Problem....Advice needed

Ok. well I'll give you the backstory and im sure you will all immdiately grasp my problem at hand.

A few months (june 23rd to be exact) a friend of mine was talking to my girlfriend over MSN chat. My girlfriend did not know however that me and the guy she was talking to knew eachother. Most of their conversation was irrelevant but what was significant is that she spilled that she was going to cheat on me on a cruise she was going on in late october. It is a yearly cruise she goes on with her family and the previous year had a few "physical relations" with some of the guys on it. I don't hold that against her a bit but the thing is that she reassured me that the next one wouldn't be the same (because she had me obviously) before june 23rd happened.

Well after a lot of BS drama and a lot of talking to eachother and over a trillion "i'm sorries" and "she was stupid for even thinking about it"s later, i decided that everyone deserves a second chance and concluded she was sincere about this or why would she still be sticking around dealing with the drama if she really didn't care about me.

Well. I have trusted her since then and everything has been fine but now that the cruise is a week away I'm starting to freak a bit. She has since reassured me about the cruise and says that she isn't stupid enough to screw things up even though she is fully aware that I will never find out about anything that happens on it, as she will be in the Carribean.

The problem is more of with myself than with her. Part of me says "she loves you. She reassured you about it and there's nothing to worry about"

The other part is beginning to overwhelm me though. "She reassured you once and was going to do it so why wouldn't she say it again and still do it?"

So...any ideas on what to do? Should I break up with her or just assume she will remain faithful to me? And do you have any tips to help my mentalality about it?

Someone wise once told me,"once a cheater, always a cheater." to be honest, that person was right. It might be hard but no matter what happens there will always be another person out their.

*Edit* i forgot to mention. I say leave her.

I understand that she had no right to think about it but she has never actually cheated on me. I really do care for her and have no doubt in my mind that she cares about and loves me. I just don't know if I can deal with the worrying tainting my thoughts that whole week where she is going to be out of full contact. Phone calls and texting included.

I understand that she had no right to think about it but she has never actually cheated on me. I really do care for her and have no doubt in my mind that she cares about and loves me. I just don't know if I can deal with the worrying tainting my thoughts that whole week where she is going to be out of full contact. Phone calls and texting included.

AKA_Unreal05

Why? Phones should be able to work. Where is she going?

Cut the cord, man. If she even thought about cheating on you then it's leading for trouble on the cruise, or later down the road. Better to end it now than find her in bed with a Samoan hula dancer who's telling you that "things go be ok".

I said where she was going. The Carribean. She has gone on the same cruise the last 2 years and doesn't get service.

I'm not trying to justify her actions or anything but the one half of me that believes her says that "if she wanted the guys on her cruise that bad wouldn't she have just left when she got caught rather than desperately try to keep me from leaving her?"

I know how guys constantly say that women are cruel and heartless and girls say the same about guys but isn't it just possible for there to be some that are sincere?

I'm not trying to justify her actions or anything but the one half of me that believes her says that "if she wanted the guys on her cruise that bad wouldn't she have just left when she got caught rather than desperately try to keep me from leaving her?"

I know how guys constantly say that women are cruel and heartless and girls say the same about guys but isn't it just possible for there to be some that are sincere?

AKA_Unreal05

If she was sincere... she wouldnt have planned on cheating on you. Like I said, shes only sorry she got caught.

if it means anything at all, she is one of the most attractive girls ive ever dated if that helps my cause ;p

if it means anything at all, she is one of the most attractive girls ive ever dated if that helps my cause ;p

AKA_Unreal05

No because now you're just sounding desperate and finding excuses to stay with her. If you want to stay with her fine. I hope she does remain faithful to you because it stings a whole lot more to get hurt knowing that you could have gotten out on your terms.

if it means anything at all, she is one of the most attractive girls ive ever dated if that helps my cause ;p

AKA_Unreal05

Give it up man everybody said break up with her and im sure your friend did too. There are some things in this world you should't accept and she just stabbed you in the back.