So if you got a girl pregnant do you have to marry her? *help*

You don't have to marry her, but you do have to grow some balls and support the baby.-AK47-

that is something i dont see too often.

You do not have to marry her. But you better make damn sure that you provide for the baby.pintabear49blue

what if i don't

[QUOTE="pintabear49blue"]You do not have to marry her. But you better make damn sure that you provide for the baby.AirBorneLove

what if i don't

Then you feel guilty for not doing so when you eventually grow up and start wanting kids...if you ever do want one.

[QUOTE="pintabear49blue"]You do not have to marry her. But you better make damn sure that you provide for the baby.AirBorneLove

what if i don't

This is probably a bad time to mention this, but...

Have you seen Knocked Up? :P

i'm scared and i don't want anything to happen but if worse comes to worse she is, what would happen? i'm 18 she's 19. I mean would i have to pay child support or something? cause that would make no sense, we are not married and we didn't agree to commit to anything. Do i have a say weather she gets an abortion or not? also if i leave the baby, the baby goes to the mother right. Soo what would happen?AirBorneLove

Unfortunately, men don't have a legal say of whether a woman gets an abortion. Women seem to forget that the baby is not theirs alone. I'm a guy and personally, I would be terrified if I were in a position were a woman having an abortion with my child and with no legal way to stop it.

If she keeps the baby, you may have to pay child support for 18 years. If you refuse, she can go to court and have the payments deducted from your wages. The courts look out for the best interest of the child.

Only if her dad is holding a shotgun to your head. But, you'd better be man enough to take responsibility for the child and take care of it.

i'm scared and i don't want anything to happen but if worse comes to worse she is, what would happen? i'm 18 she's 19. I mean would i have to pay child support or something? cause that would make no sense, we are not married and we didn't agree to commit to anything. Do i have a say weather she gets an abortion or not? also if i leave the baby, the baby goes to the mother right. Soo what would happen?AirBorneLove

You will likely have to pay child support regardless of you being not married, or if you offered her the abortion option. If you leave her, of course the child goes to the mother. Depending on your jurisdiction, the court might make you pay child support, either they'll ask you to volunteer to pay, or if they have to, they'll pull out a certain amount from your paycheck, given that you have a job.

As most said, just be a man and own up to it.

[QUOTE="pintabear49blue"]You do not have to marry her. But you better make damn sure that you provide for the baby.AirBorneLove

what if i don't

The government will make you one way or another.

Even if you turn 65 and retire, they can, and will, take money from your social security checks. So you'll pay.

only problem is, "child support" turns out to actually be getting mommy's hair and nails done or the like. young children are not expensive at all. nowhere near the amount of money the courts unjustly decide should go to the mother. child support in itself is so wrong. the idea is good, but the implementation is horrible.

first off, the mother should not be defaulted custody. second, if there is joint custody there should be joint responsibility. if the father has to help pay for food and such while the child is at the mother's house, then the inverse should also be true.

You don't have to marry her but the child is going to need a father if He/She wants to have a normal good life and yes you may have to pay child...prepare yourself. Next time use a condom...properly kulmiye

I have a normal life.. I think... And I never see my father... 0_o or maybe I just dont notice my disfunctions. :0

Dude, you're pretty much in deep....

anyawys It's not just your fault, it's both of yas.... you should have worn protection, and she should have been taking the pill....

Well now you have a little bimmer, I say have the baby and put it up for adoption(it's the best thing to do)

only problem is, "child support" turns out to actually be getting mommy's hair and nails done or the like. young children are not expensive at all. nowhere near the amount of money the courts unjustly decide should go to the mother. child support in itself is so wrong. the idea is good, but the implementation is horrible.

first off, the mother should not be defaulted custody. second, if there is joint custody there should be joint responsibility. if the father has to help pay for food and such while the child is at the mother's house, then the inverse should also be true.

OneWingedAngeI

Yo we used to have to live off of my child support...and we only got $117 a month...unjust? GTFO

only problem is, "child support" turns out to actually be getting mommy's hair and nails done or the like. young children are not expensive at all. nowhere near the amount of money the courts unjustly decide should go to the mother. child support in itself is so wrong. the idea is good, but the implementation is horrible.

first off, the mother should not be defaulted custody. second, if there is joint custody there should be joint responsibility. if the father has to help pay for food and such while the child is at the mother's house, then the inverse should also be true.

OneWingedAngeI

I know people who need to recive child support. They do not recieve nearly as much as you make it out to be matt.

Yo we used to have to live off of my child support...and we only got $117 a month...unjust? GTFO

jesseandnikki

If you had to live of Child Support, perhaps your parent should have gotten a job? In any case, I despise all the laws that can remove a mans property from him. What ever I have, is mine. I'll be damned if anyone tells me what I can and can't do with it, and I'l fight anyone who trys to take it from me.

Have to marry her? No. Be a father to your child? Of course!

Can't believe your even asking such a question

[QUOTE="jesseandnikki"]

Yo we used to have to live off of my child support...and we only got $117 a month...unjust? GTFO

dlindenb2000

If you had to live of Child Support, perhaps your parent should have gotten a job? In any case, I despise all the laws that can remove a mans property from him. What ever I have, is mine. I'll be damned if anyone tells me what I can and can't do with it, and I'l fight anyone who trys to take it from me.

That's why you don't have sex until marriage. I think that it is your duty to marry the girl and support her and your child.aRE-you-AFraid

I think its a bad thing to do if you dont plan on staying together...
Not necessarily marriage? Many people dont get married nowadays but if there was to be a child and the mother was left by herself it would make her life and the childs life much harder!

I say just stay safe until the times right and you know that the two of you have strong relationship bonds between you!

You don't need to marry her, but not marrying her and leaving her with a baby to care for is a very bad move.

i'm scared and i don't want anything to happen but if worse comes to worse she is, what would happen? i'm 18 she's 19. I mean would i have to pay child support or something? cause that would make no sense, we are not married and we didn't agree to commit to anything. Do i have a say weather she gets an abortion or not? also if i leave the baby, the baby goes to the mother right. Soo what would happen?AirBorneLove

Don't leave the baby. It's a start on a new life.

i'm scared and i don't want anything to happen but if worse comes to worse she is, what would happen? i'm 18 she's 19. I mean would i have to pay child support or something? cause that would make no sense, we are not married and we didn't agree to commit to anything. Do i have a say weather she gets an abortion or not? also if i leave the baby, the baby goes to the mother right. Soo what would happen?AirBorneLove

Good question, I'll give you a moral response. Remember, the choice is your own. Society nowadays says it's okay to be a worthless piece of scum, so if you go another route it's on you.

Marriage: No. Marriage is based on love, not consequence. Also, you'd be creating problems in the child's life because more than likely you and your wife would be constantly fighting.

Child Support: Yes. And it does make sense. You say you didn't agree to commit to anything, but yes you did (unless she raped you). When you have sex, you're accepting the risks involved and one of those risks is an unplanned pregnancy. It's not fair to the kid that YOU made if you don't support him/her.

Abortion: No. The kid's not inside of you, it's not your call.

If you leave: I'm assuming you're asking about putting the kid up for adoption? That's always a choice, sometimes a better one. And, no offense intended, the immaturity you displayed on this post suggests that it would be the BEST decision for the kid.