Need ideas about a first date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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#1 muscleserge
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Well I got a girls number today. She is quite pretty, and she is in one of my classes at college. I just went up and asked her, she agreed gave me her phone number etc.... Now my problem is what to do on the first date. I am not from the US and currently live in NYC, I have no idea how Americans date and what they talk about on dates, what are some good places to go on a first date. Some other questions are do I bring her a flower, what is the best time of day. I plan on calling her and arrange a meeting on a friday. All help would be greatly appreciated.
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ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"
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Make sure to touch her shoulder.
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ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"muppet1010
LOL, I'll do that right now.
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Starbucks. Don't listen to the other people. The last thing you want to do is make a bad first impression.
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I'd take her to dinner, personally. Not a crazy upscale restaurant or anything, maybe something a little offbeat or just casual without stepping down into hole-in-the-wall or fast food territory.
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[QUOTE="muppet1010"]ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"muscleserge
LOL, I'll do that right now.

Dude, I hope you're being sarcastic. :?

Dinner/Starbucks sounds good...

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You live in NYC i have never been to NY but take her out to dinner or a coffee shop and then go for a walk through the city. dont make the mistake that many make and go to a movie thats just a bad idea. Just take her somewhere where you can both talk and get to know each other.
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[QUOTE="muscleserge"][QUOTE="muppet1010"]ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"Funkyhamster

LOL, I'll do that right now.

Dude, I hope you're being sarcastic. :?

Dinner/Starbucks sounds good...

Of course I was kidding, would be interesting to get a positive response though. So Starbuck or a small restaurant. It sound good, but I know nothing about her but her name.
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God I really wish I would have saved that pic now....

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Of course I was kidding, would be interesting to get a positive response though. So Starbuck or a small restaurant. It sound good, but I know nothing about her but her name.muscleserge

I couldn't tell... my saracasm detector is off today. :?

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[QUOTE="Funkyhamster"]

[QUOTE="muscleserge"][QUOTE="muppet1010"]ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"muscleserge

LOL, I'll do that right now.

Dude, I hope you're being sarcastic. :?

Dinner/Starbucks sounds good...

Of course I was kidding, would be interesting to get a positive response though. So Starbuck or a small restaurant. It sound good, but I know nothing about her but her name.

well picture it... you ring her up and say that... and she says "yeah sure... I'd love too!!!" and goes on to say "you can pick me up at 7"

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God I really wish I would have saved that pic now....

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dont make the mistake that many make and go to a movie thats just a bad ideazeldafan00013

Good advice. The point of a first date is to get to know the person. Kind of hard to do when you're thrust into a setting that doesn't permit conversation. Coffee shop and a walk around town is a great idea.

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[QUOTE="army-of_one"]

God I really wish I would have saved that pic now....

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LOL, I love this pic.
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Like I said before, the fact that you come to an Internet forum for advice shows your lack of confidence and self-esteem, which will not get your far. Work on that.

But as for a first date idea, why not just a cup of coffee, or lunch at the cafe between classes? Just remember don't be nervous. Be yourself, be natural, don't force anything. If she senses that you are uneasy, she becomes uneasy as well, and the bad experience will prevent her from wanting to hang out with you.

Just go grab a coffee with her and see how it goes. If you two don't have any sparks, then move on for someone else. Don't be obsessed by her pretty face. If it is just a piece of meat you are after, she would be right to say no to you.

P.S. Oh, you said "a flower." Ha ha.

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A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die)
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If the weather's nice, going for a stroll and talking can be a great first date.
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#19 yian
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Marisa you are lucky. I would never bring a flower to my first date. Maybe second or third, but never the first.
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#20 muscleserge
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Like I said before, the fact that you come to an Internet forum for advice shows your lack of confidence and self-esteem, which will not get your far. Work on that.

But as for a first date idea, why not just a cup of coffee, or lunch at the cafe between classes? Just remember don't be nervous. Be yourself, be natural, don't force anything. If she senses that you are uneasy, she becomes uneasy as well, and the bad experience will prevent her from wanting to hang out with you.

Just go grab a coffee with her and see how it goes. If you two don't have any sparks, then move on for someone else. Don't be obsessed by her pretty face. If it is just a piece of meat you are after, she would be right to say no to you.

P.S. Oh, you said "a flower." Ha ha.

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Its not the lack of confidence, I can be quite confident, it is just that I only have one class with her and after ward she sort of runs off, I had to run to catch her today after class. I was thinking about Friday, are day dates good, there is a botanical garden near me so I might take her there and then go for some coffee. Also I have a class with her again on thursday, so that is pretty awkward. BTW Internet forums are a pretty good way t o ask these things after all people do socialize.
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put her in a bag
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#22 muscleserge
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put her in a bagRamboSymbiot
"writes" -put h in a bag-. i'll keep it in mind
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#23 yian
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I see. Things like these are usually very straightforward, however, that's why I felt it was weird why so many people have to ask for advice from a forum. I mean, there is really nothing to it. Don't plan too much. Go with the flow.
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Grab something to eat at a restaurant or something when you both have free time. I would suggest small talk (just a few random things, classes, old friends, etc, etc.)
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I'd take her to dinner, personally. Not a crazy upscale restaurant or anything, maybe something a little offbeat or just casual without stepping down into hole-in-the-wall or fast food territory.DJ_Lae
Yeah, and try not be have one of those new metropolitian sports bars that really try to be classy...ummm, whats that called.... "Bar Louie" we just got in milwaukee, and IMO its a flawp. Just go to a place that you like to eat thats less than say 20 bucks a plate for most plates.
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#26 yian
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Grab something to eat at a restaurant or something when you both have free time. I would suggest small talk (just a few random things, classes, old friends, etc, etc.)MattUD1

Best idea so far.

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[QUOTE="MattUD1"]Grab something to eat at a restaurant or something when you both have free time. I would suggest small talk (just a few random things, classes, old friends, etc, etc.)yian

Best idea so far.

You think it will work with a stranger.
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#28 yian
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[QUOTE="yian"]

[QUOTE="MattUD1"]Grab something to eat at a restaurant or something when you both have free time. I would suggest small talk (just a few random things, classes, old friends, etc, etc.)muscleserge

Best idea so far.

You think it will work with a stranger.

Yeah, definitely. The important thing is to talk. What else were you planning on doing?

Like I said, you think too much. Be confident and get on with it. You can do it! :)

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[QUOTE="Funkyhamster"]

[QUOTE="muscleserge"][QUOTE="muppet1010"]ring her up and say "do you want to come to the party in my pants?"muscleserge

LOL, I'll do that right now.

Dude, I hope you're being sarcastic. :?

Dinner/Starbucks sounds good...

Of course I was kidding, would be interesting to get a positive response though. So Starbuck or a small restaurant. It sound good, but I know nothing about her but her name.

Lol. I thought you were serious, and I would've been saying "you failed".

Yes, not a fancy wancy restaurant though because you aren't in a deep relationship. Go to the movies, to a pizza place, maybe to a fair...Pratically anywhere...

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#30 yian
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Not the movies! Be sure you go somewhere that you can talk to each other. Get to know each other better!
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I've always thought that an aimless walk is the ideal date.
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#32 ChicaQueenWarGa
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Not the movies! Be sure you go somewhere that you can talk to each other. Get to know each other better!yian

That's why they invented previews. For money and talking time :D

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Speaking of flowers, a bouquet of flowers just arrived at my house!! In one of those beautiful flower boxes!!!!

With a card inside that says

"Beauty lies not in the inside, or the outside, but in you...let these flowers represent the garden that blooms within your heart.
I'm here for you,
-Seth"


Omg!!! ^_^ *Faints*
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Flowers are old-school, and work every time. 8)
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[QUOTE="army-of_one"]

God I really wish I would have saved that pic now....

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lmfao i love this pic

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If said class requires studying, set up a time with her to study at a library or something.

It's funny because I did that very same thing today, it's a great way to talk even if just somewhat quietly, and it doesn't give off that sort of vibe that you're moving in too quickly. But of course, Starbucks works wonders too. :P

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[QUOTE="yian"]

Like I said before, the fact that you come to an Internet forum for advice shows your lack of confidence and self-esteem, which will not get your far. Work on that.

But as for a first date idea, why not just a cup of coffee, or lunch at the cafe between classes? Just remember don't be nervous. Be yourself, be natural, don't force anything. If she senses that you are uneasy, she becomes uneasy as well, and the bad experience will prevent her from wanting to hang out with you.

Just go grab a coffee with her and see how it goes. If you two don't have any sparks, then move on for someone else. Don't be obsessed by her pretty face. If it is just a piece of meat you are after, she would be right to say no to you.

P.S. Oh, you said "a flower." Ha ha.

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Its not the lack of confidence, I can be quite confident, it is just that I only have one class with her and after ward she sort of runs off, I had to run to catch her today after class. I was thinking about Friday, are day dates good, there is a botanical garden near me so I might take her there and then go for some coffee. Also I have a class with her again on thursday, so that is pretty awkward. BTW Internet forums are a pretty good way t o ask these things after all people do socialize.

do you live in queens? if so, go for a walk around flushing medow park. nice, quiet and empty ;)
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Speaking of flowers, a bouquet of flowers just arrived at my house!! In one of those beautiful flower boxes!!!!

With a card inside that says

"Beauty lies not in the inside, or the outside, but in you...let these flowers represent the garden that blooms within your heart.
I'm here for you,
-Seth"


Omg!!! ^_^ *Faints*_Marisa_

How sweet ^__^! Sounds like a sweet guy.
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A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) _Marisa_

That's really sweet...

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I've always thought that an aimless walk is the ideal date.quiglythegreat
Except don't end up walking into a gay nightclub by accident with her. It did not go well.
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#41 _Marisa_
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[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]Speaking of flowers, a bouquet of flowers just arrived at my house!! In one of those beautiful flower boxes!!!!

With a card inside that says

"Beauty lies not in the inside, or the outside, but in you...let these flowers represent the garden that blooms within your heart.
I'm here for you,
-Seth"


Omg!!! ^_^ *Faints*CottonTheMoth

How sweet ^__^! Sounds like a sweet guy.



Thanks :D He is! I'm a very lucky girl.
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#42 _Marisa_
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[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) TongHua

That's really sweet...



:D Thanks, I'm the hopeless romantic type :oops: I'm a sucker for the lovey dovey stuff :P
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[QUOTE="TongHua"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) _Marisa_

That's really sweet...



:D Thanks, I'm the hopeless romantic type :oops: I'm a sucker for the lovey dovey stuff :P

Wish I knew girls like that. The most romantic thing these ones can think of is either "Justin Timberlake tickets b/c hez liek hawt!" or getting 100% on a math quiz.
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[QUOTE="TongHua"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) _Marisa_

That's really sweet...



:D Thanks, I'm the hopeless romantic type :oops: I'm a sucker for the lovey dovey stuff :P

That's the one aspect of relationships I unconditionally dislike.
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[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="TongHua"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) Greedo_What

That's really sweet...



:D Thanks, I'm the hopeless romantic type :oops: I'm a sucker for the lovey dovey stuff :P

Wish I knew girls like that. The most romantic thing these ones can think of is either "Justin Timberlake tickets b/c hez liek hawt!" or getting 100% on a math quiz.



Justin Timberlake :lol:

To be honest, I really don't think he's very good looking :? I'm sure there are other girls out there who care more about quizes and stupid preppy singers, you just have to know where to look :P
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#47 _Marisa_
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[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="TongHua"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]A flower would be nice ^_^

On my boyfriend and I's first date, he got me flowers and cute little stuffed red fox, because he knew that I always wanted a red fox as a pet one day...so he got me the closest thing to it :D I practically kissed him the whole time we were driving :lol: (Mostly at red lights of course :P I don't want to die) quiglythegreat

That's really sweet...



:D Thanks, I'm the hopeless romantic type :oops: I'm a sucker for the lovey dovey stuff :P

That's the one aspect of relationships I unconditionally dislike.



You're missing out :P
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Take her to Sparks Steakhouse and you'll be good to go.