Worried about a phone call...

Hey all,

I just got an extremely disturbing phone call, and I'm kind of concerned about it.

So about five minutes ago, I got a call on my cell, and I picked it up. I said hello, and the person said "We're going to get you, f*****." Then they hung up.

I'm freaking out about this, because I am gay I don't know if it is someone from school playing a cruel joke on me (I'm 14). Or if someone really is going to try to hurt me. The number was blocked, so I can't even trace it. And I don't want to go to the police, because most of the police in my town (very small town) are homophobic, and it would probably cause me more harm then good. I can't go to my parents, because I'm not out to them. So I don't know what to do here. Should I try to skip school tomorrow, or what?

Please help me here.

Thanks,

Don

Go Jason Bourne on them when they get to you and then flee the country to a place like Scandinavia with a different name. They won't bother you anymore, trust me.

From the sound of it you're not much in the way of choices but to go to the police. You're essentially being threatened and as far as i'm concerned thats not lawfully allowed. But should you insist on not talking to parents or police, at the very minimum you can at least stick with a group of friends, IF they make good on thier threats. Isolation should be the last thing for you in this case.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. If it is someone outside of your school, I would worry, but since it probabally isn't:

People are cruel, but they usually will back down if you confront them. I am not reccomending getting in a fight, but don't make it look like you are afraid.

Take my advice or not, it is up to you, if it wasn't very clear, my apologies.

Well, the people who love you the most, and will be there for you almost no matter what, and will try to understand you are your parents. That would really be the best place to start for help. I can't imagine being in your shoes, but thats the best place to go for help at 14.

Run away, run away to San Francisco! Or you can spontaneously decide to be straight.

Keep a BB gun and a baseball bat ready. When they see your gun and bat they will know not to **** with you brah. Or tell your parents about this and let them handle it. Seriously though, keep a baseball bat with you.

There are a total of five deputies in the town that I live in, plus the chief. I have met all of them, and I overhear them at the local diner a lot. They love to complain about "f***** getting more rights". My town is very conservative, and think that anything out of the "norm" should be stopped, or punished.404-not-found

Run away, run away to San Francisco! Or you can spontaneously decide to be straight.

Montaya

I would say that is not constructive to this topic. Bad idea, don't run.

Again, don't be afraid, I know it might be hard given the situation but you have to. Hang out with your friends, like doanm said.

Well, first of all if they do make good on there threats, you'll want to be with a group of friends as much as possible. Second, while i'm not saying you shoulden't get freaked out, DO NOT SHOW IT. your body language will act accordingly and make you seem more vunerable. your liable to scare off most attackers just by walking like your tough **** and know how to handle yourself, but don't be cocky about it...just don't look afraid third of all, see if you can find one of these... look in a martial arts store or two in a nearby city, its always good to be prepared and it dosen't take much training to use it effectivly

Man I feel really bad for you... Living in a town like that and not having a single person to help you out on that problem... I think you really should open up to your parents or else you could have a very rough high school life.

Keep a BB gun and a baseball bat ready. When they see your gun and bat they will know not to **** with you brah. Or tell your parents about this and let them handle it. Seriously though, keep a baseball bat with you.

Hungry_Jello

Well, first of all if they do make good on there threats, you'll want to be with a group of friends as much as possible. Second, while i'm not saying you shoulden't get freaked out, DO NOT SHOW IT. your body language will act accordingly and make you seem more vunerable. your liable to scare off most attackers just by walking like your tough **** and know how to handle yourself, but don't be cocky about it...just don't look afraid third of all, see if you can find one of these... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kubotan look in a martial arts store or two in a nearby city, its always good to be prepared and it dosen't take much training to use it effectivlydarkspineslayer

Is there anyone who knows you're gay?

Well, first of all if they do make good on there threats, you'll want to be with a group of friends as much as possible. Second, while i'm not saying you shoulden't get freaked out, DO NOT SHOW IT. your body language will act accordingly and make you seem more vunerable. your liable to scare off most attackers just by walking like your tough **** and know how to handle yourself, but don't be cocky about it...just don't look afraid third of all, see if you can find one of these... look in a martial arts store or two in a nearby city, its always good to be prepared and it dosen't take much training to use it effectivly

darkspineslayer

Sorry for you man, just try not to show your fear and try to stick with a group of friends. Try to keep a non-lethal weapon with you if you can. I would try telling your parents, but that your choice if you don't want to.

who have you come out to? if no one than thatd be really worrysome, if you came out to your school its prolly just some 14 year old.

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Keep a BB gun and a baseball bat ready. When they see your gun and bat they will know not to **** with you brah. Or tell your parents about this and let them handle it. Seriously though, keep a baseball bat with you.

Montaya

The hell you can. Baseball bats are a great weapon of defense. Just attach it to a strap and wear it on your back.

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[QUOTE="Hungry_Jello"]

Keep a BB gun and a baseball bat ready. When they see your gun and bat they will know not to **** with you brah. Or tell your parents about this and let them handle it. Seriously though, keep a baseball bat with you.

Hungry_Jello

The hell you can. Baseball bats are a great weapon of defense. Just attach it to a strap and wear it on your back.

i have to agree with hungry lol, wearing a baseball bat attached to your back will bring alot of unwanted attention to yourself, and they'll know your scared. But nunchucks? whip some nunchucks out on someone and unless your trained to use them you're gonna get laughed at and look retarted.

I would look out for any homophobes you know of, but it was probably just someone in your town trying to freak you out, or it might have been a mobster with the wrong number, but anyways its probably not anything to worry about, but just to be safe i would carry a small club shaped blunt object around with me if i were you, and don't worry, try to forget about the phone call. FYI not a homophobe, not gay.

Anyway, if you need to talk or you want more advice, go ahead and PM me on here and I will get back to you when I can.

If you go to the police or your parents you don't really have to come out about your homosexuality. Keep in mind that several people (especially in your region) use the term f***** fairly loosely, and they probably don't even know you're a homosexual.

[QUOTE="Hungry_Jello"]

Keep a BB gun and a baseball bat ready. When they see your gun and bat they will know not to **** with you brah. Or tell your parents about this and let them handle it. Seriously though, keep a baseball bat with you.

Montaya

But think, if you saw someone walking around with a baseball bat you stay the hell away from him:P

They called?

Don't take that too seriously.

If it were sudden violence they might try to hold their identity, but the whole point of trying to threaten someone is to have them fear you.

If they didn't want you to know who they were, they more than likely don't have an actual intent to harm.

Tomorrow someone might even tell you it was a joke from so and so.

In case that doesn't happen and there are following signs you might be in danger, don't hesitate to call your local police department, or at least tell your parents.

Now that I think about it, have you told your parents about this incident?

well lock your doors for now

heck go to school andjust mae sure you are in sight of people for most of the time. Also if a bunch of people gang up on you call them....well it starts with a p end in ys

Is there anyone who knows you're gay?

Silverbond

probably friends if it said blocked that means they did *67

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The simple answer is just Deagle them

There are a total of five deputies in the town that I live in, plus the chief. I have met all of them, and I overhear them at the local diner a lot. They love to complain about "f***** getting more rights". My town is very conservative, and think that anything out of the "norm" should be stopped, or punished.404-not-found

Well, the people who love you the most, and will be there for you almost no matter what, and will try to understand you are your parents. That would really be the best place to start for help. I can't imagine being in your shoes, but thats the best place to go for help at 14.

warbmxjohn

I used to tell people that I would rape them with a straight face when they called me a f*****. Though I'm 200 pounds...so...yeah. It worked though. Likewise, I live in a metro area...and men are always a bit more weary of expressing their homophobia in large cities (for a number of obvious and not so obvious reasons), so I don't know if threats of sexual assault will work for you.

Speaking to your guidance counselor is a good idea, actually. So whoever mentioned that, kudos to you. Remember, if the harrasment continues, it is illegal, and law enforcement can obtain the information they need from the telecom company.