Tough Situation (Girl Trouble)

So I've been with my current girlfriend a bit more then a year now. To say the least, we have a very good thing going right now and I love her to death. I'd never think of cheating on her. It's the farthest thing from my mind right now. In fact, this month has been pretty whack for me since she's been away all month first with this university program she's doing then with her going to visit family in New York and Florida. It's been a dismal month this far.

To make things worse, I'm taking this summer course, Math 12, every morning. I take it so I can get an advanced credit and not take it during the school year. In my cIass this girl beside me and she's nice, she's very attractive, I talk to her a lot, we get along and I want to be friends with her but nothing more.

I don't think she has that in mind though, she plays footsy games with me, she looks at me a lot, she winks at me, outside of cIass she gets really close to me, kisses me on the cheek, etc. She calls me up a lot as well and we always talk and she brings up a lot of things which are kind of...well I'd get in trouble with my girlfriend if she found out let's leave it at that.

I really like this girl as a friend, I don't know whether to tell her off though or just let her do her thing. I don't want to antagonize her. I feel that if I told her to just be friends she'd be uncomfortable, angry, embarassed, or something else. I don't know what to do in this situation.

I hope you read it all, I tried to paragraph as much as I could. Help

Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Cherokee_Jack

Just tell her you have a girlfriend if she tries to move beyond playful flirting. I think most girls would understand.

"Hey,I really like you as a friend, but that is as far asI want this relationship to go."

if it turns awkward after that, so be it, but it wont be on your concience.

and its only a summer class, she'll be gone in a few weeks.

If you wish to be "faithful" to your current girlfriend, you will make it known to this girl that you are currently not available and are not open to these advances. It is the only respectful thing you can do. If she is your "friend" she will understand.

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

oh then just tell her that. At worst she might be upset at you for possibly leading her on (playing footsie back at her) or embaressed with herself.

[QUOTE="Toriko42"][QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?mrbojangles25

oh then just tell her that. At worst she might be upset at you for possibly leading her on (playing footsie back at her) or embaressed with herself.

Go out with both.

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

Start the conversation by assuring her that she has some good qualities; that'll prevent her from thinking that you just want to make her feel bad. Next, say that you have a girlfriend and that you're not at all interested in being more than friends.

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

Mention it to her off-hand. If she doesn't stop playing around, then just tell her straight out that you don't want that kind of relationship with her. And if that doesn't work, avoid her.

It might be rough, but this is bad business.

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I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship with your gf.

If you love your gf as much as you say you do, why have you not told this other girl?

Attractive girl taking a summer math class, I'm moving to your town!blackngold29

That's a long way to go for a cute girl.

Who's hotter?

Just apologize for leading her on, tell her you enjoy her friendship, and finally tell her you already have a girlfriend.

keep letting her flirt with you so if you break up with your current gf, you'll still have a backup. :)

Start the conversation by assuring her that she has some good qualities; that'll prevent her from thinking that you just want to make her feel bad. Next, say that you have a girlfriend and that you're not at all interested in being more than friends.

dracula_16

Just tell her you have a girlfriend that you love. that should do it.

Maybe you can have TWO girlfriends. :D

Two for the price of one. Nice TC. Real nice.

just mention your girlfriend nonchalantly like, "my girlfriend has that shirt too" or something, really it's no big deal. Even if she get's mad, big deal, there will be others.

Tell her you just want to be friends. I understand wanting to be nice but if you have a good thing going with your current girl why even take a small chance of losing her because of this other girl?

Two for the price of one.Hungry_Jello

just mention your girlfriend nonchalantly like, "my girlfriend has that shirt too" or something, really it's no big deal. Even if she get's mad, big deal, there will be others.

AxeStrangler

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

Start the conversation by assuring her that she has some good qualities; that'll prevent her from thinking that you just want to make her feel bad. Next, say that you have a girlfriend and that you're not at all interested in being more than friends.

Toriko42

Off-hand is the best way. If you're too straightforward she could hear it as "I have a better girl already, so **** off".

Or worse still, she could think you're lying just to play hard-to-get.

If you can't say or do something in front of your girlfriend, chances are you shouldn't be saying or doing it. Keep that in mind in case this sorta thing happens again. You shouldn't have let things get this far in the first place. You've allowed her to feel comfortable flirting with you and that's not right. I'd care more about saving your relationship (as long as you still want to be in it) than some new girl's possibly being embarassed. If you're proud to be in your relationship stop hiding it.

Go out with both.

epic_pets

[QUOTE="Hungry_Jello"]Two for the price of one.Cherokee_Jack

But if he plays his cards right. He could be a pimp daddy. 8)

[QUOTE="Toriko42"][QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?ayanami_rei

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

Just say no! Tell her you have a girlfriend and that you just want to be friends.

Honesty is the best policy

[QUOTE="Cherokee_Jack"]Does she know you already have a girlfriend?Toriko42

I'd never think of cheating on her. It's the farthest thing from my mind right now. Toriko42

So I've been with my current girlfriend a bit more then a year now. To say the least, we have a very good thing going right now and I love her to death. I'd never think of cheating on her. It's the farthest thing from my mind right now. In fact, this month has been pretty whack for me since she's been away all month first with this university program she's doing then with her going to visit family in New York and Florida. It's been a dismal month this far.

To make things worse, I'm taking this summer course, Math 12, every morning. I take it so I can get an advanced credit and not take it during the school year. In my cIass this girl beside me and she's nice, she's very attractive, I talk to her a lot, we get along and I want to be friends with her but nothing more.

I don't think she has that in mind though, she plays footsy games with me, she looks at me a lot, she winks at me, outside of cIass she gets really close to me, kisses me on the cheek, etc. She calls me up a lot as well and we always talk and she brings up a lot of things which are kind of...well I'd get in trouble with my girlfriend if she found out let's leave it at that.

I really like this girl as a friend, I don't know whether to tell her off though or just let her do her thing. I don't want to antagonize her. I feel that if I told her to just be friends she'd be uncomfortable, angry, embarassed, or something else. I don't know what to do in this situation.

I hope you read it all, I tried to paragraph as much as I could. Help

Toriko42