Was it wrong for me to do this?

A long time ago at the beginning of the school year, there was this guy who was friendly with me and tried to make friends with me. We talked to each other and gave each other tips/advice/feedback on our schoolwork. Overall, we got along well with each other. There were other friendly guys in the class who tried once or twice to be friendly with me because they knew I was a shy person, but I didn't show much interest in them because I was too shy.

The first guy I mentioned I was more open with just because he was more talkative and liked talking to everybody, even me, and it's rare for a guy to show up in my life and show alor interest in being friends with me of all people. He was loud and outgoing and sociable with everybody. I thought I would just rely on him for a while as a friend before talking to everyone else who was trying to be open with me, just to stay in my comfort zone. After all, we'll all be with each other for a year and a half (that's how long the school program was), so I thought to myself that there's lots of time to do that.

But then something bothered me. Someone who was open with me a few times gave me a look when I was talking to this same outgoing guy from the beginning. It left me wondering what does he think that this guy looks like the only person I like talking to. Then there was this other guy who was friendly with me a few times (and still was) who I quickly glanced away from after looking at him because I was shy for some reason, and another person who saw that happen started laughing and said something to him, and I was like "What, what did he say?" to the guy I glanced away from, and what he did was point to the guy I was talkative with, and that guy rolls his chair over to me to see what's up.

I was thinking that there were people in the class that thought that maybe I was attracted to this guy (in a gay way) and I didn't want people to think that. So what I did was try to avoid him as much as possible, not talking to him and also not talking to anyone else either because I thought there's still alot of time in the program to talk to people and get to know each other. This guy I was talkative with was loud and outgoing and sociable with everyone, so I don't think people thought he was gay.

I think later on he noticed that I wasn't talking to him (for unknown reasons to him) and just started giving me glances to maybe get me to say something, since now it was always him who had to initiate small-talk. I even gave him dirty looks a few times, which I thought he wouldn't notice or take personally. And when he tried to show me some of the schoolwork he's done, I would just look and not say anything or ask any questions.

Then one day when he noticed I was depressed when we were doing a computer project, he came up to me to try and cheer me up and what I did was scoff him and ignore him because everyone was quiet in the class and he was loud and everyone in the class could hear him and I was worried that they were still thinking I was gay with this guy. (I was depressed at the time because I was wasn't doing so good in my work and I was even thinking about the fact that I had no friends in the school, which were combined reasons for me to look depressed)

I think this last incident I just mentioned along with me not initiating any chat made him realize something's up and that's when there were problems between us. Do you think it was wrong for me to avoid him just because I was worried about other people were thinking I had a bigger thing for him?

I phased out after the word "guy" was used for the 19th time. Sorry.

Do you think it was wrong for me to avoid him just because I was worried about other people were thinking I had a bigger thing for him?

action1234

I phased out after the word "guy" was used for the 19th time. Sorry.

Ilovegames1992

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I phased out after the word "guy" was used for the 19th time. Sorry.

max-Emadness

So you read and understood everything?

No who cares if people think your gay nothing wrong with that. Talk to the kid have fun

Talking to the same sex makes you gay now? It wasn't that long ago that being gay was when you have sex with the same sex.

So... you don't want to talk to this guy who you want to be friends with because you thinkother people will think you're gay?

Does it matter that much to you what other people think?

If you continue like that you wont make many friends in life.

lol dude i actually thought u were a girl until i got to the gay part. but yeah man just talk to guy if u wanna talk to him. u shouldnt think so hard about this stuff just talk and enjoy urself. like u said, ur gonna have class with them for a while or whatever so it would be a better idea to talk and get to know ppl otherwise ur just gonna stay depressed.cuz if u randomly just try talkin to ppl later oniunno it might seem akward since ur shy and stuff. im assuming the beginning of ur class or whatever was the first timeu met these ppl, so dont think about what they sayin about u. they dont even know u so u could be whoever u want in this class if u get what im saying. its not too late to make a first impression and from what u said it seems like these ppl wanna get to know u and are willing to talk to u, just talk back and enjoy urself so they dont think ur one of those emo dudes lol. u cant be shy forever man thinkin this hard about a little situation and taking the actions u did is just pretty ridiculous, like cmon manur a dude lol, this is like whatchicks do when they get all moody and stuff or they have a crush on ulol.

I think you should have had the chicken.

I phased out after the word "guy" was used for the 19th time. Sorry.

Ilovegames1992

It all made sense up until the gay part, because I thought you were a girl up until that point. Well, by "made sense" I mean it was hard to read all that while enjoying a delicious brownie, so I skimmed. The gist of it is that you shied away from some guy and now you're avoiding him because you think people think you're gay for shying away from the guy?

Don't let it bother you. They probably don't even think that, usually its just your mind playing tricks. Of course, there is always the possibility, but does that really matter? You want to hang out with him, hang out. Who cares what other people are thinking?

If he gets wind of the whole gay thing and asks you about it, just firmly reinforce that you are completely into females.

Instead avoiding the guy why didnt you make friends with other people instead???

What you did was, yes, wrong. Definetly not what you want to do. And now they wont think your gay but there all gonna think your a stuck up, socially akward loner

Talking to the same sex makes you gay now? It wasn't that long ago that being gay was when you have sex with the same sex.

toast_burner

Yeah, at least that's how it was in my high school.

I didn't talk to many people back in high school and the main person I talked to way my best friend (a guy). Second year, In my spanish II class, someone I worked with confronted me and told me that some of his friends thought I was gay Not really sure whatever happened to that rumor. That was the last I'd heard of it.

Being friends with somebody doesn't make other people assume you're gay The majority of teenage boys where I live slap each other's butts and hump each other's legs. That's not gay at all to them. You're worried just TALKING to this guy or LOOKING at him from across the room will make people think you're gay Get real. Of course it was wrong to avoid him over that, he didn't do anything wrong and I can guarantee you that nobody automatically jumped to the conclusion that you were gay

Being friends with somebody doesn't make other people assume you're gay The majority of teenage boys where I live slap each other's butts and hump each other's legs. That's not gay at all to them. You're worried just TALKING to this guy or LOOKING at him from across the room will make people think you're gay Get real. Of course it was wrong to avoid him over that, he didn't do anything wrong and I can guarantee you that nobody automatically jumped to the conclusion that you were gay

XilePrincess

Not JUST talking to him. I mean talking to ONLY him when other people showed interest in being friends with me too.

Not JUST talking to him. I mean talking to ONLY him when other people showed interest in being friends with me too.

action1234

**** what people think, that guy is your friend, you don't just dip out on him.

The way how you make friends: If someone shows friendliness to you, you get over your shyness, and reciprocate the friendliness back to them.

It's only gay if you hear Why do birds, suddenly appear... everytime you look at him.

dont be so shy. just be friends with whoever the hell you want, and if somone teases you or whatever just punch them in the face and knee em in the nose a few times and thatll shuthim and everyone else up.