What do I do with my life...

Hey guys,



I've been thinking a lot about my life... for those of you who don't know me (which is most of you) I'm a Senior in High School, a normal kid from a normal family. The past semester's grades coming in have been a real wake up call for me. For the majority of high school, I've been content kind of cruising along in life, having fun and hanging out with friends instead of studying, etc. But as I look back on my past grades on my transcript it becomes increasingly obvious how much I ****ed up. Even if I decide to turn a new leaf now, it's too late. I'm beginning to realize that no worthwhile college would ever accept me with my grades. I mean, I'm a smart guy, I scored pretty good on the SAT and ACT, but with my grades the way they are....



That, combined with the overwhelming expectations of my parents (my older sister went to Northwestern University, which is a pretty damn good school, and my parents base their expectations off of her) is just too much. I look forward and I can't see any conceivable path in life that I could find happiness. I look back at the empty, good times during high school and before that and I realize how much I messed up. I wish I could go back and relive my high school days and this time do them right, but I obviously can't.



I've gone over the possibilities over and over again in my head, and there is just no path that I could take down life that I could see myself actually enjoying. What do I do? Join the armed forces??? I'm not cut out for that... Trade school? Community colleges???? My parents would never accept me back into the family knowing the best I could do was a community college...


I'm sorry, I know my problems may seem trivial to many of you guys out there, but they are literally life ending for me. While my friends will go on to good colleges, I'm left doing what? I don't even know.... I don't even know why I'm posting this here anymore... I guess I just need some people to talk to, and you guys are always great at cheering me up.



I mean, has anybody else been in similar situations where they realize they have no where left to go in life, and they are just kind of staring into the precipice of nothingness, regretting the choices that landed them there? I mean, I'm not asking for sympathy, I hate people that do that. But what do I do with my life now? I know I ****ed up and there's nothing I can do about it now but regret my decisions! What do I do with my life I honestly have no idea and am contemplating just ending it because the future for me is just so bleak.... IDK you guys probably don't understand...

Your situation is not as dire as you make it out to be. You could always get higher education and then go from there. So what if it is not a big name school? If you want, you could always work hard the first year and transfer to another school.

I screwed up pretty bad, but I have a year left to make everything a little better and if not I'm planning on moving to japan and make a gameshow.

Similar situation, but there are a few options( for me at least)

- Community college for 2 years, then transfer to a university

- go to the local university for a semester, then switch to a better university

-military

-possibly go straight to UCF( waiting on application)

from what I know, community college isn't a bad option at all. You go for 2 years, then switch to a university. MANY students in college end up getting their ass kicked and failing/dropping out so perhaps that's the best place to start

I cannot stress enough that complete your university in a field of choice. It will be invaluable to you for the rest of your life.

You seem fairly bright from the few posts that I can see.

First of all, this is really not a that big of a deal. Having a sis who goes to Northwestern sure is a tough act to follow, but that doesn't necessary spell the end for you. There's probably not much you can do grade-wise at HS, but at least do try and go out with a bang - ace all of your remaining classes. Depending on what the GPA is, going to a college is actually not that bad of an alternative either. You get to save money (the same classes offer in college are way cheaper than at university) and try to find out what your interest is while attending college. Join as many clubs/organizations as you can and expand your network and focus your energy on bolstering your resume and strengthen your academia. Then take all of those experience and good grades that I hope you would earn at college level and apply to universities of your choice. As long as you do well in college the admission office should overlook your blunder back at HS as you have have proven yourself at the college level.

If possible, try to find some work as well. It would look real good on your application that you are able to get good grades, is involved with extracurricular activities and able to hold down a job at the same time.

Hey guys,



I've been thinking a lot about my life... for those of you who don't know me (which is most of you) I'm a Senior in High School, a normal kid from a normal family. The past semester's grades coming in have been a real wake up call for me. For the majority of high school, I've been content kind of cruising along in life, having fun and hanging out with friends instead of studying, etc. But as I look back on my past grades on my transcript it becomes increasingly obvious how much I ****ed up. Even if I decide to turn a new leaf now, it's too late. I'm beginning to realize that no worthwhile college would ever accept me with my grades. I mean, I'm a smart guy, I scored pretty good on the SAT and ACT, but with my grades the way they are....

hamstergeddon

I had the same problem, but trust me there's always a solution. Don't give up. Aside from my grades

in college, the last decent grades I had were in elementary, but I still grinded it out. Even if all I got were D's

or C's. After I got out of High School I decided to attend a community college, seeing as every other college was

either too expensive or I couldn't be accepted due to my bad grades. So it figures, the course that I wanted didn't

even require me to have good grades! All I needed was my High School diploma. Imagine that, now I'm only

one year away from receiving my technical diploma even though my high school grades looked like utter ****.

And though a technical diploma might not be much, it allows me to get a decent job, then go back for my Degree

at the same college and/or transfer my current credits to another college and work for my degree there.

Ya gotta have faith broski, ya gotta have faith.

You could get licensed in Life Insurance and join a company like World Financial Group, who basically sell better life insurances (which sell themselves) and figure out ways for ppl to retire comfortably. It's not an easy job unless you're a very social person and can memorize things quickly, but if you work hard you'll make boat loads of money and help families at the same time. Or go to community college, raise your grades, apply for better college.

I can completely understand your viewpoint. I was almost the same way when I was in my latter year of high school. Very stressed, very worried, very concerned about what college I was going to get into and what I was going to do with my life. Of course, I can't fully understand what your situation is because I don't know what your academic situation, and what colleges will take you, and how much pressure your parents are putting on you, but the point is that a lot of that doesn't matter.

Do you realize how many people made something of themselves without going to decent colleges, or even not going college at all? Too many people to count. You need to find out what makes you happiest in life. That doesn't mean what job will you find security in. That's the one word that annoys me more than most, security. I hear it too many times and to me it's an excuse people make for their own complacentcy. People that use the word security, especially when referring to jobs, are mainly people who would rather be doing something else with their life.

This sounds cheesy, but it's really about pursuing what you dream about. Of course you need to really get in touch with who you are and what you want to find out what your dream is, but it will be worth the struggle. After you realize what your dreams are the key is to take a risk and go after them. You'll find too many people in the world who don't have the courage to take that risk. They're scared of giving up what they have, or letting go of that 'security' they've been holding onto. Don't be afraid to take the risk and go after what you want. Even if you fail (and I won't lie to you, that is a realistic possibility) you will still feel more satisfied than if you never took that step.

Stop caring about the pressures that your parents are putting on you, that your sister is putting on you, that your peers are putting on you, and just find out what it is that you want. There's plenty of books already out there that dwell on this exact situation, but two really stood out to me. Those being The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and the War of Art by Steven Pressfield. I could put money that those two books will really put things in perspective for you. Could also recommend some others, but those are the main two that come to head.