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Raises Hand.

I'm looking for a realtionship at the moment. All summer I was pro single, I was repping being a single guy without a care for someone else in the world. Only recently have I thought to my self, you know what being single sucks........ So it begins....

So OT where do you meet potential GF/BF(S)?

I know some of your fearless ones approach random women/men in the street and proceed to get their number, but that takse confidence which I lack.

It would be nice to be with someone emotionally and physically, but I'm not actively looking for a girlfriend.

I'm kinda in one now and kinda not. I'm so confused.themajormayor

meh. no sense in trying for something thats not gonna happen.

Well, if you're lacking confidence and believe you need to be in a relationship you're just begging to get used, hung out to dry, and your feelings hurt. You're jumping the gun a little bit, placing such importance on getting into a relationship, before even meeting someone you're interested in yet. Try finding somebody you actually like first.

Officially putting myself on the market for the ladies of OT. Line forms on the left and please maintain an orderly fashion as there will be ample opportunity for all.Pittfan666

I'm in a casual relationship so I content.

Officially putting myself on the market for the ladies of OT. Line forms on the left and please maintain an orderly fashion as there will be ample opportunity for all.Pittfan666

There are no ladies on OT. There's no such thing as women on the internet. It's lies, all lies!

Well, if you're lacking confidence and believe you need to be in a relationship you're just begging to get used, hung out to dry, and your feelings hurt. You're jumping the gun a little bit, placing such importance on getting into a relationship, before even meeting someone you're interested in yet. Try finding somebody you actually like first.

TacticaI

Nope. Enjoying the single-life very much. I got out of a three year relationship with a time-bomb, so i'm enjoying dating and other fun things:D

I'm always on the lookout for a future wife. The problem is I feel too busy trying to establish myself, pay back debt, and generally get things figured out to even think about finding one or a girlfriend/woman etc, so in essense I kind of don't even bother.juden41

That sounds like me. Ive even back off some potential serious relationships because i kinda dont want the extra burden in my life right now. I have so much much crap to deal with right now that I feel like i dont have the energy to be in a a relationship.

So OT where do you meet potential GF/BF(S)?Chicken453

In all honesty, a boyfriend would be nice, but certainly not necessary. I'm not really at the point where I'm willing to settle and just be with someone for the sake of it. I have to legitimately like them.

I always say this, though, and even though it is true I have been alone for quite some time now. A lot of it probably is my fault, since I make 0 effort to mingle and whatnot. Idk, I don't really care that much, I guess. I've got other things going on, so it's not an active search.

Edit: f*ck this formatting.

Nah, I like being single. Gives me a lot more freedom.chessmaster1989

Ehh the past 2 gfs Ive had though I still hung out with whoever I wanted, played games whenever......(on my time of course). I guess I just havent seen these more....controlling....girls

Currently I'm in a relationship so no I'm not looking.

She and I met at college, but we actually hooked up at a bar. I would argue that a bar is not the best place meet a girl though. At least not for a relationship.

I've been through several relationships including one failed marriage (so far) and there were many great times and there were a few not so great times... I've been on my own now for just over 6 years and all I can say to people looking for a relationship is this: STAY SINGLE (You'll thank me one day for this advice, I swear to God... one day... you'll see...)67gt500

Nah, I like being single. Gives me a lot more freedom.chessmaster1989

If you want confidence you need to start by being comfortable with yourself. This also means you need to accept yourself and be happy, this does not mean that you should give up, if say you were over weight a bit you should try to stay healthy etc...but you need to know that you are a good and likable person regardless and that there are women out there that will like you.

Just be comfortable around women and talk to them, you will hit it off with plenty of them. You seem like a cool guy TC, even though you hate everything I say, but I think once you can easily get women to like you. Many probably already do, you just don't see it because you are down on yourself. Get some confidence, try it out a bit, you seem to have plenty of good qualities. You just need to believe in yourself some more.

Relationships are hard, it is tough to find a woman who you can get along with for a long time. But sooner or later you will find a woman that you "click" with, that you can't get out of your mind. It's something on a much more deeper level. You will know it when it happens. When you find her don't let her go, if you do you will never be happy. I know this from personal experience.

I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

ghoklebutter

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I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

FMAB_GTO

[QUOTE="FMAB_GTO"][QUOTE="ghoklebutter"]

I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

ghoklebutter

I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

ghoklebutter

My advice to you is just get out more. What is your social circle like? Try going to places where you can be around more women. Colleges maybe? Try volunteering somewhere perhaps? I volunteer at an animal shelter, girls find it cute when you hang out with dogs and puppies.

To be confident you need to love yourself first, you need to change your thinking. You have to get comfortable with yourself, try talking to girls just like you would anyone else. Just be yourself, try not to worry about it.

I'm not going to tell you good luck, because you don't need it. You already have it, you are just choosing not to use it because you don't believe you can. You have to believe in yourself.

Not I, I've chosen to stay single for life.

[QUOTE="themajormayor"]I'm kinda in one now and kinda not. I'm so confused.Chicken453

Having lots of in and outs is the best part of a relationships.

I usually check out OT for hot babes.SolidSnake35

Hi cutie, what ya wearing?

I am. I used to be afraid of romantic relationships, but now I would love to be in one. My loneliness has increased over the past few years even though my social anxiety is decreasing. These days, there are few things I wish for more than being in a loving relationship with someone who is empathetic, nonjudgmental, and sensitive. However, it is precisely because of my intense loneliness and some other insecurities that I have decided to not try to find a romantic partner until I am more emotionally stable. I'm currently at what most consider a vulnerable, unstable emotional state. In the meantime, I'm just looking for more friends. I'm also working on my confidence.

ghoklebutter

Don't think like that. Try to find a partner. I think all those insecurities and unstable emotional state are stuff you make up in your head as excuses. It will vanish when you meet a girl. At least it was like that for me. themajormayor

I wish they were just excuses; I've had those insecurities ever since I was 9 or so. But I'm certainly working to get rid of them. And when I do, I'll feel more comfortable finding a partner. Right now I feel that I'll screw things up if I try to be in a relationship with someone while my insecurities are still strong. It's possible that they will somehow go away when I actually start getting to know women, but I have no real way of knowing that. I just like the err on the side of caution.

I read "Who's here looking for a relationship? Share with us all your thoughts" Oh, the horror.

[QUOTE="Pittfan666"]Officially putting myself on the market for the ladies of OT. Line forms on the left and please maintain an orderly fashion as there will be ample opportunity for all.leviathan91

There are no ladies on OT. There's no such thing as women on the internet. It's lies, all lies!

My advice to you is just get out more. What is your social circle like? Try going to places where you can be around more women. Colleges maybe? Try volunteering somewhere perhaps? I volunteer at an animal shelter, girls find it cute when you hang out with dogs and puppies.

To be confident you need to love yourself first, you need to change your thinking. You have to get comfortable with yourself, try talking to girls just like you would anyone else. Just be yourself, try not to worry about it.

I'm not going to tell you good luck, because you don't need it. You already have it, you are just choosing not to use it because you don't believe you can. You have to believe in yourself.

ShadowMoses900

I suppose I should go out more, but it's hard for me to do that personally. I am a college student and I do plan on volunteering at places such as clinics and hospitals, but at the same time, I still feel a bit intimidated by social interaction. All I can do is push myself more and more - and fortunately, I've been making good progress.

As for loving myself, I neither love nor hate myself; I just tell myself that, like everyone else, I'm worthy of loving and being loved. When I was younger, I used to tell myself the opposite: that no one can ever genuinely like me and that I don't deserve to love other people. So my current mindset is just fine. What I do need to work on is being myself; there are a lot of things that currently hold me back from being myself, but I'm taking care of them one by one.

I'm kinda in one now and kinda not. I'm so confused.themajormayor