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#1 Infinite_Souls
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Ok guys, as a long time lurker and part time poster, I'm asking for some serious advice. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 and a half years now and I'm having a bit of a problem wanting to settle down. When I met her I had just turned 16 so I was really young and didn't even have a chance to kiss another girl, let alone anything else. Don't get me wrong, my girlfriend is a good girl and I definately have people that are envious of my long lasting relationship with her, but I can't even compare it to anything personally. Maybe I am taking this all for granted or maybe this is just a phase I need to work myself through. What do you guys think?

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#2 Kcube
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The worste thing you can do is take it for granted.
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#3 Infinite_Souls
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Ok guys, as a long time lurker and part time poster, I'm asking for some serious advice. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 and a half years now and I'm having a bit of a problem wanting to settle down. When I met her I had just turned 16 so I was really young and didn't even have a chance to kiss another girl, let alone anything else. Don't get me wrong, my girlfriend is a good girl and I definately have people that are envious of my long lasting relationship with her, but I can't even compare it to anything personally. Maybe I am taking this all for granted or maybe this is just a phase I need to work myself through. What do you guys think?

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I realize this is pretty vague so I'll answer any further details if necessary.

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#4 Franklinstein
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What are you asking? Are you thinking of breaking up with her?
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#5 Infinite_Souls
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Yes, but not because of any faults of her own.
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#6 Infinite_Souls
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#7 XilePrincess
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I've been dating my boyfriend since we were really young as well. Neither of us has ever had another long term relationship that was any sort of meaningful, just each other. And I hope it goes without saying, we were each other's firsts for more or less everything. Nothing bothers me more than people who constantly say things like "You guys need to date other people, you can't just date one person, you have to experience other people and date around". My response to that, is frankly, "F that, F you, you're a moron" when anyone decides they need to say things like that. Yes, there are times when you wonder what else is out there, who else is out there, but you have to really stop and think why you're thinking that. Is it because you've been influenced by others or media or something into thinking that you should date around, and 'experience' other people? Or are you really not wanting to continue dating her because you feel nothing for her anymore? Don't keep dating because other people are envious, that's stupid. But also don't stop dating because of what other people say either. Sometimes you don't need to compare it to anything. I watch all my friends' relationships go down the drain and all their heartbreak and stuff, and I use that as a comparison, which is more than enough for me. What do you figure you're lacking with her that you could get somewhere else, is the question I think you really need to ask yourself.
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#8 Fightingfan
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If you've been with her long(1year+) and you can't fully express your thoughts with her she obviously isn't the one.
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#9 Pirate700
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You really have two options. Either stick with her (and soon propose?) or move on. It's not fair to her if you're starting to wonder who else is out there.

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#10 XilePrincess
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Also I feel the need to add, you're not 35, you do not need to settle down at 20 just because you've been together a long time. My boyfriend and I will have been together between 6-10 years before we ever actually get married.
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#11 Dogswithguns
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You're only 16?.. can you wait til you're a little older to date?
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#12 Pirate700
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You're only 16?.. can you wait til you're a little older to date?Dogswithguns
He's 19.

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#13 Infinite_Souls
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If you've been with her long(1year+) and you can't fully express your thoughts with her she obviously isn't the one.Fightingfan
I have brought it up to her.
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#14 Pirate700
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[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]If you've been with her long(1year+) and you can't fully express your thoughts with her she obviously isn't the one.Infinite_Souls
I have brought it up to her.

Then it sounds like it may be time to cut bait and recast. Only you can really answer this though.

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#15 Dogswithguns
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[QUOTE="Dogswithguns"]You're only 16?.. can you wait til you're a little older to date?Pirate700

He's 19.

Well then grow up.. be like a man.