Why do high school relationships seem to not be about love?

I used to be that way. I'm still in high school, but I realized I should never try to get with a girl for companionship alone, rather than the fact that I actually truely want to be in a relationship with her, not just a girl.

Plus, although it happens more frequently in high school, I see it happen all the time after high school.

People buy in to the fact that since you've hit highschool, you should be in a relationship, meaningful or not. Hell, I even think it starts in middleschool, when you see little kids dating. What the hell is up with that?metallica_fan42

People buy in to the fact that since you've hit highschool, you should be in a relationship, meaningful or not. Hell, I even think it starts in middleschool, when you see little kids dating. What the hell is up with that?metallica_fan42

Yeah it does start Middleshcool they just do it to look good most of them.

People buy in to the fact that since you've hit highschool, you should be in a relationship, meaningful or not. Hell, I even think it starts in middleschool, when you see little kids dating. What the hell is up with that?metallica_fan42

highschool :lol:Whicker89

Ha, yea, highschooler's think that high school is such a big deal. You don't realize how stupid it all was until you're out of it.

[QUOTE="Whicker89"]highschool :lol:Viedric

Ha, yea, highschooler's think that high school is such a big deal. You don't realize how stupid it all was until you're out of it.

~-~Because no one knows what love is or how to treat it. And no one knows because no one teaches them. Kids used to learn from their parents but now a days that's too awkward. And schools sure as hell aren't doing anything about it. So that leaves three more places to learn what a relationship really is and what it means. The first goes to hell cuz their friends are just as dumb about it most of the time. That leaves the media and the Internet. Oh my ****ing crap we're screwed. And it's not just that they aren't being taught the right way, there are so many things that influence them the wrong way. I can go on a huge rant about this but people will just take offence. Let me just say I think that free sex and how it's the norm to get horny over many different people is one of the biggest reasons. It's also the same reason so many people get divorces. But I know that you people love that stuff and if anyone says anything against it you start up a flame war that spawned from hell it self.~-~ ~-~Added: Maybe I should rant about the school system. At least I'll have more people on my side with that one. Rather they know anything or not.:lol:~-~The_PirateKing

I agree with you. Society in general has broken down from what it once was.

I know that when i have kids, i am going to sit them down and teach them right and wrong about this sorta stuff, from my point of view, and hope they heed my words and warnings until they are at least old enough to make educated choices on their own.

Of course, knowing our world and society, by the time i have kids, i'd probably be arrested for child abuse or some silly **** for teaching them about sex while they are in elementary school.:roll:

girls suck during highschool. all they do is b**** about how much their lives suck as if they really have anything to complain about:roll:SDog624

my gf does ... but i dont blame her... she lives in a small house with 9 people who all .... she can hardly sleep.... she never hasa ride to go anywhere... they always make her stay home and match kids..... I know have seen a bad life... but after all that she stills the sweatest girl and toughs through it

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

Rekunta

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

well as a senior i can say this and speak for many...

Im a guy, i like hot chicks, i wanna get what i wanna get, and when i do i feel good...

why the hell should i be looking for love in highschool, all i want is what anyone wants, and by golly gee ima get it

R-Dot-Yung

[QUOTE="SDog624"]girls suck during highschool. all they do is b**** about how much their lives suck as if they really have anything to complain about:roll:dontlookiamhere

my gf does ... but i dont blame her... she lives in a small house with 9 people who all .... she can hardly sleep.... she never hasa ride to go anywhere... they always make her stay home and match kids..... I know have seen a bad life... but after all that she stills the sweatest girl and toughs through it

when i say that stuff im assuming u know im not labeling EVERY girl. but you know a good chunk of them are like that.

[QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

dontlookiamhere

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Probably not. How long have you been together?

[QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

nickyb628

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Probably not. How long have you been together?

1 year..

[QUOTE="nickyb628"][QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

dontlookiamhere

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Probably not. How long have you been together?

1 year..

Well, you're off to a good start. How old are you two?

[QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="nickyb628"][QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

nickyb628

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Probably not. How long have you been together?

1 year..

Well, you're off to a good start. How old are you two?

16

[QUOTE="nickyb628"][QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="nickyb628"][QUOTE="dontlookiamhere"][QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

dontlookiamhere

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Probably not. How long have you been together?

1 year..

Well, you're off to a good start. How old are you two?

16

Ehh, like I said before, good luck. You're getting to that age where a whole bunch of s*** happens. Just try and avoid it, although some of it is unavoidable. Good luck!

[QUOTE="Rekunta"]

Simply put: immaturity.

A lot of what is required for a meaningful relationship to form between two people is the maturity to handle difficult aspects that those in high school rarely, if at all, think about. High school is about experimentation, sex, infactuation, all that good stuff.

A meaningful relationship with someone that you truly care about are usually not formed in H.S. because the maturity just isn't there yet. There have been H.S. sweethearts that live together for the rest of their lives though, so it must be successful to some extent.

So yea, it's probably about the maturity level required for good relationships to last.

dontlookiamhere

So am I more mature were both 16 and Im not looking to be with her for sex or popularity.... Cuz i just feel right around her... And i can forgive her for almost anything... am i one of the few or something,,

Those are signs of maturity, sure. But It's impossible to discern your relationship over a forum. If you enjoy her company, and she yours, that's a good thing. There's nothing wrong with sex, it's a normal and healthy part of any relationship (not to condone it at that age though)....however both of your parents would have something to say about it pretty quickly, you can bet on it. Popularity?Meh....

The true test of how strong a relationship is is what happens when it's going through its hardest times. Then all the qualities that maturity has bestowed upon both of you becomes very apparent.

Good times are easy, bad times are the testing grounds.

Please you guys, I come back to my topic to find a stupid conversation building up ^. Let's get back to the topic.
camreeno360

Relationships in Highschool :lol:.nickyb628

I know.

Relations in high school are similar to "on the job training" and not everyone is cut out for the job.

1. People in high school are too young to be in love.

2. People in high school wanna get laid.

3. That's the way it should be - experiment and experience as much as possible, whether before settling down or not.

4. If people are in love at high school - swift punch to the nads.

us teens don't know what Love is.fax555241

Bollocks! I have just turned 19, and I know for a fact that I've been in love since I was 16. I started dating the perfect girl for me when I was 16, and I knew within months that I wholeheartedly loved her. Ever since, we've been happily together, and we've been engaged since I was 17...due to be married in 5 months (I'll still be 19).

My point: I'm a teen, and will still be a teen by the time I'm married. Additionally, I have been in love for 2 and a half years. Love isn't a mystery that is revealed to people on their 20th birthday, it's something that is either experienced or not...regardless of age.

I think this thread is giving highschool relationships a badder rap then they deserve. The thing that you have to understand about highschool relationships is that your expectations should be very low, lets face it, all a highschool relationship is, is learning the ropes on how to date. It isn't about finding your true love etc... Its about preparing yourself to know how to act, and handle yourself when you do find that "true love".

So naturally highschool relationship will be light and fluffy and not very serious, (for the most part), because neither party is looking for love, they are just looking for a chance to get used to this whole new experience called relationships. I think the real problem in highschool relationships come when they are taken too seriously, you should always go into a highschool relationship with the idea that this probably won't last long, but hell, lets make it fun while it does.

I think it is just because of how most of us are really immature at that age.

I managed to avoid that stuff, not only because I am really mature, but also because I am really shy....

well as a senior i can say this and speak for many...

Im a guy, i like hot chicks, i wanna get what i wanna get, and when i do i feel good...

why the hell should i be looking for love in highschool, all i want is what anyone wants, and by golly gee ima get it

R-Dot-Yung

if you look for anyone other than yourself to draw happiness into your life then you will be sad for the rest of your life no matter who you're with. Point is, you have to be happy with yourself and if you look to others to fill that void get ready for a **** life.