my buddy is gaining a lot of weight

I know I know, weight is one of those things that you dont bring up to people. And I didn't give a damn when I noticed that he was gaining a few lbs, but it's gotten a little ridiculous. My buddy used to be really in shape but over the summer he kinda stopped working out and gained a few lbs. No big deal. But over the course of this semester he has probably packed on 40 lbs of lard. He never works out anymore and is eating almost constantly... well more like stuffing his face. One of our out of town friends came in recently and asked me later what the heck happened to him. And he's right... a person doesn't go from really slim and in shape to almost obese in under a year... should I ask if something is going on? or is this too personal? It's awkward but at this rate he must have accidentally caused santa claus to slip and fall off his roof or something.

Well it's his life, not yours. This seems pretty common where I live..

gaining a ton of weight in a short period of time is common? where do you live, texas, wisconsin? lol

he must have accidentally caused santa claus to slip and fall off his roof or something.Sombro89

gaining a ton of weight in a short period of time is common? where do you live, texas, wisconsin? lol

Sombro89

Have a sleepover at his house and bring this up during the "bro-talk" section of the sleepover where you're both just laying there next to each other in your sleeping bags in the dark and talking. Chojuto

Whoa.

Have a sleepover at his house and bring this up during the "bro-talk" section of the sleepover where you're both just laying there next to each other in your sleeping bags in the dark and talking. Chojuto

[QUOTE="Sombro89"] he must have accidentally caused santa claus to slip and fall off his roof or something.fidosim

Just ask him if somethings wrong, and tell him why you're concerned. He could just not care about his weight, but doesn't hurt to ask.

Why do people need help with these issues? Either tell him he's fat and you're concerned, or let him be.

As mentioned above, it is his life afterall. If you want to say something out of concern though you should feel free to do so.

I guess I'm just worried about coming across as offensive rather than concerned.

And it is his life and sometimes people don't care, but he was really in shape before. Like one of those freaks with 3% body fat. And no he's not 8 but he is probably at least 200 lbs by now...

I guess I'm just worried about coming across as offensive rather than concerned.

And it is his life and sometimes people don't care, but he was really in shape before. Like one of those freaks with 3% body fat. And no he's not 8 but he is probably at least 200 lbs by now...

Sombro89

For what it's worth I have found that a chainsaw can help with excess weight...

[QUOTE="Sombro89"]

I guess I'm just worried about coming across as offensive rather than concerned.

And it is his life and sometimes people don't care, but he was really in shape before. Like one of those freaks with 3% body fat. And no he's not 8 but he is probably at least 200 lbs by now...

Pirate700

Well at least give him a talk, but after that its whatever he decides.

None of your business, stay out of it. Maybe he's depressed or something. The only thing you should really do is say "Hey ___ are you doing okay? Your PERSONALITY has changed a bit since summer".XilePrincess

Do this if your friend is a girl.

Do this if your friend is a girl.

cheese_game619

Or if you just don't want to further hurt a person who may be dealing with a lot of mental torment at the moment. His parents could be divorcing, he could have lost a family member or pet, he could just be really depressed or have bad anxiety. TC doesn't know and neither do we, so it's best that until he does know, he steps lightly and doesn't add insult to injury by letting his friend know that he's let himself go and turned into a tubby little piggy. Some people cope with stress by eating, and people who do often don't realize how much weight they've put on.

As a friend it should be his business. lonewolf604

[QUOTE="Sombro89"]

[QUOTE="Chojuto"]Have a sleepover at his house and bring this up during the "bro-talk" section of the sleepover where you're both just laying there next to each other in your sleeping bags in the dark and talking. MichBelle

Why do people need help with these issues? Either tell him he's fat and you're concerned, or let him be.

Pirate700

Basically my POV on the issue.

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

Do this if your friend is a girl.

XilePrincess

Or if you just don't want to further hurt a person who may be dealing with a lot of mental torment at the moment. His parents could be divorcing, he could have lost a family member or pet, he could just be really depressed or have bad anxiety. TC doesn't know and neither do we, so it's best that until he does know, he steps lightly and doesn't add insult to injury by letting his friend know that he's let himself go and turned into a tubby little piggy. Some people cope with stress by eating, and people who do often don't realize how much weight they've put on.

As a friend it should be his business. lonewolf604

It's never anyone's business to go "Hey, I noticed you've gotten really fat".

...but it's not as if the kid hasn't noticed. He used to be ottermode and now he's all mooby. I'm sure he is aware that he's a fatty-fat-fat now.

You should call him a fatty and make fun of his lard ass. Insulting people usually gets them motivated to do stuff.

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

Do this if your friend is a girl.

XilePrincess

Or if you just don't want to further hurt a person who may be dealing with a lot of mental torment at the moment. His parents could be divorcing, he could have lost a family member or pet, he could just be really depressed or have bad anxiety. TC doesn't know and neither do we, so it's best that until he does know, he steps lightly and doesn't add insult to injury by letting his friend know that he's let himself go and turned into a tubby little piggy. Some people cope with stress by eating, and people who do often don't realize how much weight they've put on.

As a friend it should be his business. lonewolf604

A while ago he mentioned in passing how big he's gotten... hopefully he mentions it again so I don't have to be the one to bring it up.

I realize that being like 5'10 and weighing 200 lbs isn't huge, I think it's the rapid gains that are most concerning. It would be a shame to see him be one of those 350 lb people who has health issues.

hire a few teenagers to pick on him.

Invite him to the gym with you, saying that you really want to try and get in better shape and wanted to see if he was interested in joining you. If the weight gain topic comes up, or you trigger it, then ask about it.

Invite him to the gym with you, saying that you really want to try and get in better shape and wanted to see if he was interested in joining you. If the weight gain topic comes up, or you trigger it, then ask about it.

Suzy_Q_Kazoo

[QUOTE="Chojuto"]Have a sleepover at his house and bring this up during the "bro-talk" section of the sleepover where you're both just laying there next to each other in your sleeping bags in the dark and talking. Sombro89

cause fondling his dirty pillows is so much less gay.

Go exercising with him.

None of your business, stay out of it. Maybe he's depressed or something. The only thing you should really do is say "Hey ___ are you doing okay? Your PERSONALITY has changed a bit since summer".XilePrincess

Im usually with you Xile, but this time I disagree.

Telling a guy his personality changed is much worse than telling him he's getting fat.

Invite him to the gym with you, saying that you really want to try and get in better shape and wanted to see if he was interested in joining you. If the weight gain topic comes up, or you trigger it, then ask about it.Suzy_Q_Kazoo

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

Do this if your friend is a girl.

XilePrincess

Or if you just don't want to further hurt a person who may be dealing with a lot of mental torment at the moment. His parents could be divorcing, he could have lost a family member or pet, he could just be really depressed or have bad anxiety. TC doesn't know and neither do we, so it's best that until he does know, he steps lightly and doesn't add insult to injury by letting his friend know that he's let himself go and turned into a tubby little piggy. Some people cope with stress by eating, and people who do often don't realize how much weight they've put on.

As a friend it should be his business. lonewolf604

Last time, on Sex in the City:

Just ask him if somethings wrong, and tell him why you're concerned. He could just not care about his weight, but doesn't hurt to ask.

lensflare15

Tell him to lose weight. If he doesn't, call him fat and unsexy. It'll make him feel bad about himself and he'll go on a diet...maybe.

Give him a gentle hint, like, sit on his lap and tell him what you want for Christmas.