Woah! it's a girl advice thread...

Lol, I always thought these were strange to ask here, and I never thought I would say this but since I just got my first girlfriend and I am not currently at another forum I thought I would ask...

Got my first girlfriend ever (!) at College the other day (been there a week xD) and she's the one who asked me, and since then we haven't spoken to each other like we did before... now I know we're both shy (one of our mates told us to hold hands lol and we were both laughing), I think I might be her first too... not sure. Now, I feel bad about not talking to her... if she asked me and she hasn't talked to me either, do you think she feels the same?... it seems like we are avoiding each other but she is my girlfriend (I think... I hope it wasn't a joke, I doubt it though because she said nice stuff before she was my girlfriend)... does this mean she is shy and probably feels the same as me, or (because it's not like she has said she wants to be single)...? (by the way we always said "hey" when we first meet in the morning, this morning we just looked at each other and she didn't smile... lol... any helpers?...

Have a conversation with her...and ask her. That's the ONLY way to find out.

If I'm reading this right then it looks like you're both shy and this relationship isn't off to a good start. You should start talking to her if you two are in fact in a relationship.

grow a pair..and talk about something... ANYTHING!!south411

indeed :P

Would asking one of our friends to ask her if it seems like I have been avoiding her, and I am just shy or something to see what she says?... I don't want to mess this up, it's my first time to have a girlfriend, man... I might never forget this if it's heartbreaking... I feel heartbroken all the time... at home, at college... every single time after a break I don't talk to her or something I feel sad...nobody knows how I feel though... it makes it feel like I have a stomach ache, you know?...Ashley_wwe

talk to her like you used to...Mercury88

For some reason reading that makes me want to cry...

Well im going to go through the 3 obligatory responses necessary to girl advice threads.

1. Touch her shoulder.

2. Chloroform and lots of it.

3.

Lol, what exactly is all this "touch the shoulder" business?...Ashley_wwe

Lol, what exactly is all this "touch the shoulder" business?...Ashley_wwe

... Something that should have died long ago.

You guys are gonna get married.vc15sa

Lol, I always thought these were strange to ask here, and I never thought I would say this but since I just got my first girlfriend and I am not currently at another forum I thought I would ask...

Got my first girlfriend ever (!) at College the other day (been there a week xD) and she's the one who asked me, and since then we haven't spoken to each other like we did before... now I know we're both shy (one of our mates told us to hold hands lol and we were both laughing), I think I might be her first too... not sure. Now, I feel bad about not talking to her... if she asked me and she hasn't talked to me either, do you think she feels the same?... it seems like we are avoiding each other but she is my girlfriend (I think... I hope it wasn't a joke, I doubt it though because she said nice stuff before she was my girlfriend)... does this mean she is shy and probably feels the same as me, or (because it's not like she has said she wants to be single)...? (by the way we always said "hey" when we first meet in the morning, this morning we just looked at each other and she didn't smile... lol... any helpers?...

Ashley_wwe

[QUOTE="vc15sa"]You guys are gonna get married.Greenwhitegreen

But the no talking thing is an instant giveaway. That has marriage written all over it.

Okay, unless you guys think me asking her is better (let me know), I have planned what I will do... at break if she's not there I will ask one of our mates to ask her, and then I will just know her reaction then... good idea, no... yes?...Ashley_wwe

Okay, unless you guys think me asking her is better (let me know), I have planned what I will do... at break if she's not there I will ask one of our mates to ask her, and then I will just know her reaction then... good idea, no... yes?...Ashley_wwe

That's what 8 year olds do.

[QUOTE="Ashley_wwe"]Okay, unless you guys think me asking her is better (let me know), I have planned what I will do... at break if she's not there I will ask one of our mates to ask her, and then I will just know her reaction then... good idea, no... yes?...Oleg_Huzwog

That's what 8 year olds do.

Would asking one of our friends to ask her if it seems like I have been avoiding her, and I am just shy or something to see what she says?... I don't want to mess this up, it's my first time to have a girlfriend, man... I might never forget this if it's heartbreaking... I feel heartbroken all the time... at home, at college... every single time after a break I don't talk to her or something I feel sad...nobody knows how I feel though... it makes it feel like I have a stomach ache, you know?...Ashley_wwe

lol I didnt want to take the grow a pair and talk to her approach but seriosuly.... just grow a pair and talk to her.... dont ask your frineds to go and ask her cause your in college... your not a giggly 12 year old girl anymore!!!

If I tell her what I am thinking it might mean she won't like me anymore (even if she still does?)... is it better to risk that, or... (should I tell her, get a mate to tell her... I am actually thinking this one, or just leave it and see what she says?...).Ashley_wwe

okay I command you to walk upto her and say

Ashley - hi

grrl - hi

ashley - do you wanna go to the cinemas some time... I heard *insert film here* is meantto be pretty good

grrl - yeah sure... when do you wanna go

ashley - well i can go whenever

see where im going with this?

1. Tell her how many posts youve made on gamespot, or 2. Do a barrel roll.bellsmye1

[QUOTE="Oleg_Huzwog"]

[QUOTE="Ashley_wwe"]Okay, unless you guys think me asking her is better (let me know), I have planned what I will do... at break if she's not there I will ask one of our mates to ask her, and then I will just know her reaction then... good idea, no... yes?...blooddemon666

That's what 8 year olds do.

yeah it can be quite intimidating to have a load of girls swarm around you and say so and so likes you.... you should get with them...

Light her on fire.

Fire fixes everything.

Really. It does.

[QUOTE="Greenwhitegreen"][QUOTE="vc15sa"]You guys are gonna get married.vc15sa

But the no talking thing is an instant giveaway. That has marriage written all over it.

But the no talking thing is an instant giveaway. That has marriage written all over it.

vc15sa

[QUOTE="Oleg_Huzwog"][QUOTE="Ashley_wwe"]Okay, unless you guys think me asking her is better (let me know), I have planned what I will do... at break if she's not there I will ask one of our mates to ask her, and then I will just know her reaction then... good idea, no... yes?...blooddemon666

Really? :| Wow, high school must be even lamer then I remember. Anyhoo, the TC says he's in college. Taking the "have a friend ask" approach in college is just... yeah.

Okay... I'll ask her if it seems if I have been ignoring her or not... even if it leaves me heartbroken forever or improves my day... I asked for her msn that same dayand she said she would write it down (I'll ask if I can add her againtomorrow...) is this the best way?... do you guys actually think asking her myself should be better and will probably actually improve our "relationship"?...Ashley_wwe

you fail... why not gte her msn and add her... not ge ther msn and ask her if your thena llowed to add her....

[QUOTE="Ashley_wwe"]Okay... I'll ask her if it seems if I have been ignoring her or not... even if it leaves me heartbroken forever or improves my day... I asked for her msn that same dayand she said she would write it down (I'll ask if I can add her againtomorrow...) is this the best way?... do you guys actually think asking her myself should be better and will probably actually improve our "relationship"?...muppet1010

you fail... why not gte her msn and add her... not ge ther msn and ask her if your thena llowed to add her....

No, I actually asked her if she had it. I will ask her again tomorrow if I can add her because she said she would write it down.

... do you guys actually think asking her myself should be better and will probably actually improve our "relationship"?...Ashley_wwe

That would be an emphatic yes. You should not even be considering having someone else ask for you. You're in college, dammit!