Im going to keep this short:

Now, I know 2 girls who are mates with my GF, they actually knew my GF way before hand but i got to know them and became good mates with them and they introduced me to her, got to know each other, 2 years later and we are still together and happy, or so I thought.

few months bk it was my birthday and my gf arranged a suprise birthday. Totally appreciated it and was very happy, things began to break down when her friends (who were also at the birthday party) start talking smack behind my back. Fair play, doesnt bother me much. My GF mentioned it and I told em her i couldnt bond because they were acting immature, but I did try at the end of the day. She said fair enough.

2 Months later (now), my GFs family have introduced a guy to her, and her family is quite religious and follows the old "marry within family" crap, their own weird traditions. She told me about it and I told her that we agreed to get married next year as I finish uni and I can make an income. She said ok and was happy with the decision. She then went to her friends and they have now actually encouraged her to marry this new guy, and I kind of got pissed off because I thought these gals were my mates, I got to know them before her. This has lead my GF confused. I told my GF this that WTF is your mates problem with me, and get this, the smack that was said to be back in november on my bday by her mates has gotten around to all her mates and now they all think bad of me, thus, they are pushing this marriage.

I spoke to her friend who introduced us and she had no leg to stand on and became a game of insults, I log onto my GFs profile and there has been alot of smack being talked behind my back and encouraging this new guy. I close my FB page today as I have a tendancy to be hooked on it for a while :P and then log onto my GFs profile again just to see wats the latest, and it seems the 2 girls are now **** about me. They actually find all this crap im going through "hilarious". Not that Im fussed but makes me question who my mates really are.

In 2 hours or so this new guy is coming to my GFs house, and shes confused as heck. Shes quite weak willed and will side with her family more then me in this situation.

What are your thoughts? Any word of advice ?

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Your gf sounds a bit clueless. If she can't even manage to stick up for herself or you, you might be better off if she does leave. Look how much drama is created because she won't actually do anything or support your relationship. Is that likely to change?

I would like to hear more about the "marry within family" thing.

What i mean by family is just within close friends of her mothers or fathers, far cousins, etc.

Arranged mariages, inbreeding, and doesn't make her own decisions you sure picked a winner :P move on and find a sane girl.

I think it's up to your girlfriend to choose. And for you to accept that. It's not her friends fault...she should tell them not to talk about you. It's not her families fault...it's hers. If she loved you.....she'd NOT be allowing her friends to insult you, meet with a new guy, and she'd stand up to her family.LJS9502_basic

Trust me man, chasing her will only drive her farther away, you have to just sit back and let her know that if she leaves you, she can't ever have you back.Franklinstein

[QUOTE="Franklinstein"]Trust me man, chasing her will only drive her farther away, you have to just sit back and let her know that if she leaves you, she can't ever have you back.jwsoul

Well, good news is the guy has cancelled to meet today

bad news is hes bringing his whole family on saturday

I have a day n a bit to come up with a solid solution, after thatt ill drill her stupid friends.

Tell her You want to be with me or not? Simple as that.curono

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

[QUOTE="curono"]Tell her You want to be with me or not? Simple as that.Disturbed123

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

It's her decision...

who is better looking, you or this other lad?

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[QUOTE="curono"]Tell her You want to be with me or not? Simple as that.rawsavon

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="Disturbed123"]

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

nintendoman562

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[QUOTE="curono"]Tell her You want to be with me or not? Simple as that.rawsavon

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

I'm sure you have considered this, but I would say there is a certain level of excitement that comes from chasing or being chased. People aren't always 100% sure of what they want, and need the reassurance that comes from someone pushing it a little.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="Disturbed123"]

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

I'm sure you have considered this, but I would say there is a certain level of excitement that comes from chasing or being chased. People aren't always 100% sure of what they want, and need the reassurance that comes from someone pushing it a little.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="Disturbed123"]

As previous members have said, easier said then done. She already is planning to say no, thing can be easily be influenced in saying yes by her parents as they are quite a hard hitter, and I genuinely do want to be with her as shes treating me amazingly over the last 2 years, only thing is shes not strong minded. She needs training in that department GRRR

nintendoman562

Kill her friends and frame that guy she's meeting.

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[QUOTE="rawsavon"] I will ask again: Why would you ever want to be with someone (let alone marry them), if they are not sure they want to be with you? Why would anyone chase someone or try to convince them?rawsavon

I'm sure you have considered this, but I would say there is a certain level of excitement that comes from chasing or being chased. People aren't always 100% sure of what they want, and need the reassurance that comes from someone pushing it a little.

I mistook your post for a more general question, I agree after 2 years convincing should be at a minimum. If you really want this lady to marry you TC, I guess you'll have to be more persuasive than those working against you. Good luck man.