Sometimes dont you feel its too late for you to have a proper social life?

Recently my PS3 got YLOD and I was getting bored easily so I tried to finally have a proper social life, hanging at night with former HS friends and similar stuff. Problem is, more then often, I found myself wondering what the fvck was I doing there... I got bored with their conversations and just wanted to go home and play videogames. I'm not social awkward mind you. In fact I already worked at a night bar and can speak well with people without getting nervous or anythin, I just dont like to talk with em unless its about nerdy stuff (games, movies, indie music, etc). I feel its too late for me to have a proper social life. I hate to sound like a emo kid but that how I'm currently feeling... dont you feel the same sometimes

I've never really had a social life and I don't see myself having one in the near future.

Sounds more like a combination of being an adult (where you don't need your friends much anymore for entertainment) and maybe you just don't like the person you're hanging out with.

That's why alcohol was invented, to make boring conversations tolerable. Chevolutionary

You might not share the same interests as the person you're talking to. It's nothing unusual.

Find better friends.

I understand what you mean. Most topics bore me to tears. The average conversation just doesnt interest me these days. I dont know why. Maybe because im 25 yrs old & not 14 yrs old anymore?

I have 2 main hobbies in life. Boxing, & Video games. When it comes to conversation i can talk about these things all day but i feel like these 2 topics are my only real interests & the only thing i really care to talk about it anymore. Again i dont know why

I used to smoke a lot of pot & could talk about anything but now since i have cut that from my life it seems as though everything is less interesting. Most people dont want to talk about Games, or Boxing with me all day & so its hard to find any appeal in social situations when im not interested.

I think you are too addicted to the video games, that's why you don't take interest outside of them.

And no I don't think it's too late.

Just have to work on not being an e-person.

I guess, but it's not like it will ever happen even if I can change it so why bother.

You are probably hanging out with the wrong people because not everyone is that bad. i made a lot of good friends but theres a few that just are mood killers when you hang with them.

and there is a time balance. social life should just flow in and out of your time. there shouldn't be so much time focused on social life. i hate friends that take up my time

Sounds more like a combination of being an adult (where you don't need your friends much anymore for entertainment) and maybe you just don't like the person you're hanging out with.

Pirate700

This sounds about right.

I kind of feel like that sometimes. It's really hard to build relationships with people my age for a lot of the same reasons as you; my two main hobbies are video games and music, and I show little interest in anything else. I don't really have interests in things that are perceived as "cool" for people my age (such as TV shows, sports, cars, dating/sex/relationships, drugs) and I tend to avoid approaching many people for those reasons.I just don't know what to discuss with them and I don't want to bore anybody with mundane, uninteresting topics.

What I find helps me though is acting interested in what they have to say and just generally being nice to people. I (for the most part) try to find ways to contribute to discussions, even if I'm uninterested, so I can (for the most part) talk about anything. I am a fairly social guy and I do have some good friends. Sounds like you just need to find people that have the same interests as you.

Go to college.

Sounds like you just need to find people that have the same interests as you.

TheFatPerson

Thats harder then it sounds. Especially at my age (24). Its harder for me to find a gf with the same interests as me, thats why my love life is a complete disaster. My ex was the closest I got to met a girl with the same interests but even so she wasnt quite there yet. Many other girls reveal interest in me (sorry for the lack of modesty) and I had quite a few dates, but even so I just cant get interested in any of them - They seem soo boring. I'd love to find a girl of my age interested in gaming but, at least in my country, they're almost non-existent. With males its easier to find someone that likes gaming but only as a passive matter of talk. I have plenty of friends but, besides maybe one, none of them has a "passion" for gaming. They play the usual CoD, GT some online MMO and thats it. If I was younger It would be easier to find friends with gaming as a main hobby. The new generations grow up with it, even young girls start to take gaming as a serious hobby. Now at my age... not so much. Thats why I think its too late for me. I was born in the wrong generation

Go to college.

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I already finished college

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Go to college.

4dr1el

I already finished college

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Go to college.

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I already finished college

Lol. No way I'm wasting more money on college... I'm still finishing my masters thesis, but yeaahh... no more college for me

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Sounds like you just need to find people that have the same interests as you.

4dr1el

Thats harder then it sounds. Especially at my age (24). Its harder for me to find a gf with the same interests as me, thats why my love life is a complete disaster. My ex was the closest I got to met a girl with the same interests but even so she wasnt quite there yet. Many other girls reveal interest in me (sorry for the lack of modesty) and I had quite a few dates, but even so I just cant get interested in any of them - They seem soo boring. I'd love to find a girl of my age interested in gaming but, at least in my country, they're almost non-existent. With males its easier to find someone that likes gaming but only as a passive matter of talk. I have plenty of friends but, besides maybe one, none of them has a "passion" for gaming. They play the usual CoD, GT some online MMO and thats it. If I was younger It would be easier to find friends with gaming as a main hobby. The new generations grow up with it, even young girls start to take gaming as a serious hobby. Now at my age... not so much. Thats why I think its too late for me. I was born in the wrong generation

The majority of my friends are gamers. Now regarding girls, I'm in mainly the same situation as you. You'll find no girls in my area (good-looking ones at least) that are into gaming (unless you count Temple Run on your iPhone as gaming). One of the reasons I haven't started dating yet is because there really aren't many girls that share the same interests as me. My fairly low social status at school also doesn't help, so selection is really limited for me based on that. Either way, I'm not so worried about dating right now; I'm only 16 and I have higher priorities than getting into a relationship/having sex.

It could also be because I don't really value relationships the same way as other people do and I am able to live without social interaction 24/7. If someone I was close to stopped talking to me, I'd be like "Meh, whatever", I'd grieve for a very brief period, and I move on. Though I do get periods of loneliness, I really do cherish the time I spend alone and I don't view a lot of things that many people view as "sacred" (such as marriage, birth, etc.).

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Thats harder then it sounds. Especially at my age (24). Its harder for me to find a gf with the same interests as me, thats why my love life is a complete disaster. My ex was the closest I got to met a girl with the same interests but even so she wasnt quite there yet. Many other girls reveal interest in me (sorry for the lack of modesty) and I had quite a few dates, but even so I just cant get interested in any of them - They seem soo boring. I'd love to find a girl of my age interested in gaming but, at least in my country, they're almost non-existent. With males its easier to find someone that likes gaming but only as a passive matter of talk. I have plenty of friends but, besides maybe one, none of them has a "passion" for gaming. They play the usual CoD, GT some online MMO and thats it. If I was younger It would be easier to find friends with gaming as a main hobby. The new generations grow up with it, even young girls start to take gaming as a serious hobby. Now at my age... not so much. Thats why I think its too late for me. I was born in the wrong generation

4dr1el

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Sounds like you just need to find people that have the same interests as you.

4dr1el

Thats harder then it sounds. Especially at my age (24). Its harder for me to find a gf with the same interests as me, thats why my love life is a complete disaster. My ex was the closest I got to met a girl with the same interests but even so she wasnt quite there yet. Many other girls reveal interest in me (sorry for the lack of modesty) and I had quite a few dates, but even so I just cant get interested in any of them - They seem soo boring. I'd love to find a girl of my age interested in gaming but, at least in my country, they're almost non-existent. With males its easier to find someone that likes gaming but only as a passive matter of talk. I have plenty of friends but, besides maybe one, none of them has a "passion" for gaming. They play the usual CoD, GT some online MMO and thats it. If I was younger It would be easier to find friends with gaming as a main hobby. The new generations grow up with it, even young girls start to take gaming as a serious hobby. Now at my age... not so much. Thats why I think its too late for me. I was born in the wrong generation

That's why alcohol was invented, to make boring conversations tolerable. Chevolutionary

I feel you man. I feel that even since I started college and got a job, I would rather stay home more than hang out with friends. Maybe it's because I have far less time to do the things I enjoy...