Need girl help

There's this girl I really like for no reason. I know her very well for some years now but I never get along with her, we usually do not respect each other and make fun of one another with each on of us trying to demean the other when we're around each other. I stopped talking to her and minimized my interaction with her because it was making me feel like shit. I don't know why I like her and its really weird, but I bottle my feeling up because I can't get along with her.

I can't ask her out suddenly because that would be totally awkward and unexpected. Even if we did, we won't get along and we'd just end up arguing. She's overly confident and good looking. She's crazy and not easy to talk to which is why I'm suffering.

I've been attracted to her for so long and I honestly don't know how to act on it without getting insulted from her and getting hurt or screwing up big time. I told her I like her a lot once and she just changed the subject. I really don't want to regret anything in my life by letting her go, any advice ot?

Forget her. You'd be wasting your time and energy. Find another attractive girl that treats you nicely.

Just ask her out and see how this goes. Simple as that.

Might a suggest a lobotomy? It's the newest thing in treatment of mental disorders.

Maybe there's some sexual tension between you two..

But honestly, it sounds like she genuinely hates you.

Just go tell her your sorry for being mean and just leave it at that and see where that goes.

@jdiggle: We don't get along. We would talk, then something would make her make fun of me which i'll retaliate by making fun of her etc...

@lamprey263: I did that. We'd talk again normally, she'd joke about me for something which I'd retaliate by joking about her and the cycle goes on. She's a bully.

Just ask her to coffee, then a movie and/or dinner, then Netflix that beast.

First piece of advice, never stick your dick in crazy

Second piece of advice, don't ask for dating advice from the internet

If you don't get along, you probably shouldn't get into a relationship with her.

I've lived with a couple that didn't get along, and let me tell you that was clearly not a healthy relationship, lol.

I wouldn't retaliate to be honest, especially if you want to start a relationship. She may be wanting a rise out of you, and you're giving her the satisfaction. Anyways, but if she really is a bully, then I would just reconsider asking her out. She probably isn't entirely a good thing for you, no matter what your feelings tell you otherwise. If she acts abusive and you really don't get along, then more serious things will just end in agony.

Sounds like you're attracted to her looks rather then the person, which isn't the best basis to get into a relationship.

Damn sister...

That's not real love, you don't want her you're just lusting after her because you know she's unattainable. If you did get with her you would find out you're not compatible and that you never really wanted her, and that you don't like her in the end. You're just lusting after her, don't let your false feelings trick you, find someone else that will appreciate you.

Forget her with cocaine, booze and hookers.

Wait-wait-wait...on a gaming forum? A guy needs help with girls?

I refuse to believe it.

OP has Stockholm syndrome.

This is a real chicken or the egg sort of question. Did OP demean said lust interest first, or did she hate him before that?

The thing that's got me here is that OP confessed his interest in crazy girl, and she gave no response and changed the subject. That's either because she kind of appreciated the gesture but didn't know how to respond, or else she felt like it was awkward and out of character and wanted to save him the embarrassment.

How would she even know when you're being serious at this point, if you two are constantly screwing around and hating on each other?

If you really want answers, you should take her aside and try to talk about this to find some. But based off of the topic, I'd say you both are sounding like a potentially horrid match.......but maybe it's so horrid that it defies all logic and is somehow wonderful?

I think it can work if you're super assertive. If you're shy and whatever she will see it as another opportunity to demean you. If you're assertive and dominant she will be confused and you'll be in charge. Women are attracted to these sort of things. Asking her out suddenly and assertively is to your advantage.

I was in a similar situation with a girl at uni.

She was beautiful but a total bitch to most people around her, she would show occasional glimmers of a very attractive personality and then mask them as quickly as they had arrived. Im a glutton for punishment and took it upon myself to unearth those occasional moments of beauty and work out why it was she never let anyone get close to her. Anyway we got drunk at a party once and I called her out, I asked her why she would be so horrible to those around her when people just wanted to be close to her.

Long story short, she cried, as it turns out she didnt really like people. She explained that she found it incredibly draining to be nice when she didnt feel like being nice and despite wanting to be like every body else...decided she wasnt going to pretend. We were a lot closer after that conversation because I had a greater respect and understanding behind her choices. It wasnt a mask, or her being a "bitch". She just wanted to be left alone, which people had a hard time grasping because she was gorgeous.

I I totally appreciate its never going to be a healthy endeavour but I do find myself inexplicably attracted to cold hearted sexy women.

Find yourself another woman

Sounds like she's the wrong one for you. Leave that one alone, move on. You'll be glad you did.

this situation you are talking about is pretty weird . but of course you should date a girl that treats you nicely . not someone who makes you feel bad about yourself .

@DrPickle: So that's kinda hot bro. You have a real life porno scenario on your hands. So you know some girl for years, never got along with her but want to slip it in her vejeen? If you ever get to that point I'm sure it will feel as though you've reached sexual resolve, social resolve, and some other. If she's cute, you like her, and it's worth going after the chase then it could end up being one orgasmic experience like I just described. :P

@Ovirew: The thing that scares me the most is how similar she is to me, thats probably the reason why I like her. She's a bully just like me and we share some other personality traits which kinda turns me on! The only difference is that I've realized how much I'm into her despite her shit personality traits (which I may confess, I share them too) like being a bully or rude for no reason and the amount of cussing I do... She's indifferent to me just like I'm indifferent to lots of girls who tried to swoon me before so I totally understand her reaction. But dammit now I'm the victim and I really really want her. Lust is killing me.

@mikejred1991: I did that before, it only serves to stroke her ego. Like I'd say something like, "'you're cute" and she'd retaliate by something like "Aww, thanks I know I'm absolutely gorgeous".. She's full of herself and loves stroking her ego, and when I compliment and flirt with her a lot she kinda thinks I'm weak and gives her a way to joke about me more. So I stopped and I started challenging her a bit by joking on her and being a bit of a sexist to her feminism, it worked for a while and she got a bit interested to me as our conversations kinda always heated up throwing jokes around each other.. but as I said in the OP, I got reallyyy attracted to her and it started affecting me and making me feel like shit. I hardly know how to interact with her now so I avoid her.

I did that before, it only serves to stroke her ego.

Tell her to stroke your male ego. Your Pickle.

@prickpear: Once she was whining and insulting me for no reason so I told her "I'd love to see you naked" mid conversation in front of some guys. She just said "Öh My God" and walked away.

@DrPickle: She's playing hard to get. Grab her and kiss her. It will be just like in the romantic comedies... she'll slap you then passionate sex will ensue.

its bit hard to follow this conversation ^^ ... but why dont you write an (e)mail explainimg your feelings/thoughts and see what happens next when you two meet at a puplic place ?

@prickpear: I'm sure she'd love it. But the thing is shes very modest and comes from a religious family even though shes totally a slut deep inside. She's one of those no sex before relationship kinda person so I doubt it she's gonna let me do her. There is no use in embarrassing myself like that and potentially ruining my chances with her.

@omotih: She would totally call me gay and tell me to grow some balls or something. She's not the nicest person around, shes a bully. And when I do grow some balls and tell her that I like her she just changes the subject and act like she didn't understand. Ugh, women are confusing.

Perhaps you just want to sleep with her, given that you find her attractive and in every other way, are not a match for her.

Move on man, plenty of hot girls out there are equally nice in every other way.

@DrPickle: Let me lead you in the right direction:

@seanh: We have soo much in common. That's probably the only reason that got me attracted to her. She's not the most beautiful girl I ever saw, they're many way more gorgeous girls out there. Its only after we started joking on each other a lot that I got attracted to her, not I stopped though.

I wonder why that is ^^ ... whats her age ?

this goes both ways of course ^^

@DrPickle: Okay, so ask her for a date. So how far you get.

Depending on the ages (I'm assuming teenagers here) there could be a mutual attraction and you've both decided separately to showcase that attraction in a very awkward manner (not uncommon for that age). Ask her out and see where it goes. If she says no, move on with your life.

@omotih: That's a hood classic. Were you going through my YT history or something?

no, but maybe I should ... j/k ^^

@omotih:

I will give you an example which is kind of similar although a different set of circumstances but the message is still the same.

I was dating a girl who had a friend that was the "hot chick." Everyone liked this girl. She was the girl that dudes wanted in highschool. She was athletic, parents were rich & she was hot. I was dating her friend and I found out this girl was a total pig.

Once while swimming she suddenly ran out of the pool around to where my girlfriend was sunbathing squatted above her head and let out this huge fart. It struck me because I'd never seen her act like this. We'd never really hung out before this day of swimming but it continued she'd fart, burp, and act like a fucking slob & began mouthing off at everything I said. We'd be out somewhere and she'd try to make fun of me. Out of respect and being my girlfriends best friend I didn't say much just politely took it.

When in the presence of her boyfriend however... her attitude changed entirely. She became the quiet, polite, demure, attractive nice girl.

I soon realized she acted like this because basically she hated me & didn't give a shit what I thought.

Which is most likely the case with this girl. She's hanging out with you probably because she either has to out of some societal norm be it class, work or relation. Other then that she probably wouldn't give you the time of day. Want to find out ? Simply ask her out to dinner, coffee... or just ****. Hey who knows some girls are into that.