Why do people in 2013 still have a problem with interracial dating?

Okay I am black but I have friends from all races. So some of my friends date outside of their race but it bothers me that people in the year 2013 are still upset by interracial dating. For example, my friend who is black is dating an attractive white girl and they are truely in love with each other and are good people. But I was hanging out with them at buffalo wild wing last night and they got dirty looks for the bartender and a few servers and other people when they walking in holding hands. I saw people whispering and what not and continuing to give them diry looks. Our server even acts like he doesn't want to serve us because he sees them together. They ask for a beer and ask them are they of age when clearly they are we all are in our mid 20's and acts like their ID's are fake. So my friend get kind of ticked of and wants to go somewhere else, but his girl refuses because she didn't want them to think they won by making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway we eat and as we are leaving just to make a point my friends do a really long kiss in front of the people that were whipering about them, which made me LOL. Anyway, my point is that it's sad that people in 2013 still have such narrow minds. A similiar incident happen to my white friend who was dating a Indian girl. Whats the deal? Are people not allowed to date who they want to date? Jeeesh maybe is just the area of Virgina that I live it but I don't know it really makes me mad. What do you guys think about this issue?

Maybe its the crappy area I live in then ha.

I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Fightingfan

So you have a problem with other people dating outside of their race because YOU don't like particular race features?

Okay I am black but I have friends from all races. So some of my friends date outside of their race but it bothers me that people in the year 2013 are still upset by interracial dating. For example, my friend who is black is dating an attractive white girl and they are truely in love with each other and are good people. But I was hanging out with them at buffalo wild wing last night and they got dirty looks for the bartender and a few servers and other people when they walking in holding hands. I saw people whispering and what not and continuing to give them diry looks. Our server even acts like he doesn't want to serve us because he sees them together. They ask for a beer and ask them are they of age when clearly they are we all are in our mid 20's and acts like their ID's are fake. So my friend get kind of ticked of and wants to go somewhere else, but his girl refuses because she didn't want them to think they won by making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway we eat and as we are leaving just to make a point my friends do a really long kiss in front of the people that were whipering about them, which made me LOL. Anyway, my point is that it's sad that people in 2013 still have such narrow minds. A similiar incident happen to my white friend who was dating a Indian girl. Whats the deal? Are people not allowed to date who they want to date? Jeeesh maybe is just the area of Virgina that I live it but I don't know it really makes me mad. What do you guys think about this issue?

djshowstopper87

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples.  I am white and she is latino.  The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools.  But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial.  Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.djshowstopper87

So you have a problem with other people dating outside of their race because YOU don't like particular race features?

[QUOTE="djshowstopper87"]

Okay I am black but I have friends from all races. So some of my friends date outside of their race but it bothers me that people in the year 2013 are still upset by interracial dating. For example, my friend who is black is dating an attractive white girl and they are truely in love with each other and are good people. But I was hanging out with them at buffalo wild wing last night and they got dirty looks for the bartender and a few servers and other people when they walking in holding hands. I saw people whispering and what not and continuing to give them diry looks. Our server even acts like he doesn't want to serve us because he sees them together. They ask for a beer and ask them are they of age when clearly they are we all are in our mid 20's and acts like their ID's are fake. So my friend get kind of ticked of and wants to go somewhere else, but his girl refuses because she didn't want them to think they won by making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway we eat and as we are leaving just to make a point my friends do a really long kiss in front of the people that were whipering about them, which made me LOL. Anyway, my point is that it's sad that people in 2013 still have such narrow minds. A similiar incident happen to my white friend who was dating a Indian girl. Whats the deal? Are people not allowed to date who they want to date? Jeeesh maybe is just the area of Virgina that I live it but I don't know it really makes me mad. What do you guys think about this issue?

GummiRaccoon

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples. I am white and she is latino. The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools. But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial. Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

Ha I well at least its more common in your area. My area acts like hicks who have never seen two people of diffrent races dating.

Because a lot of people in 2013 are ignorant.

[QUOTE="GummiRaccoon"]

[QUOTE="djshowstopper87"]

Okay I am black but I have friends from all races. So some of my friends date outside of their race but it bothers me that people in the year 2013 are still upset by interracial dating. For example, my friend who is black is dating an attractive white girl and they are truely in love with each other and are good people. But I was hanging out with them at buffalo wild wing last night and they got dirty looks for the bartender and a few servers and other people when they walking in holding hands. I saw people whispering and what not and continuing to give them diry looks. Our server even acts like he doesn't want to serve us because he sees them together. They ask for a beer and ask them are they of age when clearly they are we all are in our mid 20's and acts like their ID's are fake. So my friend get kind of ticked of and wants to go somewhere else, but his girl refuses because she didn't want them to think they won by making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway we eat and as we are leaving just to make a point my friends do a really long kiss in front of the people that were whipering about them, which made me LOL. Anyway, my point is that it's sad that people in 2013 still have such narrow minds. A similiar incident happen to my white friend who was dating a Indian girl. Whats the deal? Are people not allowed to date who they want to date? Jeeesh maybe is just the area of Virgina that I live it but I don't know it really makes me mad. What do you guys think about this issue?

djshowstopper87

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples. I am white and she is latino. The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools. But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial. Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

Ha I well at least its more common in your area. My area acts like hicks who have never seen two people of diffrent races dating.

and which part of Virginia do you live in.

Just give me the county.

Ignorent, racist people are everywhere. Not much you can do about, unfurtunatly

why do people have a problem with people who have a problem with interracial dating? people have different views, get over it

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[QUOTE="GummiRaccoon"]

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples. I am white and she is latino. The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

 

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools. But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial. Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

Jebus213

Ha I well at least its more common in your area. My area acts like hicks who have never seen two people of diffrent races dating.

and which part of Virginia do you live in.

Just give me the county.

i don't think i know one person that has ever said anything negative to me about not approving of interracial dating.

and if they did i would probably not associate with them any longer.

[QUOTE="djshowstopper87"]

[QUOTE="GummiRaccoon"]

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples. I am white and she is latino. The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

 

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools. But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial. Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

Jebus213

Ha I well at least its more common in your area. My area acts like hicks who have never seen two people of diffrent races dating.

and which part of Virginia do you live in.

Just give me the county.

Because some people are ignorant and stupid. It will always be that way.

The people who often "see others with a problem" are the interracial couples. Not so much because they actually run into problems but because they want to believe lots of people have a problem. Its a common thing a lot of people do, they project the image of others having a problem with them so they can feel special or important somehow. A lot of times in the case of interracial couples they want the attention so they can feel noticed. If you didnt want attention brought to it then you wouldnt have so painstakingly brought to a forums attention, you would just be happy with your signifcant other and gone about your business. People love to feel in conflict because it gives them a sense of importantance.

Racism, interracial dating, gay people and so on are often an issue because those people feel the need to make it an issue. If a gay person for instance would just worry about being a person instead of trying to be "a gay person" then no one would care. When you draw attention to something of course youll get attention for it, negative and positive.

I mean sure some people will have an issue regardless of what you do but you have to let them think and believe what they want. See in this country we preach tolerance and acceptance, but we only do so when it suits us. You have a right to be an interracial couple and people have just as much right as to not like it. If you want to be truly tolerant then you have to ignore or put up with what you dont like, if you dont tolerate it then you arent being tolerant are you?

Besides, who cares what other people think? You should focus more on what makes you happy instead of worrying about what makes other people unhappy. So what if someone doesnt like you as a couple? How exactly does that effect your personal life? It doesnt. So just let it go. Just be a couple, stop referring to yourself as a interracial couple, be happy with eachother and dont pay attention to what others think. Youll find youll have a much nicer life if you only worry about those that you care about and yourself.

Because people are paranoid about how oh no the white race is gonna go extinct.PannicAtack

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[QUOTE="djshowstopper87"]

 

Ha I well at least its more common in your area. My area acts like hicks who have never seen two people of diffrent races dating.

djshowstopper87

and which part of Virginia do you live in.

Just give me the county.

I live in backwoods central Virginia. Haven't seen any of that the 8 years I've been living here.

Where do you live? I've never seen anyone around here pay any attention to interracial couples.LJS9502_basic

[QUOTE="PannicAtack"]Because people are paranoid about how oh no the white race is gonna go extinct.Ace6301

The people who often "see others with a problem" are the interracial couples. Not so much because they actually run into problems but because they want to believe lots of people have a problem. Its a common thing a lot of people do, they project the image of others having a problem with them so they can feel special or important somehow. A lot of times in the case of interracial couples they want the attention so they can feel noticed. If you didnt want attention brought to it then you wouldnt have so painstakingly brought to a forums attention, you would just be happy with your signifcant other and gone about your business. People love to feel in conflict because it gives them a sense of importantance.

Racism, interracial dating, gay people and so on are often an issue because those people feel the need to make it an issue. If a gay person for instance would just worry about being a person instead of trying to be "a gay person" then no one would care. When you draw attention to something of course youll get attention for it, negative and positive.

I mean sure some people will have an issue regardless of what you do but you have to let them think and believe what they want. See in this country we preach tolerance and acceptance, but we only do so when it suits us. You have a right to be an interracial couple and people have just as much right as to not like it. If you want to be truly tolerant then you have to ignore or put up with what you dont like, if you dont tolerate it then you arent being tolerant are you?

Besides, who cares what other people think? You should focus more on what makes you happy instead of worrying about what makes other people unhappy. So what if someone doesnt like you as a couple? How exactly does that effect your personal life? It doesnt. So just let it go. Just be a couple, stop referring to yourself as a interracial couple, be happy with eachother and dont pay attention to what others think. Youll find youll have a much nicer life if you only worry about those that you care about and yourself.

Gargus

Racial classification is so dumb you would think it was invented by some imbecile, how can you even look at certain people and call them a colour, total hogwash thats not even addressed even in current day. So you mean to tell me you are White except when i do illustrations, i tend to use colour red for such people....So you mean to tell me you are Black when i do illustrations, i tend to use colour brown, like for real

People are allowed to have preferences

Because people are racists.. I haven't had anybody give my girlfriend (black-Italian) and I (White-Latino) any evil eyes or anything like that, but I have had some people joke about me dating a black girl. It goes with the territory, really.

But that said, like one guy said, you cannot give them the satisfaction of making you feel miserable or guilty for dating somebody outside of your race. Any black joke I encounter, I just shrug and laugh it off. Then again, we live in a fairly tolerant community.

Maybe it is where you live. I never had to deal with the problems your friend had to deal with, so far

[QUOTE="djshowstopper87"]

Okay I am black but I have friends from all races. So some of my friends date outside of their race but it bothers me that people in the year 2013 are still upset by interracial dating. For example, my friend who is black is dating an attractive white girl and they are truely in love with each other and are good people. But I was hanging out with them at buffalo wild wing last night and they got dirty looks for the bartender and a few servers and other people when they walking in holding hands. I saw people whispering and what not and continuing to give them diry looks. Our server even acts like he doesn't want to serve us because he sees them together. They ask for a beer and ask them are they of age when clearly they are we all are in our mid 20's and acts like their ID's are fake. So my friend get kind of ticked of and wants to go somewhere else, but his girl refuses because she didn't want them to think they won by making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway we eat and as we are leaving just to make a point my friends do a really long kiss in front of the people that were whipering about them, which made me LOL. Anyway, my point is that it's sad that people in 2013 still have such narrow minds. A similiar incident happen to my white friend who was dating a Indian girl. Whats the deal? Are people not allowed to date who they want to date? Jeeesh maybe is just the area of Virgina that I live it but I don't know it really makes me mad. What do you guys think about this issue?

GummiRaccoon

My wife and I like to point out to each other other interracial couples. I am white and she is latino. The rarest mix I have seen is a black woman with an asian man.

The only reason we point them out is because we didn't think of ourselves as being an interracial couple, we are from the same city and went to the same schools. But one day we were in a rural area and I overheard someone say something about us being interracial. Ever since then we take note of every one we see, and here in the bay area there are a lot.

White guy: So what is a black woman like you doing with an Asian man

Black Woman: I like my little Asian man. ummm hummm, he make them dumplings and that fried rice with the soy sauce. That chineseboy can cook I tell you what.

My brother and his girlfriend got beat up by 6 other people at college because he's dating an african american when he is white. Nobody in the group of 6 was prosecuted for their actions.

My brother and his girlfriend got beat up by 6 other people at college because he's dating an african american when he is white. Nobody in the group of 6 was prosecuted for their actions.

Wolfetan

My brother and his girlfriend got beat up by 6 other people at college because he's dating an african american when he is white. Nobody in the group of 6 was prosecuted for their actions.

Wolfetan

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"]

My brother and his girlfriend got beat up by 6 other people at college because he's dating an african american when he is white. Nobody in the group of 6 was prosecuted for their actions.

MrPraline

Indeed.. Helps to be ready for anything

I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Fightingfan

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Diablo-B

Taking Fightingfans first post in a thread seriously.

What is this world coming to.

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"]

My brother and his girlfriend got beat up by 6 other people at college because he's dating an african american when he is white. Nobody in the group of 6 was prosecuted for their actions.

Nibroc420

[QUOTE="Diablo-B"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Jebus213

Taking Fightingfans first post in a thread seriously.

What is this world coming to.

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Diablo-B

because they're ignorant jack holes.

[QUOTE="Diablo-B"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"]I just don't like it because a particular race has features I dislike.Fightingfan

[QUOTE="Fightingfan"][QUOTE="Diablo-B"] Is fightingFan racist?lowkey254

White women lack butts. Fightingfan

[QUOTE="lowkey254"][QUOTE="Fightingfan"] Maybe. Only Asian and hispanic hoes. Fightingfan

If you come to Texas you'll definitely see white women with booties...lowkey254

Because people are fools.

[QUOTE="lowkey254"] If you come to Texas you'll definitely see white women with booties...MrPraline

Racism. People don't like seeing certain minorities stealing their women I guess. The only time I take notice is if a black guy is dating a fat white chick (which seems to happen more frequently then I used to think). When I see that I think "walking stereotype".

because people are racist