Hi OT, lurker here. I'd like to know if anyone had any stories they would like to post in which they learned something or regretted something they did. WARNING, OUTRAGEOUSLY LONG STORY, DO NOT READ IF YOU HAVE A SHORT ATTENTION SPAN.
So uh, back in 4th grade, I had just moved from Texas to a new elementary school and I met this girl who I quickly became good friends with. Over the course of 3 years, I started to develop feelings for her. (Y'know typical elementary school love) Honestly, at the time I thought she was so much more attractive that I so i felt extremely intimidated and barely talked to her. We ended up passing notes ALOT. ( I kept those notes even after a couple years had passed, because they meant alot to me but someone in my family found them and threw them away :sadface: ) So uhm, nearing the end of 6th grade, I asked her to be my girlfriend, even though I now know that i was much too young. She nodded her head yes and ran away, leaving me slightly confused but happy. Even though we were know "together" I wasn't much of a boyfriend.
7th grade and middle school starts and she tells me that she now longer has feelings for me. I was perfectly okay with that, because I knew that I was being a total relationship idiot. Later, in high school she spent alot of time with a guy. They spend like the whole day together everyday, and are really flirty, but he is too scared to ask her out or something. No one really likes this guy, as he is so paranoid someone will steal her away, that he hides her from her friends.
At the same time, I was becoming an extremely charismatic guy and easily made friends with members of both sexes. Nearing the middle of the school year I met another girl, who was pretty different from the girl I previously had a crush on. She wasn't exactly the prettiest girl but she had the most amazing personality. I had been in the same class with the girl but had never talked her. The first time we talked, involved her saying Hi, giggling and walking off. At the time i thought she was a bit weird. Nearing the end of the school year, we were grouped together for a Power point presentation. I looked back at her and all she did was smile. That's when it all began. We scored a 99 on the project and I believe she still has the post-it note that our teacher gave us with the score on it. So for the remainder of the year we strengthened our friendship, walking together to and from classes talking the whole time, being late but not really caring. During 8th grade, much of the same occurred and I still felt those butterflies whenever I was around her.
End of 8th grade became pretty hectic, and I told her I liked her after a trip to Santa Cruz. This was about 3 days before school ended, and I was rejected, kind of. Her reason was that, because she was going to a different school, she didn't really want to have a relationship with me, even though I was sure she had some feelings for me. This was a day before the graduation dance, and I asked her to it. She said yes, but it was either pity, or she just wanted to go as a friend.
We're in high school now, and we still talk to each other alot, and she flirts with me occasionally, but I'm inclined to believe that she's just that kind of person. She was always really friendly, while i was a bit more reserved.
So I guessed I learned that in both of these relationships, I did something really wrong. In the first relationship I took my time, in getting to know her, but I rushed into asking her to go out with me as we were really too young. In the second relationship, I was just too late, I'm sure that, had I asked her out during 7th grade, or the beginning of 8th grade, things would be different.
And yeah, I know that relationships are a waste of time at this age, but I can't change my feelings. (: Sorry for the frikken long opening post, you don't have to read it all, but I hope that whoever does, finds in informative in some sense.
So, anyone care to share their own experiences?
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