Recently I broke up with my ex gf because she cheated on me. Her and I had some issues, but I never saw them as "cheat worthy". I ran that risk because not only has her father cheated on her mother, but her sister's a complete WHORE! I will admit I have been kind of a dick to her, I mean c'mon! She cheated on me and wrecked my Christmas all together. But now she's dating the guy she cheated on me with and took his virginity. EEK!. I know he's gonna be her little pet now, which is what I wouldn't ever be. I see this as she's rebounding off of me and this senseless mutt is just setting sail for fail. I know this much, this so called "relationship" has moved way to fast. It took me at least 3 or 4 months to take her Virginity. I myself won't ever take her back, I couldn't imagine being where the oger she cheated on me with has been where I left off. But it would feel nice to think she wan'ts me back anyways. She absolutely destroyed me. But now im getting over it. But still, I don't want this **** to get away with this lightly. I know these threads are troll bait. I don't really care myself, im sure I'll get legit responses from at least a couple decent people. EDIT: Her excuse for cheating on me was because he's supposedly just like how I was in the beginning of our relationship, but as any guy would know, you tend to be really nice to the girl you wanna poke. I loved her, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this one, she was special for what it was worth, and our relationship lasted more than 2 years, but she couldn't make me her lap dog. This new feller can do that for her im guessing.
Seeing that she cheated on you in the first place I don't believe she'll what you back. It also depends on how much of a**** you've been to her I guess. Care to elaborate on that ?
@sagemen28 (damn GS is giving me issues with quoting) Really I wasn't too bad. I would get pissed off and text her, but I didn't blow her phone up with messages or missed calls. Corse if I did decide to call, she would answer. I don't think she ever ignored me once. I think I messed up by not ignoring her though. I wish I had of. I really wanted her back for a spell there. But what can I say? I loved her. Now it's not the same, I can't look at her the same. Broken two fingers over the ordeal, because walls always win. She herself admitted to me that she cheated on me, but she didn't screw the guy in the same night so she says. But her friend told me last night that she did. I freaked out! Threw my phone and broke that, and was quiet for a while. Petty I know, but up to that point, there was a part of me that wanted her back as little as I wanted to admit that. She wasn't my frist love, not by any means. But I hadn't ever really been in a longer(ish) relationship like that.
What does it matter whose virginity who takes? You two aren't together anymore, you broke up with her and that means you severed ties, regardless of the reason for the breakup. You have no say in what she does, or whose virginity she takes, how fast their relationship is moving, or anything else. She's not yours anymore, she stopped being yours when she made the decision to cheat, and you reinforced that by ending the relationship. Cheating isn't a good thing, but there's nothing to "get away with". You can't physically or otherwise attack her for what she did, so if she doesn't care and has already moved on from you, she did "get away with it". If she cheated on you, she's not rebounding, she didn't give a crap in the first place so there's nothing to rebound off of. You flip-flop from loving her/wanting to spend forever with her to being smug about how she couldn't make you a "lap dog" and about how you won't let her "get away with it". I'm sure you're hurt and stuff, but that's so immature.
Nobody can tell if she'll ever want you back... Time to just move on I guess, seeing it's not your first love I take it you already have some experience dealing with situations like this. We all go through it at some point, time heals all wounds.
What does it matter whose virginity who takes? You two aren't together anymore, you broke up with her and that means you severed ties, regardless of the reason for the breakup. You have no say in what she does, or whose virginity she takes, how fast their relationship is moving, or anything else or anything else. She's not yours anymore, she stopped being yours when she made the decision to cheat, and you reinforced that by ending the relationship. Cheating isn't a good thing, but there's nothing to "get away with". You can't physically or otherwise attack her for what she did, so if she doesn't care and has already moved on from you, she did "get away with it". If she cheated on you, she's not rebounding, she didn't give a crap in the first place so there's nothing to rebound off of. You flip-flop from loving her/wanting to spend forever with her to being smug about how she couldn't make you a "lap dog" and about how you won't let her "get away with it". I'm sure you're hurt and stuff, but that's so immature. XilePrincess
I don't mean to interject, but it seems like you're defending the actions of the girl. :o
I'm not saying you are, that's just how I took it.
Best thing you can do is just try to move on and forget about her, don't try to get some sort of revenge or something like that cause it always comes back to bite you in the ass and in the end it isn't worth it at all.
[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]What does it matter whose virginity who takes? You two aren't together anymore, you broke up with her and that means you severed ties, regardless of the reason for the breakup. You have no say in what she does, or whose virginity she takes, how fast their relationship is moving, or anything else or anything else. She's not yours anymore, she stopped being yours when she made the decision to cheat, and you reinforced that by ending the relationship. Cheating isn't a good thing, but there's nothing to "get away with". You can't physically or otherwise attack her for what she did, so if she doesn't care and has already moved on from you, she did "get away with it". If she cheated on you, she's not rebounding, she didn't give a crap in the first place so there's nothing to rebound off of. You flip-flop from loving her/wanting to spend forever with her to being smug about how she couldn't make you a "lap dog" and about how you won't let her "get away with it". I'm sure you're hurt and stuff, but that's so immature. Yes, I know I have been immature about it. I didn't really know what to do myself, and now im just pissed. Not a whole lot of time has passed yet and I haven't had a decent night's sleep, or really ate much since I found out. So this has taken a major toll on me.
I don't mean to interject, but it seems like you're defending the actions of the girl. :o
I'm not saying you are, that's just how I took it.
no_more_fayth
Not whatsoever. Cheating is repulsive and disgusting, and I don't mean to sound as though I'm defending her because I'm not, I would never stick up for a cheater. It's just ridiculous to me to think you have any control over another person after you've ended the relationship. OP won't heal from this if he wants to reel her back in just to smack her down and reject her the way he felt rejected, that's unhealthy and he'll be carrying that anger for a VERY long time.
I don't mean to interject, but it seems like you're defending the actions of the girl. :o
I'm not saying you are, that's just how I took it.
XilePrincess
Not whatsoever. Cheating is repulsive and disgusting, and I don't mean to sound as though I'm defending her because I'm not, I would never stick up for a cheater. It's just ridiculous to me to think you have any control over another person after you've ended the relationship. OP won't heal from this if he wants to reel her back in just to smack her down and reject her the way he felt rejected, that's unhealthy and he'll be carrying that anger for a VERY long time.
Okay, thanks for clearing that up. :P
TC needs to let those hostile feelings go and just accept it.
I don't mean to interject, but it seems like you're defending the actions of the girl. :o
I'm not saying you are, that's just how I took it.
XilePrincess
Not whatsoever. Cheating is repulsive and disgusting, and I don't mean to sound as though I'm defending her because I'm not, I would never stick up for a cheater. It's just ridiculous to me to think you have any control over another person after you've ended the relationship. OP won't heal from this if he wants to reel her back in just to smack her down and reject her the way he felt rejected, that's unhealthy and he'll be carrying that anger for a VERY long time. God no, I compute that part in my initial read. But I wouldn't ever think of controlling her. She made her own mistakes, and have even lost friends in return (i made very good friends with her friends with in those 2 years). But no, I wouldn't ever try to control her, not outright at least. Im mostly appalled and really, hurt that she would make such quick decisions. EDIT: If I were trying to control her, it may be a subconscious thing. But it's not in my nature to control anybody, Im the kind of person who will give you the shirt off of my own back, amazingly polite in person to who ever I meet, unless you cross me. I worry about others more than myself, but won't let myself get taken advantage of.
would you honestly ever waste your time with her if she wanted you back? if she's cheating and wanting a dude to be her boy toy, she honestly sounds like a waste of time. You can do better so I say forget her, girls like her jump from guy to guy often by the sounds of it
would you honestly ever waste your time with her if she wanted you back? if she's cheating and wanting a dude to be her boy toy, she honestly sounds like a waste of time. You can do better so I say forget her, girls like her jump from guy to guy often by the sounds of itTheNewEraIcon
I think she had all of this suppressed personally. When I met her she was very conservative, wanted to wate until marriage to have sex, the whole nine yards. But I kinda broke that track record. As I had said she has a family history of whoring around. My family and I don't even think her sister's father is the same guy who thinks he is. But I thought she was the acception, honor roll student and graduated with sponsorships and such. She really was a faithful girl and a wonderful girlfriend for the most part. And that's what I miss, but no. I do not want her back now.
Recently I broke up with my ex gf because she cheated on me. Her and I had some issues, but I never saw them as "cheat worthy". I ran that risk because not only has her father cheated on her mother, but her sister's a complete WHORE! I will admit I have been kind of a dick to her, I mean c'mon! She cheated on me and wrecked my Christmas all together. But now she's dating the guy she cheated on me with and took his virginity. EEK!. I know he's gonna be her little pet now, which is what I wouldn't ever be. I see this as she's rebounding off of me and this senseless mutt is just setting sail for fail. I know this much, this so called "relationship" has moved way to fast. It took me at least 3 or 4 months to take her Virginity. I myself won't ever take her back, I couldn't imagine being where the oger she cheated on me with has been where I left off. But it would feel nice to think she wan'ts me back anyways. She absolutely destroyed me. But now im getting over it. But still, I don't want this **** to get away with this lightly. I know these threads are troll bait. I don't really care myself, im sure I'll get legit responses from at least a couple decent people. EDIT: Her excuse for cheating on me was because he's supposedly just like how I was in the beginning of our relationship, but as any guy would know, you tend to be really nice to the girl you wanna poke. I loved her, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this one, she was special for what it was worth, and our relationship lasted more than 2 years, but she couldn't make me her lap dog. This new feller can do that for her im guessing. MrDubstep
This sounds quite a lot like my ex relationship but without the cheating.
It sounds like she was not worth your time if she was trying to make you into a lapdog and then going off with other people. Like someone said to me after i broke from my relationship "there is plenty of fish out there and you are a trawler my friend". So i'm sure there will be that special person out there for you somewhere.
Sounds like you want to know she is actually hurting over what happened as well, by wanting you back, which is regret/guilt=pain. However, you were her first, but she was not yours. You opened a door and she wanted to see what else was behind other ones. You fell in love, but she fell in love with an idea not a person. So you got old, and she found someone that reminded her of what she "wants". First and foremost, if you changed yourself to attract her, this should be one of the best lessons to learn early. Never do it. Never be "extra nice" to anyone you are wanting a long term thing with. You will always, in some way, show how you actually are. This does not mean to say who you really are is bad, but maybe different, and it is kind of your own fault there. Her fault for not talking to you about it and letting you both walk away on better terms. Men and woman are both equally cruel, horny, and selfish.
[QUOTE="MrDubstep"]Recently I broke up with my ex gf because she cheated on me. Her and I had some issues, but I never saw them as "cheat worthy". I ran that risk because not only has her father cheated on her mother, but her sister's a complete WHORE! I will admit I have been kind of a dick to her, I mean c'mon! She cheated on me and wrecked my Christmas all together. But now she's dating the guy she cheated on me with and took his virginity. EEK!. I know he's gonna be her little pet now, which is what I wouldn't ever be. I see this as she's rebounding off of me and this senseless mutt is just setting sail for fail. I know this much, this so called "relationship" has moved way to fast. It took me at least 3 or 4 months to take her Virginity. I myself won't ever take her back, I couldn't imagine being where the oger she cheated on me with has been where I left off. But it would feel nice to think she wan'ts me back anyways. She absolutely destroyed me. But now im getting over it. But still, I don't want this **** to get away with this lightly. I know these threads are troll bait. I don't really care myself, im sure I'll get legit responses from at least a couple decent people. EDIT: Her excuse for cheating on me was because he's supposedly just like how I was in the beginning of our relationship, but as any guy would know, you tend to be really nice to the girl you wanna poke. I loved her, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this one, she was special for what it was worth, and our relationship lasted more than 2 years, but she couldn't make me her lap dog. This new feller can do that for her im guessing. "randall", if you want my honest opinion i would never date a girl who has cheated on me in the past.
You need to stop knowing or caring about what she's up to. Brooding over a destructive extinct relationship can't be doing you any good. In your shoes, I'd ask/expect my friend not to tell me what was going on with my ex until the wounds had healed.
I don't know if this is even slightly relevant.. but anyway.
I have a friend who broke up with his girlfriend because she cheated. They got back together about a week later in the hopes they'll mend their relationship. They broke up again. But sure enough, in a few weeks like they were back together again. Now they're having more problems. Sure, I think everyone deserves a second chance but when they got back together for the 3rd time I was ready to back hand him.
You were cheated on, I think you should forget if she wants you back because if she did, you'll end up like poor Kevin.
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