My girlfriend broke up with me :(

2 weeks ago she broke up with me. I've kinda played it cool and haven't talked to her so I don't look needyor crazy, I want her back though. Any advice, comments, ANYTHING.

go out with her sister

Watch porn.

No sister and porn is not as good as a real girl. We dated for 3 years. I don't even know what it's like to be single.

Ah yes well I suppose that can be rough... perhaps a singles bar?

No sister and porn is not as good as a real girl. We dated for 3 years. I don't even know what it's like to be single.

g4ronin

No sister and porn is not as good as a real girl. We dated for 3 years. I don't even know what it's like to be single.

g4ronin

3 years, hmm. Did she give a reason that you can share? Would help us in the advice department. People who date for that long don't just break up on a whim.

move on....

Watch porn.

RedEyedMonster8

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Drink your sorrows away.

This is true, there must be reason. I will give more background. She was away in Ireland studying abroad for a month and broke up with me the day she got back. She said that she found that she enjoyed and didn't know if she wanted to have the idea of having to give time to something else. She told she was sorry, but she was going to be selfish and wanted to see who she was. She had been a in long relationship before me and said she basically hadn't been singel in 5 years. She is only 20 though. HELP

This is true, there must be reason. I will give more background. She was away in Ireland studying abroad for a month and broke up with me the day she got back. She said that she found that she enjoyed and didn't know if she wanted to have the idea of having to give time to something else. She told she was sorry, but she was going to be selfish and wanted to see who she was. She had been a in long relationship before me and said she basically hadn't been singel in 5 years. She is only 20 though. HELP

g4ronin

She... met some Irish boy and was cheating on you?

Sounds like to me u just got DUMPED !!!!!!!!

lol

this is why I don't even want to have a girlfriend.

Listen to some doowop, I recommend Dion and the Belmonts, it helped when my girl dumped me.

"Lovers who wander"

"The Wanderer"

"Runaround Sue"

"Donna the Prima Donna"

Keep playing it cool, don't write her, call her, or text her.

Sounds like to me u just got DUMPED !!!!!!!!

Norg

Scraping your feet agianst the floor and chasing after girl who threw you awaylike a dog?...........Dude

This played in my head when I read your sentence. But you know what? Gamespot OT will be your friend (I was going with the cheap hooker thing but come on, this place is just as good, and its free.), well, somebody will be your friend. Not me. Well.....I'm sounding like a jerk. Jerk kinda rhymes with lurk. Look at me, I'm bustin a rhyme up in here.

Touch her shoulder. I bet you didn't touch it enough.

if i were you i wouldve been like "what..." and then walked home

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This is true, there must be reason. I will give more background. She was away in Ireland studying abroad for a month and broke up with me the day she got back. She said that she found that she enjoyed and didn't know if she wanted to have the idea of having to give time to something else. She told she was sorry, but she was going to be selfish and wanted to see who she was. She had been a in long relationship before me and said she basically hadn't been singel in 5 years. She is only 20 though. HELP

She... met some Irish boy and was cheating on you?

Sounds like to me u just got DUMPED !!!!!!!!

Because lots of OT members are insensitive, juvenile, and inconsiderate to others feelings? Atleast thats what I get from some members. TC should have expected some stuff like this though from the get go, this is OT after all -_-;MuddVader

This is true, there must be reason. I will give more background. She was away in Ireland studying abroad for a month and broke up with me the day she got back. She said that she found that she enjoyed and didn't know if she wanted to have the idea of having to give time to something else. She told she was sorry, but she was going to be selfish and wanted to see who she was. She had been a in long relationship before me and said she basically hadn't been singel in 5 years. She is only 20 though. HELP

g4ronin

Are you about the same age? It's at about that time that most people tend to go through that phase. We are cast out into the real world and finally get to experience life, but the first step is carving your own identity. She has probably identified herself one certain way for the last 20 years and has now realized that it doesn't fit her as well as it used to.

My advice: if you love her, you need to let her do this. Give her time to figure out who she is, because she can't be happy if she has to pick a path in life that she isn't ready for. In the meantime, I suggest you do the same. Take some time to try new things and explore your world. Once you both know yourselves you'll be able to continue the relationship if you still want to.

Why did you guys break up? This could help with my answer.

sorry dude, i feel for you im in the same boat

At 20 there's still lots of stuff she needs to figure out herself, I wouldn't give it too much thought....

Stuff like this happens, thus far in life I haven't met anyone who hasn't broken up even once in a relationship. Take it for what it is, learn your experience, and move on. Don't have any unrealistic expectations on this relationship or on the girl, it will just make it that much more difficult to move on, and it seems like she have moved on already without you....

2 weeks ago she broke up with me. I've kinda played it cool and haven't talked to her so I don't look needyor crazy, I want her back though. Any advice, comments, ANYTHING.

g4ronin

spare a thought for those who are locked in to two years contracts or something like that. what am i talking about? nevermind...

I'm sorry you're sad and it's understandable, but why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Not that easy to answer, I know. Let her do what she wants. If she doesn't appreciate you she doesn't deserve to be with you.

This is true, there must be reason. I will give more background. She was away in Ireland studying abroad for a month and broke up with me the day she got back. She said that she found that she enjoyed and didn't know if she wanted to have the idea of having to give time to something else. She told she was sorry, but she was going to be selfish and wanted to see who she was. She had been a in long relationship before me and said she basically hadn't been singel in 5 years. She is only 20 though. HELP

g4ronin

This is going to sound harsh, but unfortunately the truth often is:

You are not going to get her back. At least, not for a long time. This is not a "you messed up, did something stupid, you appologize, she gets over it situation."

This is a "she is only 20, wants to party, wants to have fum, wants to date many people, got a taste of being single and liked it situation."

This is perfectly normal at that age.

At least she was honest with you. She told you exactly what she felt and wants. It may be hard to accept, but it is the truth.

Now maybe later on when she is done having "fun" she may want you back. But that could be a looong time (like years), and it may be never.

My advice to you is to go out and do the same thing. Have fun. OR if you are ready to settle down find someone else that wants the same things you do.

Is it not better to end this way than her coming back and being in a relationship she does not want to be in and yall end up hating each other or she ends up chearting on you?

...I don't even know what it's like to be single.

g4ronin

that sucks, three years is a long time I'm sure you had something very special with her...

Sorry to hear that mate.

Sorry to hear that mate.

lilasianwonder

Sounds like to me u just got DUMPED !!!!!!!!

Norg

Sounds to me like she hooked up with some Irish guy while she was over there. Or perhaps she is experimenting, you know with the same gender as herself

At that age, it's very common for people to not want to get tied down. I have a feeling this is purely an age related thing, and that you simply have to let it go and move on. I was in a very similar situation to yours - a lengthy high school relationship that ended because my girlfriend wanted to "explore the world." Simply put, people change a lot in their late teens and early 20s, and their goals and ideals change with them. She likely no longer feels the two of you are a good match in the long run. Just remain cordial. It'll hurt for a while, but you should remind yourself that there are advantages to being single, too. She's not the only one who is no longer tied down. It sounds cliche, but you really do have your life ahead of you, and there will be other girls. Especially if you're off to university.

Right now, just live your life as you would without her involved. Do the things you normally like to do, but do them more. And if there was anything that you never felt you had time to do when you were in your relationship, definitely do it now, as it will help you appreciate the advantages of your situation. Being single isn't "bad," it's just "different."

At that age, it's very common for people to not want to get tied down. I have a feeling this is purely an age related thing, and that you simply have to let it go and move on. I was in a very similar situation to yours - a lengthy high school relationship that ended because my girlfriend wanted to "explore the world." Simply put, people change a lot in their late teens and early 20s, and their goals and ideals change with them. She likely no longer feels the two of you are a good match in the long run. Just remain cordial. It'll hurt for a while, but you should remind yourself that there are advantages to being single, too. She's not the only one who is no longer tied down. It sounds cliche, but you really do have your life ahead of you, and there will be other girls. Especially if you're off to university.

Right now, just live your life as you would without her involved. Do the things you normally like to do, but do them more. And if there was anything that you never felt you had time to do when you were in your relationship, definitely do it now, as it will help you appreciate the advantages of your situation. Being single isn't "bad," it's just "different."

pianist

Did you steal that sig from a banded user?

Anyway give yourself sometime then find yourself a new girlfriend.

Drink up me hearties and trash talk her while doing it...............yo ho

also you can do better I'm sure she is just afraid of commitment and she is emotionally broken and afraid of love