Should I tell her how I feel?

Just go for it, man......................

At worst, it's better to handle rejection for a while than to live with doubt that could follow you for years..............

What's this tell her how you feel business?
You don't need to put it all out there straight off the bat
Invite her out first
To the movies or something

Don't tell her on the first date either
Keep it relaxed
It can be slightly overwhelming if someone confesses their undying love to you before you have even kissed

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]

What's this tell her how you feel business?
You don't need to put it all out there straight off the bat
Invite her out first
To the movies or something

Don't tell her on the first date either
Keep it relaxed
It can be slightly overwhelming if someone confesses their undying love to you before you have even kissed

dog64

Movies, hmm? Her birthday was a few days ago, and I gave her a $50 gift card to a movie theatre. I plan to ask soon if she's used it.

Don't ask her if she used it
Tell her that she should use it to take you both to the movies, jokingly and light
But don't actually let her pay when you get there
AND DON'T MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT
Just get up there and pay, if she says anything, just sort of ignore her/tell her its fine
Unless shes older and earns substantially more money
Then they can pay for everything :)

[QUOTE="sourpatchkids29"]I mad an account for this. Please take my word and everyone else from OT saying go for it. The feeling of regret and not knowing is more of a struggle then rejection(yea it hurts) but its better to know then not know. This situation just happened to me(like 2 days ago). dog64

Thanks man, I will certainly do something soon. I think I'm already getting an idea of what "What if" feels like and I don't want it to continue.

And, sorry about your situation.

don't procrastinate just do it tomorrow don't wait. ask her if she wants to go hang out with you or something like a movie. ask her if there were any movies she wanted to go see. its really not that bad as you think it may be. you will feel so much relief if you get this off your chest.

Talking when you have the chance, I don't know, maybe. Try getting closer perhaps but than you run the risk of being friend zoned.metroidprime55

Does her calling you her "best friend" already mean you've been friend zoned? She's done that a couple of times.

[QUOTE="metroidprime55"]Talking when you have the chance, I don't know, maybe. Try getting closer perhaps but than you run the risk of being friend zoned.dog64

Does her calling you her "best friend" already mean you've been friendzoned? She's done that a couple of times.

 Well, I never thought I'd be making one of these kinds of threads, but the time has come. There's this girl at work that I've had a crush on for about 6 months. Now, I've never had a girlfriend and have never had a serious crush until now. She's a very sweet girl and she's very nice to me. She gave me my first Valentine's card this year, and when I gave her mine she said it made her day. We talk sometimes when we have a chance, and we do have some things in common.

 So, these feelings I have for her are getting stronger and it's becoming painful to keep them inside. But I also don't want to blow it, as me telling her how I feel when she doesn't have the same feelings might ruin everything. But I do want to find out how she feels. How should I handle this?

Has she given you any signals that shes into you besides just being nice ?michael_1234576

I honestly don't know. I'm not sure what to look for since I have no experience in this area. She's hugged me a few times, and she smiles a lot around me, but i don't know. She might do that with a lot of guys.

Tough call... don't want things to be awkward at work, give her hints or ask in clever ways if she's dating somebody or interested in somebody once you are for sure then ask her out :) 

I honestly don't know. I'm not sure what to look for since I have no experience in this area. She's hugged me a few times, and she smiles a lot around me, but i don't know. She might do that with a lot of guys.

dog64

Just ask her out.

Talking when you have the chance, I don't know, maybe. Try getting closer perhaps but than you run the risk of being friend zoned.metroidprime55

[QUOTE="dog64"]

 

I honestly don't know. I'm not sure what to look for since I have no experience in this area. She's hugged me a few times, and she smiles a lot around me, but i don't know. She might do that with a lot of guys.

michael_1234576

Eh, flirting where I work at (Walmart) is against policy and they can report you for it if they feel inclined, so I'm not really comfortable doing that. I guess what I really want to do is get to know her more and spend some time with her outside of work. I don't see why she'd object to that, and maybe once we've done that, I can let my feelings out.

:o

:o

yellosnolvr

It's about time this pic is directed at me  :P

[QUOTE="metroidprime55"]Talking when you have the chance, I don't know, maybe. Try getting closer perhaps but than you run the risk of being friend zoned.harashawn

You've got to at least try. Rejection does suck, but I think the "what if" that sticks with you when you don't at least try sucks more.IdioticIcarus

I wanna try, I really do, but then I might regret it. I'm just trying to decide which would suck more: Regret or "What if".

Might check your workplace's policies - it might be against the rules aka "Sexual Harassment" 

[QUOTE="yellosnolvr"]

:o

dog64

It's about time this pic is directed at me  :P

It's a win win situation.  By going for it you gain confidence and maybe a relationship, or if she says no a great friend (that is if if you're the type who can be friends easily)

 OH, and a HINT:  (If you need confidence first, watch "500 Days of Summer")

To be truthful, I'd ask her out first as a hang out, and then after the first session or two, be honest with her.  From experience, I wouldn't do it all at work

No. Keep it to yourself and always be left wondering "what if?". It's a wonderful feeling that everyone deserves to feel.Zeviander

My sarcasm detector is off the charts! I hear you, though.

aint nothing to it but to do it. seriously though what do you got to loose? trust me you will feel more pain not telling her then you would telling her and getting rejected. there's no worse feeling then not knowing "what if." you seem to be already in there though as she gave you a valetines day card you just need to step it up and tell her you want to be with her.

[QUOTE="IdioticIcarus"]You've got to at least try. Rejection does suck, but I think the "what if" that sticks with you when you don't at least try sucks more.dog64

I wanna try, I really do, but then I might regret it. I'm just trying to decide which would suck more: Regret or "What if".

TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THIS. "What if" sucks more. 

Put it this way--- "Hey "Candy" I'm going to "insert lunch bar/food joint" for my lunch, do you want to come?"

If she says yes, you can then get to know her better by asking questions on the way there and the way back, then you ask the next day if she wants to come along again, do that till you are both a lot more comfortable around each other then ask her what she is doing on the weekend or something.

What's this tell her how you feel business?
You don't need to put it all out there straight off the bat
Invite her out first
To the movies or something

Don't tell her on the first date either
Keep it relaxed
It can be slightly overwhelming if someone confesses their undying love to you before you have even kissed

chaoscougar1

Movies, hmm? Her birthday was a few days ago, and I gave her a $50 gift card to a movie theatre. I plan to ask soon if she's used it.

[QUOTE="IdioticIcarus"]You've got to at least try. Rejection does suck, but I think the "what if" that sticks with you when you don't at least try sucks more.dog64

I wanna try, I really do, but then I might regret it. I'm just trying to decide which would suck more: Regret or "What if".

Just go tell her. If you get rejected, so what? If you're so blessed to look like a showbiz hunk, good for you. If you're like most regular Joes, you'll build up quite a rapsheet of rejections before Mrs. Right comes along. 

Just let her feel you for herself. Why would you want to explain what you feel like? Do you not feel like a human?

Just let her feel you for herself. Why would you want to explain what you feel like? Do you not feel like a human?

Thuganomic05

I don't understand. I want to know how she feels, but I won't know how she feels unless she tells me.

[QUOTE="Thuganomic05"]

Just let her feel you for herself. Why would you want to explain what you feel like? Do you not feel like a human?

dog64

I don't understand. I want to know how she feels, but I won't know how she feels unless she tells me.

[QUOTE="Thuganomic05"]

Just let her feel you for herself. Why would you want to explain what you feel like? Do you not feel like a human?

dog64

I don't understand. I want to know how she feels, but I won't know how she feels unless she tells me.

[QUOTE="dog64"]

[QUOTE="Thuganomic05"]

Just let her feel you for herself. Why would you want to explain what you feel like? Do you not feel like a human?

Thuganomic05

I don't understand. I want to know how she feels, but I won't know how she feels unless she tells me.

Ah lol, ok, I got ya.

 I'm sorry what?

You gave her a $50 giftcard
And you aren't dating

chaoscougar1

Lol, well, I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Going to the movies is pricey anyway with concessions, so I didn't want to be cheap about it. She seemed a little emotional though after I handed her the card, so I guess it surprised her as well.

Don't ask her if she used it
Tell her that she should use it to take you both to the movies, jokingly and light
But don't actually let her pay when you get there
AND DON'T MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT
Just get up there and pay, if she says anything, just sort of ignore her/tell her its fine
Unless shes older and earns substantially more money
Then they can pay for everything :)

chaoscougar1

Well, instead of asking if she used it, I'll ask if she liked the gift I gave her and maybe she'll say if she used it and who she used it with. If she hasn't used it yet, perhaps I could take that opportunity.

give her a half eaten Big-Mac.

you wont be able to keep her off you.

I mad an account for this. Please take my word and everyone else from OT saying go for it. The feeling of regret and not knowing is more of a struggle then rejection(yea it hurts) but its better to know then not know. This situation just happened to me(like 2 days ago). sourpatchkids29

Thanks man, I will certainly do something soon. I think I'm already getting an idea of what "What if" feels like and I don't want it to continue.

And, sorry about your situation.

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]

 I'm sorry what?

You gave her a $50 giftcard
And you aren't dating

dog64

Lol, well, I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Going to the movies is pricey anyway with concessions, so I didn't want to be cheap about it. She seemed a little emotional though after I handed her the card, so I guess it surprised her as well.

Don't ask her if she used it
Tell her that she should use it to take you both to the movies, jokingly and light
But don't actually let her pay when you get there
AND DON'T MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT
Just get up there and pay, if she says anything, just sort of ignore her/tell her its fine
Unless shes older and earns substantially more money
Then they can pay for everything :)

chaoscougar1

Well, instead of asking if she used it, I'll ask if she liked the gift I gave her and maybe she'll say if she used it and who she used it with. If she hasn't used it yet, perhaps I could take that opportunity.

What a lovely friend you are...

Who cares if she liked it or not, you gave her a $50 giftcard she did not deserve
And if she did use it, who gives a fvck who it was with, you are the one that gave it to her with no limitations
And not perhaps, do it

What a lovely friend you are...

Who cares if she liked it or not, you gave her a $50 giftcard she did not deserve
And if she did use it, who gives a fvck who it was with, you are the one that gave it to her with no limitations
And not perhaps, do it

chaoscougar1

Well, I think she deserved it. I wouldn't of given it to her if she didn't deserve it, and yes, I gave it to her with no limitations. She was free to use it with whoever she desired, but if I asked her in this way, then I might get the information I need. Like, if she said she went her boyfriend, then I'd know to back off.

Just continue masturbating.

I'm sorry man but you are in a very bad position.

Your first plan of attack should be "Hey me and my friends are going to xyz club/bar/party, you and your friends should come" I promise you, finding a way to get you guys both at the same party or whatever would give you the absolute best chance. She already knows something is up with the expensive gift. For the love of god please dont just go ask her how she feels about you (if you do, please post it here atleast!!), this has probably worked maybe 10% of the time in human history.If she liked you, you would know. Its not that hard to spot when a girl has a romantic/sexual interest in you.

Keep tossing out the social event invites, one could very well stick soon. Ive tried this tactic with a girl (I just wanted to have sex with no other interest), I casually gave her literally 10  invites over a few months, telling her what parties I was at and such, then one time she and her friends actually did come out and we did end up hooking up. This has been one of my biggest "game" successes, and it felt amazing that I never threw in the towel and it did pay off. Being a little persistent usally isnt a bad thing.   Anything even if its just a stupid birthday or even shopping, you need to get her away from the place you guys work to make a move on her.

When you do hang out, you need to turn it into a romantic get together as fast as possible. The best way to do this is physical contact. Just start with something stupid like playfully hit or even thumb wars just whatever situation you can get. Any touching is good.

no, it's been too long. you gotta move on a girl right away.

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]

What a lovely friend you are...

Who cares if she liked it or not, you gave her a $50 giftcard she did not deserve
And if she did use it, who gives a fvck who it was with, you are the one that gave it to her with no limitations
And not perhaps, do it

dog64

Well, I think she deserved it. I wouldn't of given it to her if she didn't deserve it, and yes, I gave it to her with no limitations. She was free to use it with whoever she desired, but if I asked her in this way, then I might get the information I need. Like, if she said she went her boyfriend, then I'd know to back off.