Social problems, suggestions or advice ?

Hi all, I am 19 and have a bunch of friends that I have had since middle school - high school that I still hang out with. The problem is that I look about 16-17 ( younger for my age ) and they all look like they are about 21+. Usually we will go to parties and hang out at someones house but lately they have been going to bars and stuff. I couldnt get into a bar or club for people older than 19 in a million years. Im confident, nice, witty and all the good stuff when I am hanging out with them but they will never let me go with them to places like bars or clubs :(. I feel like a real outcast and last night I was at a casino and talking with a bunch of dudes and one guy that was about 20 goes "What high school you go to, boy ?". I can grow parts of my beard(sideburn and goatee) but no moustache and I just dont look old like other people my age :(.

I really feel like a social outcast. Friends would rather just play xbox live and hang out at my house than go out with me. Its really getting to be a problem and I dont know what to do. Should I just wait until im older or hang out with friends that look young like me ? ( Keep in mind it might be very difficult to find friends because I have had the same ones for about 6+ years). Thanks for any advice or nice words.

How are your friends getting into bars anyway?? No bouncers or they know people ?GamerPro1984

They just look really old and dont get carded most the time =/. Also, they will have actual 21 yr olds with them sometimes.

I look older for my age but your friends seem pretty superficialWhicker89

Ya, I know what you mean but I live in south florida and it seems like everyone I meet only cares about how you look :(.

It would be ironic if you didnt go to bars with them and they all died from a drinking and driving accident and you were alive because you didnt go.

..something to ponder.

[QUOTE="Whicker89"]I look older for my age but your friends seem pretty superficialnooblet69

Ya, I know what you mean but I live in south florida and it seems like everyone I meet only cares about how you look :(.

I know exactly what you mean I live in FL and its the same thing. If you want to hang out with your friends at clubs and stuff you can try to get or make a fake I.D. maybe get a real good looking girl to go with you while ya'll at the club, based off what I've seen since living here there attention will be on the girl and you can probably just waltz right on through.

Honestly though I look younger than my age but hey atleast when you get older you won't look old which can have its advantages for people who are superficial.

Hi all, I am 19 and have a bunch of friends that I have had since middle school - high school that I still hang out with. The problem is that I look about 16-17 ( younger for my age ) and they all look like they are about 21+. Usually we will go to parties and hang out at someones house but lately they have been going to bars and stuff. I couldnt get into a bar or club for people older than 19 in a million years. Im confident, nice, witty and all the good stuff when I am hanging out with them but they will never let me go with them to places like bars or clubs :(. I feel like a real outcast and last night I was at a casino and talking with a bunch of dudes and one guy that was about 20 goes "What high school you go to, boy ?". I can grow parts of my beard(sideburn and goatee) but no moustache and I just dont look old like other people my age :(.

I really feel like a social outcast. Friends would rather just play xbox live and hang out at my house than go out with me. Its really getting to be a problem and I dont know what to do. Should I just wait until im older or hang out with friends that look young like me ? ( Keep in mind it might be very difficult to find friends because I have had the same ones for about 6+ years). Thanks for any advice or nice words.

nooblet69

how about get friends thaty dont ditch you??? :|