My friend is Depressed :(

To make a long story short, my friend has been suffering from depression for almost two years now, and for the past six months we haven't been as close. I can't stand IMing her anymore because I hate being her emo sponge, I feel like I'm the only person she turns to. I used to get really worried and care about her but now I feel like she's doing it just to whine. It gets beyond emotionally exhausting for me, and she knows this and now she's mad at me because I don't IM her much.

I was thinking about taking a break from her... Because really, I can't stand her lately. >_> Good idea? Or bad?

EDIT: Alright, fixed it from emo to depressed for all you politically correct people. Emo wasn't a jab at her, she's even said "I'm so emo" before but apparently it wasn't taken the right way with you guys.

Have you tried to cheer her up?sinistergoggles

Ever since she's gotten like this, yeah. But nothing seems to do it. :(

people who wallow in their own self guilt/doubt get nowhere in life.

if she wants to an hero, let her an hero

people who wallow in their own self guilt/doubt get nowhere in life.

if she wants to an hero, let her an hero

blooddemon666

I don't think it's her fault, but uh... did you mean emo when you said hero?

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people who wallow in their own self guilt/doubt get nowhere in life.

if she wants to an hero, let her an hero

Aquat1cF1sh

I don't think it's her fault, but uh... did you mean emo when you said hero?

a person's view on life and so on is a direct fault of their own :|

sorry, an hero is an internet meme.

Hmmmm... talk to her and tell her how you feel. She won't like it, but it's going to be better if you just go off on a vacation away from her.sinistergoggles

I think I might try that... again.

"my friend has been suffering from depression for almost two years now" If a pyschiatrist diagnosed that, she's not emo, she has an actual problem and you're just being an insensitive a hole.DisturbedChild7

I don't think you'd know what I'm talking about unless you were in my shoes. :? Dealing with a depressed person every day is beyond difficult, why don't you try it some time?

Who knew IMing could be emotionally exhausting :|?Wilfred_Owen

IMing with someone who wants to kill themselves is. :?

It's a phase, if you've committed to being her friend, then you're committed to helping her through things like this. If you're turning away from her when she's reaching for help then that's not friendship. These people aren't just "being emo" or "trying to get attention", they need help, and friends is where it comes from, not so much parents, not the internet. Help her out if you're really her friend.OfficialJab

I've been helping her out for the past two years, but my emotional stability and patience are wearing thin. :?

Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.LJS9502_basic

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

Why is she depressed?

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.Aquat1cF1sh

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.Aquat1cF1sh

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.Aquat1cF1sh

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

No medication?

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[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.Wilfred_Owen

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

I'd like to believe that, but at the same time I don't want to make a beep of myself if it IS real. :? She says it's working slowly but man. All my friends and I are really getting tired of it.

[QUOTE="Aquat1cF1sh"]

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Depression is a mental illness....and if she has true depression she needs to see a professional.LJS9502_basic

She's been seeing one for the past six months, but apparently it's not doing much. :(

No medication?

She's on Prozac, that I know. :? It's just a whole mess.

She's on Prozac, that I know. :? It's just a whole mess.

Aquat1cF1sh

Then she isn't doing it because she wants to...she has problems.

[QUOTE="Aquat1cF1sh"]

She's on Prozac, that I know. :? It's just a whole mess.

LJS9502_basic

Then she isn't doing it because she wants to...she has problems.

I know, but it's becoming stressful on ME because of it and I don't know what to do. :?

Tell her to go watch Monty Python?Samwel_X

100% serious suggestion: Take her to the top of a mountain, hike to a cliff. Take her hand and yank her off along with you. Make sure theres a safety net or bungee cord or something. Maybe this totally random experience will shock her out of her current state of mind. Side effects may include :Death upon impact, loss of limbs, truama, lifelong fear of heights, phobia of mountaintops I was kinda the same way for a lil while and I acted like a total A**hole to all my friends until they stopped caring. Then had a totally random kid who i have spoken probably 4 words to until he cheered me up and told me how much people did care . After that I had improved self esteem, a new bestfriend, and some chick-fil-a in the fridge =Papples001

That's actually a good idea. XD I mean like. She says she wants to die pretty much every day but I think an incident occurring that would make her come close to death but live would make her realize just how lucky she is.

people who wallow in their own self guilt/doubt get nowhere in life.

if she wants to an hero, let her an hero

blooddemon666

Dude, you're pure evil. And you just made my day :P.

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="Aquat1cF1sh"]

She's on Prozac, that I know. :? It's just a whole mess.

Aquat1cF1sh

Then she isn't doing it because she wants to...she has problems.

I know, but it's becoming stressful on ME because of it and I don't know what to do. :?

Ask your parents for help.

Ask her parents for help.

Ask the school counselor.

Remember, you're not alone ;)

Just cause she's depressed doesn't mean she's emo man. :lol:

It's just that she's depressed. please,do change the topic title.

To make a long story short, my friend has been suffering from depression for almost two years now, and for the past six months we haven't been as close. I can't stand IMing her anymore because I hate being her emo sponge, I feel like I'm the only person she turns to. I used to get really worried and care about her but now I feel like she's doing it just to whine. It gets beyond emotionally exhausting for me, and she knows this and now she's mad at me because I don't IM her much.

I was thinking about taking a break from her... Because really, I can't stand her lately. >_> Good idea? Or bad?

Aquat1cF1sh

If it's the latter, then tell her to grow the hell up, but I might treat it a little differently if she actually has a decent reason. But still, two years is two YEARS. She needs to get over herself. Screw the whole "depression is an illness" thing. People were depressed long before today, and guess what? They got over it, without the help of professional doctors and medication.