Questions about adoption...

I am Vietnamese and the day i was born i was put up for adoption by my real parents and adopted by a white family. 

About 2 months ago, with the help of my vietnamese friend and HIS family and a paper my (white)mom got from the Hospital at the time of my adoption(dont ask why) with my REAL moms name and SSN on it, i found my real family.  Now i am 16 so i find myself pretty lucky about finding my real family....my blood, at age 16, seeing adoptee's not find their family unitl later on in their lives.

Now i dont want to leave my adopted family and go live with my real family, bc that would be a bitch move, but i would like it to be like switching back and fourth and living with my white family but staying with my real family when ever.  

They ARE my real family by blood and their are my people but how does this work out? Can they still be my family and do things AS family? like my real mom or dad bring me to the doctor or be considered part of the family?

And what happens when im 18? 

Like i know my adopted family is my family by law but what about my real family?

It's pretty f'ed up that you don't consider your adoptive parents as "real family".

Honestly, I think your being a little selfish. You claim you want to switch back and forth between families whenever, but you will begin to inhibit both families if you are constantly traveling between them.

It's pretty f'ed up that you don't consider your adoptive parents as "real family".

Oleg_Huzwog

does your birth family live here in or Vietnam?

Once you're 18 you are legally an adult so you can legally live with either family if they let you or on your own if you can afford to do so.

For now I would advise you to talk to your adoptive parents about it, and if you want to contact your birth parents do so by phone or internet, then maybe you can arrange to visit them with your adoptive family some time, like a big get together.

does your birth family live here in or Vietnam?

Once you're 18 you are legally an adult so you can legally live with either family if they let you or on your own if you can afford to do so.

For now I would advise you to talk to your adoptive parents about it, and if you want to contact your birth parents do so by phone or internet, then maybe you can arrange to visit them with your adoptive family some time, like a big get together.

whipassmt

I don't know if your birth parents may be willing to spend as much time with you, as you want to with them. They gave you up for adoption after all, and it has been 16 years.dramaybaz

[QUOTE="whipassmt"]

does your birth family live here in or Vietnam?

Once you're 18 you are legally an adult so you can legally live with either family if they let you or on your own if you can afford to do so.

For now I would advise you to talk to your adoptive parents about it, and if you want to contact your birth parents do so by phone or internet, then maybe you can arrange to visit them with your adoptive family some time, like a big get together.

biggerdjam

[QUOTE="biggerdjam"][QUOTE="whipassmt"]

does your birth family live here in or Vietnam?

Once you're 18 you are legally an adult so you can legally live with either family if they let you or on your own if you can afford to do so.

For now I would advise you to talk to your adoptive parents about it, and if you want to contact your birth parents do so by phone or internet, then maybe you can arrange to visit them with your adoptive family some time, like a big get together.

whipassmt

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[QUOTE="biggerdjam"] They live 1.5 hours from where i live and i been staying there like every weekend or other weekend for 3-5 days, getting to know everyone..biggerdjam

It's pretty f'ed up that you don't consider your adoptive parents as "real family".

Oleg_Huzwog

Wow hating on the people that raised you and being racist about it.LJS9502_basic

My friend goes between his real family and his family that adopted all the time,dont see the problem Bucked20

Blood doesn't make you family.Fightingfan

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]My friend goes between his real family and his family that adopted all the time,dont see the problem biggerdjam

[QUOTE="biggerdjam"][QUOTE="whipassmt"] Is your adoptive family okay with that? Also I don't think "real family" is the best term to use, particularly in front of your adoptive family.

whipassmt

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Wow hating on the people that raised you and being racist about it.biggerdjam

what part of louisiana, i spent about a year and half down there so I'm just curious. I do remember seeing a lot of asians on the west bank around terry town and on the least bank in New Orleans East, but not so much anywhere else, like baton rouge, lafayette, or abbeyville.

Wouldn't it be difficult for you to fly to Vietnam every time just to hang out? Anyhow, see them once, at the very least write a college entrance essay about the experience and make it sappy and you're a shoe in.lamprey263

I will never understand what compels some people to share this kind of stuff on the Internet all willy nilly. If this website were related to adoption, sure, but a video game forum? Really? REALLY? 

[QUOTE="biggerdjam"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Wow hating on the people that raised you and being racist about it.byof_america

what part of louisiana, i spent about a year and half down there so I'm just curious. I do remember seeing a lot of asians on the west bank around terry town and on the least bank in New Orleans East, but not so much anywhere else, like baton rouge, lafayette, or abbeyville.

I will never understand what compels some people to share this kind of stuff on the Internet all willy nilly. If this website were related to adoption, sure, but a video game forum? Really? REALLY? 

LordQuorthon

Your biological family gave you to another family, but I am sure you could return to your original family with proper paperwork. Foster homes release fostered children once they turn eighteen or twenty-one and the age depends on where the foster home home is. If you want to build a relationship with your original family, as long as their is no legal forbiddence or any by your foster family, you can open relations with them. BranKetra

[QUOTE="BranKetra"]Your biological family gave you to another family, but I am sure you could return to your original family with proper paperwork. Foster homes release fostered children once they turn eighteen or twenty-one and the age depends on where the foster home home is. If you want to build a relationship with your original family, as long as their is no legal forbiddence or any by your foster family, you can open relations with them. biggerdjam

 

Like i know my adopted family is my family by law but what about my real family?

biggerdjam

and u shuld b thankfull to someone who take care of u rather than someone who give u away

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