Why dosent she want me call her very often??

First question... have you met?JustPlainLucas

What kind of money are you "wasting"? the price of long-distance telephone calls? If that's all, she's probably cheating on you and trying to forget that she's still dating you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about seeing somebody behind your back, or she's just trying to avoid the whole one-boyfriend-calls-while-another-one-is-over thing.XilePrincess

I'm gonna skip all the sugar-coating this time and just say: dump her.

Im in a long distance relationship.. I call her 4 to 5 times a week and we talk for 1 and a half hour..She says she dosent want me waste too much money on her...but I dont believe her...that dosrnt make any sense...I really love her.. what should I do?Whatevaaa

Dump her.

She probably considers the relationship over anyway, but doesn't have the balls to end it herself. So instead, she's trying to get you to end the relationship.

So my advice...give her what she wants. Go ahead and dump her and then you can each stop wasting time on each other.

I'm gonna skip all the sugar-coating this time and just say: dump her.

Miyomatic

[QUOTE="JustPlainLucas"]First question... have you met?Whatevaaa

dude....as a guy who did a long distance relationship.....love from afar is a tale of three

You should of never posted that question here. You will only get answers that will make you paranoid.

dude....as a guy who did a long distance relationship.....love from afar is a tale of three

mlbslugger86

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]What kind of money are you "wasting"? the price of long-distance telephone calls? If that's all, she's probably cheating on you and trying to forget that she's still dating you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about seeing somebody behind your back, or she's just trying to avoid the whole one-boyfriend-calls-while-another-one-is-over thing.Whatevaaa

She says she dosent want me waste too much money on her...but I dont believe her...Whatevaaa

As you shouldn't, what kind of woman dislikes a man wasting money on her?!

[QUOTE="Whatevaaa"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]What kind of money are you "wasting"? the price of long-distance telephone calls? If that's all, she's probably cheating on you and trying to forget that she's still dating you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about seeing somebody behind your back, or she's just trying to avoid the whole one-boyfriend-calls-while-another-one-is-over thing.XilePrincess

I would not put all your eggs in that basket. Long distance relationships FTL. quadraleap

This. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder.

all her friends knew about me but that still didn't make it anymore official im not trying to put things in your head but its not going to end well

I want to see where this ends..so Im gona call her everyday:)Whatevaaa

Ee's analysis of the situation as described: she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. She has serious doubts and has difficulty communicating those feelings. It may be possible, though a little more unlikely, that she doesn't fully understand how she feels. You like that you have someone to talk to and consider a partner, but what you feel is not love. My (quite worthless if you think about it) opinion is to end the relationship. If you think that she just feels guilty about you calling all the time, stop calling her for a time period and determine if she takes the initiative, how she reacts, and whether she reciprocates.

been in long distance relationship too and i think one of your worst enemies is never really knowing what goes on half the time, that can drive you nuts if you let it. she could have moved on but she could also be genuinely concerned that you are spending too much. that is really a non-issue though since you have no choice but to trust her if you think she's really worth it and want to move this forward.

you seem to take this way too seriously for having just met once though. take it easy, don't expect too much for now and it's fine to call her just in weekends and occasionally text her to let her know you're thinking of her. just see where it goes but also know what you're getting into; failure rate is high and there's a lot more hardship ahead of you so you will need to make sure she's really worth it before you're going to be really serious about it.

dude....as a guy who did a long distance relationship.....love from afar is a tale of three

mlbslugger86

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

BiancaDK

Why doesnt she want me call her very often?? = The relationship is already over.

It's time to keep it moving. = )

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"]

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

Willo_10

Calling every day I can handle. But for 1½ hours? 1½ hours on the phone?

Why on earth would anyone wanna stick around on the ph...-

oh :oops: nvm

Calling every day I can handle. But for 1½ hours? 1½ hours on the phone?

Why on earth would anyone wanna stick around on the ph...-

oh :oops: nvmBiancaDK

:oops: You gotta make long distance work somehow..

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"]Calling every day I can handle. But for 1½ hours? 1½ hours on the phone?

Why on earth would anyone wanna stick around on the ph...-

oh :oops: nvmWillo_10

:oops: You gotta make long distance work somehow..

What kind of money are you "wasting"? the price of long-distance telephone calls? If that's all, she's probably cheating on you and trying to forget that she's still dating you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about seeing somebody behind your back, or she's just trying to avoid the whole one-boyfriend-calls-while-another-one-is-over thing.XilePrincess

That COULD be the issue. Although there are genuine women out there who do worry about those things.

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

BiancaDK

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

BiancaDK

This is more or less what I'm thinking.

She's probably just trying to lessen the amount of time you talk on the phone. Do you talk anywhere else? Online for instance? What are your phone conversations like? Is there a lot of dead air and talk about the weather? Some people just don't do well on the phone, like me. I was in a long distance relationship for about 2 years before finally moving to be with her. If we'd talked on the phone as much as you described here it would have gotten very dull, very quickly.

Out of curiosity, how old are both of you and how long have you been doing this long distance thing?

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"]

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

Atmanix

This is more or less what I'm thinking.

She's probably just trying to lessen the amount of time you talk on the phone. Do you talk anywhere else? Online for instance? What are your phone conversations like? Is there a lot of dead air and talk about the weather? Some people just don't do well on the phone, like me. I was in a long distance relationship for about 2 years before finally moving to be with her. If we'd talked on the phone as much as you described here it would have gotten very dull, very quickly.

Out of curiosity, how old are both of you and how long have you been doing this long distance thing?

[QUOTE="Atmanix"]

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"]

1 ½ hours on the phone in one sitting is pretty steep even for me.

Only to repeat that every 1-2 days, month after month?

Hell, I'd tell you to call less too, even if I had no other ulterior motives. =P

Whatevaaa

This is more or less what I'm thinking.

She's probably just trying to lessen the amount of time you talk on the phone. Do you talk anywhere else? Online for instance? What are your phone conversations like? Is there a lot of dead air and talk about the weather? Some people just don't do well on the phone, like me. I was in a long distance relationship for about 2 years before finally moving to be with her. If we'd talked on the phone as much as you described here it would have gotten very dull, very quickly.

Out of curiosity, how old are both of you and how long have you been doing this long distance thing?

If you're already chatting heavily on MSN and Facebook then I would say the long and frequent phone calls are just becoming too much for her. Try calling her once or twice a week. They don't have to be long conversations.

Some advice though, I'd start thinking of a long-term plan if you are serious about this girl. Once she's 18 I'd say would be a good time to actually figure out what you want to do with the relationship. What I mean by that is considering moving to be with her or her moving to be with you. If either of you are planning on going to college maybe attending the same university to be closer to each other. Long distance relationships are fine if they're just a means to an end but a long distance relationship that you want to keep that way isn't going to work out.

[QUOTE="Whatevaaa"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]What kind of money are you "wasting"? the price of long-distance telephone calls? If that's all, she's probably cheating on you and trying to forget that she's still dating you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about seeing somebody behind your back, or she's just trying to avoid the whole one-boyfriend-calls-while-another-one-is-over thing.XilePrincess

[QUOTE="Whatevaaa"]She says she dosent want me waste too much money on her...but I dont believe her...Yandere

As you shouldn't, what kind of woman dislikes a man wasting money on her?!

[QUOTE="mlbslugger86"]

dude....as a guy who did a long distance relationship.....love from afar is a tale of three

Serraph105

You sound that u are clinging on her. Don't make her feel that u are giving her so much attention.

I'm gonna skip all the sugar-coating this time and just say: dump her.

Miyomatic

I thought girls love attention, and lots of it :|GazaAli

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