disaster...

KcurtorMas

Lol sorry about your troubles.

I want to get married :oops: but im going to play ball for a long time. Maybe have a couple of mistresses here and there

Well, whether I want to get married depends on who the woman is really. But in general I'm gonna say yes.

I want to get married :oops: but im going to play ball for a long time. Maybe have a couple of mistresses here and there

Kamekazi_69

Oddly enough those marriages fail the most...perhaps due to the change in the relationship which isn't expected.LJS9502_basic

Marriage is fine, just don't rush into it. I strongly suggest co-habitation first along with at least a few years of togetherness beforehand.

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Oddly enough those marriages fail the most...perhaps due to the change in the relationship which isn't expected.cell_dweller

What would you recommend?

[QUOTE="cell_dweller"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Oddly enough those marriages fail the most...perhaps due to the change in the relationship which isn't expected.LikeHaterade

What would you recommend?

If I feel like it at the time and of course provided some things will change around me by then, sure why not?

If I feel like it at the time and of course provided some things will change around me by then, sure why not?

Teenaged

[QUOTE="Kamekazi_69"]

I want to get married :oops: but im going to play ball for a long time. Maybe have a couple of mistresses here and there

LJS9502_basic

Nah, paying them wont be necessary. The sweet lovin I'll be giving them and the free rides on my lamborghini LP640 is more then enough. Lets call it friends with benefits instead then ;)

[QUOTE="LikeHaterade"]

[QUOTE="cell_dweller"] That's something that surprised me when I took a sociology course. You would think that living together first, you really get to know someone and decide whether or not you want to get married. Apparently people don't really take into account all the change it will bring.LJS9502_basic

What would you recommend?

Explain that please. I mean, how long should you be with a woman before you get married? And when married, you shouldn't live together? There are plenty of happy couples that enjoy living together.

my number one choice would be megan fox or jessica alba:)side-action

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

If I feel like it at the time and of course provided some things will change around me by then, sure why not?

[QUOTE="side-action"]my number one choice would be megan fox or jessica alba:)Teenaged

It's really overrated. I'm not spending thousands of dollars to get stuck with someone for the next 30 years.

"Nay" for me. I seriously doubt I could genuinely be happy with one person for the rest of my life--let alone live with him for more then a month, and all that other mess that comes with it. And even if I could be happy, I don't need a piece of paper and a expensive wedding in the process. I just don't see any point in wasting my time and money or his on this matter.

I'd lie and say I do just to rock the expensive engagement ring for bragging rights though if I was asked. :P

If the girl wants it, then it'll probably happen. But otherwise, I'm thinking more into the, what do they call it now, "life-partner" thing that a bunch of famous people are doing :P.

The other side of me thinks thats Marriage is virtually useless, and doesnt mean much of anything these days withsuch high divorce rates. People get married, people get divorced. Its a bit too easy in my opinion.I can devote myself to somebody withoutneeding to havemy devotion validated by the State (again, God doesnt really come into play). I believe my word is all I truly have, and should be valued higher than any sort of marriage certificate, or wedding band on my finger.

KcurtorMas

I'm not sure I ever want to get married. I agree with what's above. I don't need a piece of paper and a few words to prove that I love someone and commit myself to them. So many people think marriage is the end all/be all to life, that something's wrong with you if you're not married and that every waking second has to be spent hunting for a spouse. I will remain just as commited to someone I'm truly in love with whether we're 'dating' or married. I don't need a big to-do and others' approval to validate my feelings and commitment. So if I date someone forever (though the word date seems weird after a long time) I'm really okay with it. As long as I don't end up in a common law marriage I've got no problem checking the "single" box my whole life.

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

If I feel like it at the time and of course provided some things will change around me by then, sure why not?

LJS9502_basic

Thats why beforehand I would make sure (not by reason; just work it out in my head first) that I am ready for it and that I want it.

But generally (but REALLY generally) I kinda agree with you. Mostly because I dont think marriage is the natural "destiny" of a couple.

Its just an option.

my number one choice would be megan fox or jessica alba:)side-action

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="side-action"]my number one choice would be megan fox or jessica alba:)twilightpanda

:P

Explain that please. I mean, how long should you be with a woman before you get married? And when married, you shouldn't live together? There are plenty of happy couples that enjoy living together.

LikeHaterade

Thank you but no...I plan on never getting married, for me it would be a lot easier just to live with someone I love and things would be almost exactly the same without all the hassle if things didn't work out.

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="side-action"]my number one choice would be megan fox or jessica alba:)twilightpanda