Were You Always A Sociable / Unsociable As A Person?

I've noticed that a lot of social threads would get responses like I don't have a lot of friends, or I prefer to be alone, or I don't like to much interaction, blah blah blah... or the opposite which is you are a sociable person.

So I am curious -- were you always like this as a person growing up? Did you always welcome social interaction or did you always hate it? Or did some event in your life happend that made you this way -- where before said event, you were the opposite of what you are now (depending on which one of those you are).

Also, are you happy/content to be what you are (sociable/unsociable)? If yes, why? If no, why and what do you plan to do about it?

For me - I am a sociable person. I like the human interaction. Yes, I enjoy my alone time and would really rather bum it out at home than go out, but I can only do that for so long before I get cabin fever. I never really had a problem speaking up, speaking out, or going up to people. Mind you, I get really nervous and its the shyness in me that makes me do that, and I hesistate sometimes - but then I just am like **** it" and do it and it almost always (can't think of it backfiring on me - so if it has - pretty forgetable instance) gets me what I want, who I want, and I am happy.

I'm half and half. I do like having my own privacy, but also want to be able to have some human contact. I do accomplish both, as well, so I'm am content with the way things are. I'll talk with people in school, and from time to time I'll hang out with a friend at his house and just play some games with him and any other friends he invites over if any. Otherwise, I'm just chilling at home and enjoying my "me" time.

I am a social person.
I like to entertain people.I'm mostly the one talking,making jokes,telling stories..So,yeah.I can't really live without social interaction.

I was very shy and quiet when I was younger.Travo_basic

I'm quite sociable.

[QUOTE="Travo_basic"]I was very shy and quiet when I was younger.Sajedene

I'm sociable with most people, just be friendly and speak your mind.

Let's just say that I have friends who I talk to a lot,and theyhave another group of friends who I don't talk too much, or at all.

I've noticed that a lot of social threads would get responses like I don't have a lot of friends, or I prefer to be alone, or I don't like to much interaction, blah blah blah... or the opposite which is you are a sociable person.

So I am curious -- were you always like this as a person growing up? Did you always welcome social interaction or did you always hate it? Or did some event in your life happend that made you this way -- where before said event, you were the opposite of what you are now (depending on which one of those you are).

Also, are you happy/content to be what you are (sociable/unsociable)? If yes, why? If no, why and what do you plan to do about it?

For me - I am a sociable person. I like the human interaction. Yes, I enjoy my alone time and would really rather bum it out at home than go out, but I can only do that for so long before I get cabin fever. I never really had a problem speaking up, speaking out, or going up to people. Mind you, I get really nervous and its the shyness in me that makes me do that, and I hesistate sometimes - but then I just am like **** it" and do it and it almost always (can't think of it backfiring on me - so if it has - pretty forgetable instance) gets me what I want, who I want, and I am happy.

I was always always shy, but at the same time I was pretty sociable with my friends. Then one day I realized I'll never really get along with anyone (and really never have) and pretty much just quit socializing. I have friends (who I barely get along with at times), but don't hang out with them except between classes.

i got from shy to fairly sociable

now im kinda in the middle i guess, depends who i talk to

I used to be far more sociable of a person, but I was also, as a person, far worse.thepwninator

[QUOTE="thepwninator"]I used to be far more sociable of a person, but I was also, as a person, far worse.Sajedene

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="thepwninator"]I used to be far more sociable of a person, but I was also, as a person, far worse.thepwninator

[QUOTE="thepwninator"]

[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Care to elaborate on that?Sajedene

:lol:

If I'm in a transition phase, it's a pretty damn long one. The change happened about 4 years ago :P

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="thepwninator"] The two things were unlinked, but the series of events-a series of events I'd prefer not to go into detail about-that ruined my sociability also made me a better person overall. I used to be sadistic, violent, highly insulting, etc. (things that actually made me popular with everyone who wasn't on the receiving end of these things, and those on the receiving end were unpopular to begin with, so the fact that I was cruel to them didn't matter to anyone else, except those who found my actions amusing). Now, though I don't connect with or understand other people very well, I try to help most people in whatever way I can.

thepwninator

:lol:

If I'm in a transition phase, it's a pretty damn long one. The change happened about 4 years ago :P

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Ahh... I get it. Glad to know how you feel you are a better person... I am sure this feeling of disconnect will fix itself for the better. You are in a transition phase it feels like since you had a major persona overhaul. Sajedene

:lol:

If I'm in a transition phase, it's a pretty damn long one. The change happened about 4 years ago :P

And, strangely enough, I tend to connect better with people via indirect communication, be it the internet, phone, mail, etc., than face-to-face. It's weird.

I've always been shy and as soon as I was out of my comfort zone, I wouldn't talk to anyone. Now I've gotten much better at socializing. I'm still quite shy but I can now manage to talk to people I don't know without being incredibly awkward. :P And I wish I wasn't as shy as I am.

its basically the way i let myself be seen

from looking at me you can't tell nothing about me

even thought im 23 i look 15-17 years old

and on top of that i seem serious to alot of people and i come out looking bad

i've tried so hard to fix that. but seeing as when i come out of work i look like a zombie..it doesn't help

thats what probably kills my chance's with girls

I used to be social, then in fifth or sixth grade I got really shy. Was like that up until freshman year. Now I'm not really shy, but I'm still somewhat unsocial. I tend to not be able to hold conversations well with others unless I'm with close friends, and I get irritated easily with some people.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="thepwninator"]

:lol:

If I'm in a transition phase, it's a pretty damn long one. The change happened about 4 years ago :P

thepwninator

And, strangely enough, I tend to connect better with people via indirect communication, be it the internet, phone, mail, etc., than face-to-face. It's weird.

I was shy when I was younger, but in high school and college, I was enrolled in several public speaking classes. So, the shyness dwindled. Then, I got a job as a real estate agent, and that eliminated the shyness. I guess old dogs can learn new tricks, lol. :D

As far as the social aspect, I always played sports. So, Ihad a lot of friends (most of them were teammates).

In middle-school I was quite a bit more social but as I grew older and as my old friends went seperate ways I became more introspective about myself and about relationships. As of right now I have quite a few close friends, none of which I went to Middle School with..

I used to be very sociable at a young age. Until my parents left me in a car with a car salesman. After that, I became very timid.

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"] You make it seem like 4 years is such a long time. As compared to... how long were you that said person you were before? Obviously it looks like things are getting better -- I say we're connecting and understanding each other better right now albeit it be online... :)Sajedene

And, strangely enough, I tend to connect better with people via indirect communication, be it the internet, phone, mail, etc., than face-to-face. It's weird.

Growing up I was always a very sociable person. I had the same group of friends from 1st grade all the way up until graduation last year. We all went to different colleges and don't talk very much anymore. I've had trouble making new friends in college so I'm alone A LOT. Sometimes I mind, but most of the time I don't let it bother me. I still am a sociable person since I kind of have to be (I'm a waiter at a restaurant). I'm generally a really nice guy to people. I just never really have been in the position that I'm in now where I need to make friends since I always had a group growing up.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="thepwninator"] I was the person of whom I am not proud for about 10 years-pretty much since I started talking-until my freshman year of high school...

And, strangely enough, I tend to connect better with people via indirect communication, be it the internet, phone, mail, etc., than face-to-face. It's weird.

thepwninator

I've always been sociable, up until I hit high school. Now I keep to a group of friends and I'm very shy around new people, lying low pretty much. Also, even though I am one of the more... upper part of the hierarchy in our little group of friends, I'm very well known for liking to be by myself and get things done my way.

I wasn't very sociable as a kid because I was shy, and also skeptic and thoughtful of things. For as long as I remember me I had a lets say noble idea of what a true friendship is (and still define friendship as something special). And it's not that I have to hard criteria for other people I am just sick and tired of meeting the same immature and stupid people IRL.

EDIT: When I was living in this town from 1 to 10 y.o. I was very happy. Then I moved. But it wasn't the strange environment that made me like that. I have seen people getting backstabbed, lied to by "friends", people have lied about me behind my back and later on found out, and knowing me as a person I never gave someone the right to spread lies about me or to think something bad about me.

And I doubt my fears will help me make friends in university.