A Note to the Reader: First of all, I'd like to start by saying I have no idea how long this post will be, and as it could end up being very long, I encourage you to read only what you feel relates to you personally. To make this convenient, I will put each subject into its own titled category. This is for girls and guys, and there are a few things that are my own opinion and other things that I think one should seriously consider before doing anything stupid. This is aimed almost exclusively to the younger crowd. You may ask who I am to be giving advice on relationships, and the truth is that I'm nobody. The purpose of this post and my main concern is that too many people are getting into destructive patterns with themselves and everyone else around them over what is usually a situation that can be easily resolved. My other big concern is that people in their youth are taken advantage of because of their naivity. It happens to the best of us, and no matter how prepared or mature we think we are, we really aren't.
#1 "Fish in the Sea":
   This one applies to guys and girls, and is in regards to the old saying "There are plenty of fish in the sea". As much of a cliche the phrase has become, there lies a great deal of truth in it. I know there's always the mentality towards a relationship that it's "meant to be", but honestly, you can never know for sure. This applies mostly to young individuals, particularly those in high school who seem to be under the impression that anyone they're involved with now is the person they're meant to be with forever. Do not fall into this trap for a number of reasons. For one, a high school relationship is never really "serious". A serious relationship should be defined as one with the potential for marriage, and no such relationship exists in high school. Another reason to avoid this is the fact that while you're young, you have the right to be wreckless and experiment with various relationships to get a feel of who is right for you, and who is not. I use the term "wreckless" in regards to the fact that you should be dating different people throughout your youth, and that you shouldn't restrict yourself to one and enter the real world with that one person as your only reference point. It's also gravely important to remember that while you're in one relationship that you feel isn't working, you shouldn't feel the need to stay in it; if you do, you're wasting your time and theirs.
#2 Girls, Do Yourself a Favour, Don't Date Older Guys:
   Guys, if you have a thing for a younger girl, that's fine, and if you've got a young girl interested in you and you know you're a responsible guy, then go for it. Unfortunately, it's not often the good guys who the younger girls fall for. I've seen it too many times when an older guy takes advantage of a younger girl (note: this applies almost exclusively to high school relationships, but not always). Girls, even if the age difference is only a year, trust me from experience, he knows you're naive, he knows you're in that dreamy state of mind, and he will take advantage of that. If he's got you interested in him, chances are he's got that rebel appeal to him, and he can convince you that anything you do is totally cool and perfectly normal. The best thing to do is not to get in a relationship with him in the first place, because once you're in, there's no getting out until he says so, and it's usually too late (ie. you're pregnant or he's gotten what he wants out of you). He'll invte you to a party, he'll get you to drink or smoke anything he puts in front of you because you trust him and you think he cares about you and while your inhibitions are low, he'll get down to business. There's not much more I can say about this matter, so simply do not date older guys.
#3 Be Weary of Partners Who Cry:
   I know it sounds ridiculous, but people who cry on your shoulder are often the people you have to be most careful about. Tears will bring about tons of sympathy from someone, and nothing should ever happen when someone's in this vulnerable state. If the relationship has gone sour, and maybe one person cheats or does something wrong, you should not mistake crying with an epiphamy of one's faults and intentions to resolve.
   At the moment this is all I can think of, and until I think of something else I've drawn a blank. Forgive me, for it's reasonably late where I live. I hope people are still awake to read this and read it thoroughly before they post. More to come in following days as I'm sure more will come to me.
If you truly feel you are wise enough to enlighten us all...write a book. If we care enough to read it we'll buy it. Until then unless we ask for advice why do you post assumptions that you have? Besides that...I see at least one of these threads a week...I think enough is enough already...
~-~I totally disagree with your first point. You say that in high school you should just go around and not take relationships seriously. But if they do that then when they get into the real world their view on relationships is going to be really distorted. (pfft, what am I saying, like it isn't already.) I know that most people in high school aren't mature enough for a real relationship but that doesn't mean that all high school relationships are worthless. If they work on it and are in it for the right reasons it could work. Age isn't going to help with maturity anyways, they need to either figure it out or someones needs to teach them how a relationship is supposed to work. (most likely the latter)~-~ ~-~PS: At least you had good intentions. The second one was kind of on but once again, not all older guys are out for sex. But they should still look out for a guy who tries to take advantage of them.~-~
~-~SHOWERING! *slaps head* Hot damn why didn't I think of that! But yea, all he did was state the obvious. And his was about getting laid that's different than this topic.~-~
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