I'm not set on having children, honestly. It's a possibility, but at the moment, I'm against the idea.
If I do, however, some things will need alteration. My parents raised me well, but a large part of it is that I matured incredibly fast, compared to my peers. Being born with Asperger's syndrome, I needed help with a lot of things at first. I just recently learned to tie my shoes, for instance. But my intelligence was well beyond average and I was able to make decisions quite easily, after considering all of the variables and possible outcomes. However, they did supply the proper environment, and whatever I need to further my studies, they have no problems getting it for me; whether it be a book on the Russian language, or Cosmos by Carl Sagan.
There are a few big things that I don't like, though. The first thing to go would be religious teachings; while my parents are not very religious, I still had to go to church more than enough to be uncomfortable. I would not specifically tell my children that there is no deity, though. I'd let them experiment with whatever they want, and settle on what they think is best. It was painful to leave behind the great vision of afterlife in exchange for "freedom." I'm happy with the results, more than happy in fact, but the process is horrible and I'd never want to give my children the opportunity to go through it.
Next, though it's related to the last point, I would crush any negative feelings of homosexuality. While I'm not homosexual personally, I do have a cousin that is. Even though she's no different than she was before she came out as a homosexually, she has still become the laughing stock of the family. And she didn't even do anything laughable! All of the jokes are purely discriminatory. This contradicted my own views, which I had formed independently, that it was natural. I had reached those views through reasoning alone, because as I said, religion never was a huge part of the family, so it was never really discussed. So needless to say, I became hopelessly confused when this evidently gave reason to scrutinize her. I'd say that this was one of the major things that led to the contemplation of the religious views I held at the time, and eventually led to me abandoning them altogether.
Finally, I'd have to change some things in terms of politics; I can't explain how long I went hating Democrats because they were Democrats. Now, that logic makes absolutely no sense to me. Alas, that's how I was raised, as my parents are rather dedicated conservatives. My views have now nearly reversed; I no longer label myself a Republican. I have no political affiliation now, to be precise. For my children, I would probably present to them countless articles related to elections as they grow up. I would give no input of my own; that way, they can decide for themselves how they want to vote when they are able.
So, to conclude, I'd combine the methods I was raised by with my own ideas, to an extent. I don't intend to push any of my ideals on them, at all, unlike my parents. To be fair, though, they didn't have any intention of it; I guess they just kind of assumed my views would be the same as theirs, as in central Nebraska, there is not much variation. But there a lot of things I would keep the same. Specifically, I would fund their interests, and introduce multiple careers from an early age. Many types of sciences, arts, and anything, really. But who knows, things could change.
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