yep :D I didn't get any psycho-swats on the ass or anything though.
My father was a spanker. My father's father was a spanker.
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No. My mother always told me that she got punished physically by her father all the time, and that the biggest thing it taught her was that she never wanted to ever do the same thing to her children.GabuEx
I'm glad that some parents actually learn a thing or two based off of their own experiences in life, rather than inheriting them to use on their future children.
Anyways, that was not my parent's case. Yes, I got spanked with a paddle as a small child, and all I remember was how much it sucked.
yes, i was but on rare occasionsinyourface_12Same here. I used to just get grounded from playing games or going to the park. Now I'm just grounded from going out with friends if ever I get into trouble. Anyway I have one more year of this, until sweet sweet independence (surely they can't ground me in college :P).
No. My mother always told me that she got punished physically by her father all the time, and that the biggest thing it taught her was that she never wanted to ever do the same thing to her children.GabuExI don't see what the big deal is about physically hitting a child if he's misbehaving. Some kids don't always reason, and they need to understand they should obey their parents. Maybe I'm just saying that because I see some kids that aren't yelled at or scolded, and they just run around and raise havoc in public places...
I don't see what the big deal is about physically hitting a child if he's misbehaving. Some kids don't always reason, and they need to understand they should obey their parents. Maybe I'm just saying that because I see some kids that aren't yelled at or scolded, and they just run around and raise havoc in public places... viewtiful26The problem I always have with it is that parents always teach their kids that it is never appropriate to hit someone else to solve something, and then they turn around and hit their kid to attempt to solve something. If the kid has any sense of logic in his or her brain, it's not too difficult to see a problem there. Other forms of punishment, such as time outs or taking away something that the person likes, work perfectly well, and don't teach the kid that violence is an acceptable way to get what you want.
Yes I was spanked, but only when I deserved it. I usually got a verbal warning first and if I continued, I was swatted.
Ive grown up without having been arrested, having never used drugs, etc.
None of my friends were spanked.
One of them is in rehab for crystal meth.
One got so into pot that he let it control his life; no job, does nothing, sits around at home...
One of my friends is an alchoholic.
[QUOTE="viewtiful26"]I don't see what the big deal is about physically hitting a child if he's misbehaving. Some kids don't always reason, and they need to understand they should obey their parents. Maybe I'm just saying that because I see some kids that aren't yelled at or scolded, and they just run around and raise havoc in public places... GabuExThe problem I always have with it is that parents always teach their kids that it is never appropriate to hit someone else to solve something, and then they turn around and hit their kid to attempt to solve something. If the kid has any sense of logic in his or her brain, it's not too difficult to see a problem there. Other forms of punishment, such as time outs or taking away something that the person likes, work perfectly well, and don't teach the kid that violence is an acceptable way to get what you want. Yes, but I'm referring more of situations when kids run around in public sooner than they go to school. My mom used to take care of this one kid who wouldn't sit still at a bank, clinic, or whatever, so giving him a time out after the fact isn't very efficient in that situation, although I could see it working in others.
I live in Georgia. Take a wild guess. People down here love their corporal punishment. Spankings for the kids and chairs for the adults. Hell, southerners love spanking their kids so much that they came up with their own special brand of spanking called switching. For all ya'll yankees who don't know what switching is, it's where you take a thin, flexible branch off a tree or bush (it's not a stick or anything like that, more like a stiff vine) and use that to spank the kid with. Stings like hell. Oh yeah, and typically the kid is made to go outside and pick out the switch themselves.
[QUOTE="GabuEx"][QUOTE="viewtiful26"]I don't see what the big deal is about physically hitting a child if he's misbehaving. Some kids don't always reason, and they need to understand they should obey their parents. Maybe I'm just saying that because I see some kids that aren't yelled at or scolded, and they just run around and raise havoc in public places... viewtiful26The problem I always have with it is that parents always teach their kids that it is never appropriate to hit someone else to solve something, and then they turn around and hit their kid to attempt to solve something. If the kid has any sense of logic in his or her brain, it's not too difficult to see a problem there. Other forms of punishment, such as time outs or taking away something that the person likes, work perfectly well, and don't teach the kid that violence is an acceptable way to get what you want. Yes, but I'm referring more of situations when kids run around in public sooner than they go to school. My mom used to take care of this one kid who wouldn't sit still at a bank, clinic, or whatever, so giving him a time out after the fact isn't very efficient in that situation, although I could see it working in others. Aye, timeouts and taking stuff away works for some kids. For others, it just makes them more troublesome. When I was really, really young, my parents were poor and my mom was taking care of my dad's coworker's kid while he and his wife(both military) were at work. Well, this girl was an attention freak, and acted out a bunch. When she did, my mom would put her in a time-out, or take away her stuffed animal she carried around for a while. Well, one time the little girl flipped out and pushed me(2 or so at the time) down the basement stairs in protest. I'm pretty happy that I wasn't hurt badly, and that the stairs were carpeted. Some kids just can't be taught some ways, I'd imagine. I was taught on a "be good, be rewarded" system, which turned into a "do good and you get videogames on the weekend" system. Which turned into a "do good and get an hour of computer time each weekday, along with videogames on the weekend" system. If I acted out, I wouldn't get to do what I wanted, I'd get things taken away, etc. Of course, no system is void of flaws, and anything resembling an imperfection in my life(bad test result, health/body issue, etc.) would go unreported to my parents(except they'd usually find out about a bad grade once my report cards came in...satisfactory grades were 85+, and anything less would get me zero videogame/computer time as a result) because I wouldn't want to disappoint them(half selfishly, and half because the way I was raised left me a bit scared of letting them down once I realized what they'd done and sacrificed to get my family's lives to where they were). Bit those ridiculous kids...you know them...the screamers, and tantrum-throwers, are ludicrous. I wouldn't know what to do with them if I was in a public place and they started doing that. Sadly, I'd probably try to make it seem like I didn't care, in order to send the impression they're not having an effect. This would likely, as a side-effect, end up with me talking down to the kid about the idea that he/she is making a fool of him/herself. Or I'd just ignore them completely and act like everything is normal. I know if I had kids, mine wouldn't be like that because my kids would learn respect, and the value of earning what they want. If they want some candy, they can spend their own money on it. That would involve them getting a paper route or a similar job, like I did from sr. kindergarten until grade 10 when I got an actual job. Too many kids get allowances, that they don't earn, and if it's not done properly, then those kids could just become lazy. But whatever. I'm ranting. /rant
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