OT when did you know that you were in love?

This question is open to anyone but I would appreciate more....how do I say...."adult" answers in terms of love and marriage and whatnot. I'm not looking for "oh I'm in 10th grade and I love my girlfriend/boyfriend there soo cute" kinda answers.

Here is my situation.

Currently I live with my girlfriend and her 3 roomates (yes I am the only guy there so please feel free to insert any joke you want) and I go to college. Now I care for my girlfriend and everything but recently I met this other women, now I would NEVER cheat on anyone but there I feel there is some sort of strange "bond" if you will between me and this other girl.

What happened was as I was leaving my house to go to my buddies house my car got a flat so I had to call up my other buddy so he could give me a ride to his house. Along the way we had to stop at another friends house to grab something, anyway he said it would be awhile and I didn't feel like waiting there so I wentfor a quick walk around the nearby park. Next to the park is a church and as I was walking by there was a crowd of people entering it andI bumped into a woman, I turned aroundto say "I'm sorry excuse me" but then her and I sort of "met" eyes and I felt something weird... We both smiled at each other and then some body yelled something and she ran into the church and before she entered she looked back at me and smiled again.

Then the people outside the church invited me to join them and I sort of got pushed along with the crowd into the building and I took a seat sort of towards the back. While there the woman turned back and I caught her staring at me...and I stared back and smiled. She kept turning back around and we could not keep our eyes off each other. After the service I talked to her and the conversation went very well and we foundand she invited me back next week and I told her I would only if she would go out with me, she laughed and agreed and asked me if I have any more cheap ways of getting dates.

So I took her out and we got along very well and found out that we have alot in common (she plays video games too among other things) and thenwe kissed.We have been seeing each other after work just about everyday and we are always meeting up and talking to each otherand I have been going to her church forabout the past 3 weeks now. We also buy each other gifts too and her friend told me that the woman I am seeing wants to take our reationship to the next level.

Now my problem is that I alreadyhave a girlfriend but I have never been more happy than I have been with this other women, and neither of them know about the other. My girlfriend has no idea what's going on and the other woman doesn't know I have a girlfriend, I want to be with the other woman but I don't want to hurt my Girlfriend, so what do I do? I'm just so happy when I'm with this other girl and she I think I make her happy because she's always laughing and smiling when I'm around and her friend said her eyes light up when she sees me.

Also I am Jewish (ethnically) and I am not a Christian. Not saying that christians are bad or anything and I am open to the idea ofChristianity, I'm just still trying to "find" my faith you know.

What do I do? Am I in love? I have noidea what's going on... has anyone been in a similar situation?

Sorry for the long post btw :P

My heart is too cold to feel love.

When I played Zelda Majora's Mask.

Now I care for my girlfriend and everything but recently I met this other women, now I would NEVER cheat on anyoneShadowMoses900

So I took her out and we got along very well and found out that we have alot in common (she plays video games too among other things) and thenwe kissed.We have been seeing each other after work just about everyday and we are always meeting up and talking to each otherand I have been going to her church forabout the past 3 weeks now. We also buy each other gifts too and her friend told me that the woman I am seeing wants to take our reationship to the next level.ShadowMoses900

Um, OP? I hate to break this to you buddy but you've already done that.

Aside from that your story sounds pretty far fetched. Something straight out of what I'd see in a movie my gf drags me too. Are you sure all these events happened, and in the order you're saying they did?

>Title about love
> "adult" answers in terms of love and marriage and whatnot
>now I would NEVER cheat on anyone

*reads the rest of OP*




TC just broke my irony meter.

now I would NEVER cheat on anyone ...

ShadowMoses900

Uh....

But anyway, how do you feel about your current girlfriend. Do you not think you love her as well?

Don't get so caught up in something just because its something new. I've fallen in "love" with someone before only to realize that wasn't really the case a month later. It was just the whole being swept off my feet thing that I liked. It was more the idea of the person than the actual person. Just be careful and think before you make declarations of love for someone you just met.

You live with your Girlfriend AND her 3 roomates??? giggety!

They're gonna dump you both if you don't choose soon. LustForSoul

Love? When you find yourself inexplicably skipping gaily through a park, frivolously kicking leaves as you sing joyous hymns to the beat of your fluttering heart, then you can safely say you've moved beyond the routine of daily courtship and drunken rumpy pumpy*

* For some people this particular activity may not be applicable

When you find yourself inexplicably skipping gaily through a park, frivolously kicking leaves as you sing joyous hymns to the beat of your fluttering hearty

poptart

[QUOTE="poptart"]When you find yourself inexplicably skipping gaily through a park, frivolously kicking leaves as you sing joyous hymns to the beat of your fluttering hearty

cybrcatter

Well they can have a similar effect - it's all but a burst of serotonin

To answer your thing Shadow Moses, i say rethink your feelings and make a decision soon over which girl you are going to persue. Because if either of them find about the other and your relation to them you have seriously done effe'd yourself.

As far as when do i think i'm in love? It's never early on, i don't want to jump the gun and make declarations. but after a while, like a few months or so if i'm feeling - something that can only be described as - serene happiness when i'm with the girl. Regardless of whatever we are doing, be it special or mundane. If i'm feeling in my heart of hearts like i am one damn lucky guy and that i'd do just about anything for her. Then yeah i'd say i've fallen in love.

and of the four girlfriends (including the current one i'm with) it has only happened twice. The only difference this time and the first is that my girlfriend is reciprocating the feelings.

TC, this is that moment in your life when you realize relationships just don't work for you. There's too many women out there. You don't get in a relationship, you don't have to worry about any of this.

You should play this game called Catherine. It seems like it fits a situation just like yours. XDD

But seriously, If you like this girl more than your current one, break up with your gf. You might have to move in with a friend after the break-up since your living with your GF and all. But dude, you'd say you would never cheat. What your doing is already cheating. You kissed her? Jeez man...

And to answer your question...yeah I have been in love. I could have had a chance with her but I messed it up by not giving her enough attention....

You should play this game called Catherine. It seems like it fits a situation just like yours. XDD

But seriously, If you like this girl more than your current one, break up with your gf. You might have to move in with a friend after the break-up since your living with your GF and all. But dude, you'd say you would never cheat. What your doing is already cheating. You kissed her? Jeez man...

And to answer your question...yeah I have been in love. I could have had a chance with her but I messed it up by not giving her enough attention....

Ikouze

As has been said: you're already cheating on your girlfriend. =/

You should stay with your girlfriend.

If you get with the other girl she might not like the fact that you were in a relationship with someone while you were acting like you were single. Then you'll have nobody. But since you were cheating on your girlfriend after all, I don't think you deserve either of them...:x:P

Oh, and me, I've never dated anyone. I'm 20 and like one girl right now a ton, but she doesn't like me the same way and it's really complicated. I've never been in love though because nobody ever loved me. Not to be too dramatic or anything...:P

Well... I'm sorry I'm in year 11 but I do feel like I am in love. We've only been together 8 months but compared to past relationships, this one just feels right. We have that "bond" and nothing is ever awkward between us. Ever. I do believe we'll be together for a long time and I hope for a long time. We go through so much **** together and come out stronger in the end.

That's how you know you're in love, when you couldn't imagine living without the other person. Now ask yourself - do you feel that way for either of the girls? Before you do anything more stupid please break up with your current girlfriend... do her a favour.

Well... I'm sorry I'm in year 11 but I do feel like I am in love. We've only been together 8 months but compared to past relationships, this one just feels right. We have that "bond" and nothing is ever awkward between us. Ever. I do believe we'll be together for a long time and I hope for a long time. We go through so much **** together and come out stronger in the end.

That's how you know you're in love, when you couldn't imagine living without the other person. Now ask yourself - do you feel that way for either of the girls? Before you do anything more stupid please break up with your current girlfriend... do her a favour.

MrsSolidSnake

YOu know your ion love when your making really stupid mistakes and very poor decisions.

I've been with my significant other for 3 years now and were friends way before that. I think 3 weeks is a little too early to be calling it "love".

when my heart skipped a beat at the very sight of him, when I missed him the second we had to say good-bye, thinking of him makes me happy

if s/he starts singing Afternoon Delight, that's when i'll know

It sounds like the OP has already made his choice.

If you feel like it's okay to cheat on your current girlfriend, then it's probably time to come clean and move on. People don't deserve to be lied to by the people they love and trust the most.

Hahaha! My word.

You live with your Girlfriend AND her 3 roomates??? giggety!

guildclaws