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#1 feli453
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say u been dating this chick for 9 months then she asks to put the relationship on a break for a month bc she feels like she needs sum time for herself and this is the longest relationship she has had anyone find well weird???

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No... I've done that. She must have a lot going on in her life and is confused about you guys -- or there is a guy she is interested in and doesnt want to be a cheat.
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IS IT ME?
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#4 feli453
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No... I've done that. She must have a lot going on in her life and is confused about you guys -- or there is a guy she is interested in and doesnt want to be a cheat.Sajedene

ooo i dont think its another guy she probably just has a lot going on then i guess??? =/

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I've never heard of anything like that, but I guess it happens since someone here said they've done it before.
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never heard that, hopefully you get her back and not let her run off with someone else.
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No... I've done that. She must have a lot going on in her life and is confused about you guys -- or there is a guy she is interested in and doesnt want to be a cheat.Sajedene

in that case, she should simply break up with the dude.

Sorry, but you cant tell a current-boyfriend "hmmm, I like this other guy, Im gonna put our relationship on hold while I go out for him. Dont worry, if it doesnt work out, I will come back to you".

This is not car shopping; you dont get to shop around for a better deal, making other, opposing parties wait and/or scramble to make a better offer.

No, youre dealing with people's lives, time, and emotions. Either stay commited to a relationship, or end it. Hell, I think I would prefer being cheated on than having my girlfriend say "Im gonna go shop for another dude while we put our relationship on hold". At least if she cheats on you, you can simply say "Its over, see ya" and you dont need to contemplate about it.

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#8 SouL-Tak3R
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That is a basic breakup. Just end it now before either of you are hurt. Just do it.
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#9 needled24-7
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The "I think we should take a break" line is the biggest BS excuse ever.
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#10 Tjeremiah1988
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thats what she said.
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#11 mrbojangles25
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The "I think we should take a break" line is the biggest BS excuse ever.needled24-7

That is a basic breakup. Just end it now before either of you are hurt. Just do it.SouL-Tak3R

Good advice

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#12 ff3138
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That doesn't sound good, why don't you talk to her, not us
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Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.
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#14 feli453
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i did talk to her and she said she not breaking up wit me she just feels like she needs sum time for herself
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#15 ff3138
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Shoryuken?

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i did talk to her and she said she not breaking up wit me she just feels like she needs sum time for herselffeli453

well, if you trust her, then I think that is ok.

I know I feel that way with some of my regular friends. I am a laid back guy, but I can hardly hang out with some friends more than once a week because theyre so intense.

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#17 feli453
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Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.Matt-4542

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

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#18 Fracturemaster
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no offense but is it not obvious?
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so give her time. Thats all you have right now is to play the waiting game.
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#20 Matt-4542
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i did talk to her and she said she not breaking up wit me she just feels like she needs sum time for herselffeli453
Thats good. Just tell her that you'll let her have her space for a couple days and you'll call or text her (Whatever you 2 do) on the 3rd day and hopefully things will be better.

My girlfriend and I have only had 1 real breakup, and it was bad. We didnt talk for over 6 months that time. The other couple times are just short breaks but in the end, we know we love each other more than anything so it always works out.

Good luck bro x)

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[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.feli453

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship is perfect*, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

Edit- Sorry, I forgot the "is perfect" after relationship :P

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#22 feli453
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[QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.Matt-4542

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

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[QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.feli453

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

Yeah, she just told me last night that she wanted a break and even though Im 99% sure everything will be fine, Im still a wreck.

She was at her fathers and we were on the phone and of course her father absolutely HATES me so he got mad at her for talking to me so he took her back to her mothers house and they dont trust her because they think Im going to come up and we're gonna have sex or some bs like that.

But yeah, we're waiting for her father to leave so she can call lol. Shes going out with a friend at 6 so we're hoping her father leaves before then xP

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[QUOTE="feli453"][QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.Matt-4542

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

Yeah, she just told me last night that she wanted a break and even though Im 99% sure everything will be fine, Im still a wreck.

She was at her fathers and we were on the phone and of course her father absolutely HATES me so he got mad at her for talking to me so he took her back to her mothers house and they dont trust her because they think Im going to come up and we're gonna have sex or some bs like that.

But yeah, we're waiting for her father to leave so she can call lol. Shes going out with a friend at 6 so we're hoping her father leaves before then xP

well in my case its her godmother that hates me i really dont know why i never did anything to her everytime she see me wit her she start talking all this crap about me in spanish thinking i cant understand and my parents dont like my GF reason idk lol they are just weird i guess.....

and later on probably at 6 as well my gf will be going out wit her friends as as well

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[QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"][QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.feli453

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

Yeah, she just told me last night that she wanted a break and even though Im 99% sure everything will be fine, Im still a wreck.

She was at her fathers and we were on the phone and of course her father absolutely HATES me so he got mad at her for talking to me so he took her back to her mothers house and they dont trust her because they think Im going to come up and we're gonna have sex or some bs like that.

But yeah, we're waiting for her father to leave so she can call lol. Shes going out with a friend at 6 so we're hoping her father leaves before then xP

well in my case its her godmother that hates me i really dont know why i never did anything to her everytime she see me wit her she start talking all this crap about me in spanish thinking i cant understand and my parents dont like my GF reason idk lol they are just weird i guess.....

and later on probably at 6 as well my gf will be going out wit her friends as as well

TC you have to admit that you failed at pleasing your woman. Only by clinging to her will drive her farther away. I'd start seeing other people.

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Oh you kids.
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It might not be a great sign, but it's not like you can say "no"
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wait a sec, 9 months , then she says i need space? (the 9 months is the clue)
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#29 feli453
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It might not be a great sign, but it's not like you can say "no"duxup

true true

wait a sec, 9 months , then she says i need space? (the 9 months is the clue) Fracturemaster

if ur trying to say she's pregnant than no you are wayyyyyyy off we havent had sex yet and she still a virgin and she fells like shes not ready yet and im just fine with waiting =D

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[QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"][QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.feli453

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

Yeah, she just told me last night that she wanted a break and even though Im 99% sure everything will be fine, Im still a wreck.

She was at her fathers and we were on the phone and of course her father absolutely HATES me so he got mad at her for talking to me so he took her back to her mothers house and they dont trust her because they think Im going to come up and we're gonna have sex or some bs like that.

But yeah, we're waiting for her father to leave so she can call lol. Shes going out with a friend at 6 so we're hoping her father leaves before then xP

well in my case its her godmother that hates me i really dont know why i never did anything to her everytime she see me wit her she start talking all this crap about me in spanish thinking i cant understand and my parents dont like my GF reason idk lol they are just weird i guess.....

and later on probably at 6 as well my gf will be going out wit her friends as as well

Lol, her father and her grandmother hate me and constantly talk BS to her about me. Ive only met her Grandmother once, and her mother doesnt really like me.

They dont like me because Im a little over a year older than her and they dont like how I dress. Im into the goth/scene fashion so I guess thats why :lol:

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Give her space, you still have a chance with her. Unlesss you dont give her space, then she'll just feel clusterd, then she will find someone else, and your chance is gone.
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[QUOTE="feli453"][QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"][QUOTE="Matt-4542"][QUOTE="feli453"]

[QUOTE="Matt-4542"]Thats kind of what is going on in my relationship. We're on a small break because she has this tiny crush on another guy and she doesnt feel its right to love me and have a tiny crush on him, so we're on a small break so she can have some space.Matt-4542

love is just so damn complicated im sorry to hear that man i hope everything works out for u and ur girlfriend

Yeah, it is xP It will work out, she knows I love her and I know she loves me. No relationship, its basic human instint to be attracted to someone even if your heart belongs to someone else. Its happened to me, and its happened to her now. All I can say is to keep talking to her and try as hard as you can to make everything better, and hopefully it will work out. Our breaks have lasted up to 2 weeks and thats it, we've been dating off and on for well over a year now so hopefully it will work x)

thanks man and yeaa i hope it works out 2 i just thought it was kinda weird bc everything was going fine then she asked for a break well its good to know im not the only one this has happend to

Yeah, she just told me last night that she wanted a break and even though Im 99% sure everything will be fine, Im still a wreck.

She was at her fathers and we were on the phone and of course her father absolutely HATES me so he got mad at her for talking to me so he took her back to her mothers house and they dont trust her because they think Im going to come up and we're gonna have sex or some bs like that.

But yeah, we're waiting for her father to leave so she can call lol. Shes going out with a friend at 6 so we're hoping her father leaves before then xP

well in my case its her godmother that hates me i really dont know why i never did anything to her everytime she see me wit her she start talking all this crap about me in spanish thinking i cant understand and my parents dont like my GF reason idk lol they are just weird i guess.....

and later on probably at 6 as well my gf will be going out wit her friends as as well

Lol, her father and her grandmother hate me and constantly talk BS to her about me. Ive only met her Grandmother once, and her mother doesnt really like me.

They dont like me because Im a little over a year older than her and they dont like how I dress. Im into the goth/scene fashion so I guess thats why :lol:

well my GF mom loves me =D so i guess im lucky

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Tell her that's good that she wants to take a break because things between you and this other girl are getting really serious and this fake relationship has been going on 9 months too long =).
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she must like another guy. sorry man, it's over.
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[QUOTE="Sajedene"]No... I've done that. She must have a lot going on in her life and is confused about you guys -- or there is a guy she is interested in and doesnt want to be a cheat.mrbojangles25

in that case, she should simply break up with the dude.

Sorry, but you cant tell a current-boyfriend "hmmm, I like this other guy, Im gonna put our relationship on hold while I go out for him. Dont worry, if it doesnt work out, I will come back to you".

This is not car shopping; you dont get to shop around for a better deal, making other, opposing parties wait and/or scramble to make a better offer.

No, youre dealing with people's lives, time, and emotions. Either stay commited to a relationship, or end it. Hell, I think I would prefer being cheated on than having my girlfriend say "Im gonna go shop for another dude while we put our relationship on hold". At least if she cheats on you, you can simply say "Its over, see ya" and you dont need to contemplate about it.

Agreed. My mates gf said they needed a break: that meant she could sleep around but she said he couldn't. I think that's totally uncalled for.

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[QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]No... I've done that. She must have a lot going on in her life and is confused about you guys -- or there is a guy she is interested in and doesnt want to be a cheat.tofu-lion91

in that case, she should simply break up with the dude.

Sorry, but you cant tell a current-boyfriend "hmmm, I like this other guy, Im gonna put our relationship on hold while I go out for him. Dont worry, if it doesnt work out, I will come back to you".

This is not car shopping; you dont get to shop around for a better deal, making other, opposing parties wait and/or scramble to make a better offer.

No, youre dealing with people's lives, time, and emotions. Either stay commited to a relationship, or end it. Hell, I think I would prefer being cheated on than having my girlfriend say "Im gonna go shop for another dude while we put our relationship on hold". At least if she cheats on you, you can simply say "Its over, see ya" and you dont need to contemplate about it.

Agreed. My mates gf said they needed a break: that meant she could sleep around but she said he couldn't. I think that's totally uncalled for.

ouch that suxx i dont think my gf is doing anything wit other boys though bc if she was ppl would tell me and she said shes not and i trust her