Relationship and cheating help needed

Okay I know this is a game forum, but I need your advice still. Basically me and this girl have been gf and bf for like 5 months. But just today I went to a strip club, and got a lap dance, and sucked on the strippers nipples. I screwed up big time i know I'm an idiot. I don't know what to do. If I tell her it will destroy her heart, and maybe even the relationship. We love each other a lot, and I know what I did was just down right retarded. What should I do? Plz help.

I forgot to add that I'm new to this whole dating thingy. I'm 19, and it's my first relationship I know that's sad..

...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
FinalSorrow

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationhip is not as strong as you think.

Really man? If you did the same thing, and you prolly wouldn't. Would you not tell too? Won't it bother your inside?
FinalSorrow

Yes I'd tell her. You seem worried about losing her and if she cares a lot about stuff like that then you shouldn't tell her. 

[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
zeus_gb

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationhip is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not... 

.... You sucked the strippers nipple? :|

:lol: 

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
FinalSorrow

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationhip is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not...

I don't know what you should tell her. She deserves the truth but she probably won't want to hear the truth. If you really feel bad about it then just say something like: "I had a really wild night yesterday, i think i was in a strip club" lol if she gets angry or sad about that then don't tell her the rest.

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
FinalSorrow

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationship is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not... 

One of the corner stones of any relationship is trust, you violated that trust.  I'd tell her, she might break up with you for it but at least you've been truthful.

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
zeus_gb

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationship is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not...

One of the corner stones of any relationship is trust, you violated that trust. I'd tell her, she might break up with you for it but at least you've been truthful.

Your probably right. But I really don't wanna loose her. 

Best off telling her directly.  Because she will find out.  They always do.  And if she hears it from a third party, it is over.

Off hand comment:  This incident would be great for the show Cheaters.  

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
FinalSorrow

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationship is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not...

One of the corner stones of any relationship is trust, you violated that trust. I'd tell her, she might break up with you for it but at least you've been truthful.

Your probably right. But I really don't wanna loose her.

Why did you go to the strip club in the first place? 

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
FinalSorrow

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationship is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not...

One of the corner stones of any relationship is trust, you violated that trust. I'd tell her, she might break up with you for it but at least you've been truthful.

Your probably right. But I really don't wanna loose her. 

No probably about it.  If she finds out through a third party then she'll never trust you again because you not only violated her trust you also covered it up.

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[QUOTE="FinalSorrow"]...wtf not in niagara falls, canada where i live. And shes really a conservative type, if I tell her she will go crazy on me. The thing with this relationship is its long distance too for now.
zeus_gb

If you need to cheat then maybe your relationship is not as strong as you think.

I don't know, I love her a lot. But I'm so inexperienced I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Boy was I wrong. I don't kno what to do. Tell her or not...

One of the corner stones of any relationship is trust, you violated that trust. I'd tell her, she might break up with you for it but at least you've been truthful.

Your probably right. But I really don't wanna loose her. 

No probably about it.  If she finds out through a third party then she'll never trust you again because you not only violated her trust you also covered it up.

If you understand what you did was wrong and are remorseful, I see no reason why you should hurt her by telling. Just don't do something idiotic like that again. You really need to ask yourself if you're ready for commitment, though. Personally, I don't feel strip clubs are a place where loyal, committed partners go, and if you're not ready to offer her the commitment she's willing to offer you, you have no right to pursue this relationship further and risk causing her emotional pain.

If you understand what you did was wrong and are remorseful, I see no reason why you should hurt her by telling. Just don't do something idiotic like that again. You really need to ask yourself if you're ready for commitment, though. Personally, I don't feel strip clubs are a place where loyal, committed partners go, and if you're not ready to offer her the commitment she's willing to offer you, you have no right to pursue this relationship further and risk causing her emotional pain.

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