Would you trust a girl that's been married before?

I know that divorce is more common now but it doesn't mean that if someone was willing to get married AND then divorced that they won't do it again. It's hard to want to put effort into a relationship when you know the other person has skipped out on a bit commitment before.

I think the rate for divorces increase many times for people that have already had a divorce...so no.

I think the rate for divorces increase many times for people that have already had a divorce...so no.

Jolt_counter119

I know that divorce is more common now but it doesn't mean that if someone was willing to get married AND then divorced that they won't do it again. It's hard to want to put effort into a relationship when you know the other person has skipped out on a bit commitment before.

frakasattack

All divorcies aren't because people just "give up" or "skip out" or whatever, it could be because of many things like the husband cheated on her, domestic violence or something else like that, some are even because people have been together for so long they just grow appart emotionally. But if it was because they both just gave up on the relationship without trying then, yes, it could be harder to trust her.

Marriages end for a variety of reasons. For all you know, the person she was with could have abused her, or cheated on her, or became a criminal or addict. You can't automatically assume the marriage ending was because she decided she didn't feel like putting effort into the relationship and decided to check out of there. You also can't assume she didn't take the marriage seriously. Ask questions first, judge second. Every situation is different. This of course applies for men too, the woman could have been doing something horrible, and that's why he got a divorce.XilePrincess

Great answer. I fully agree.

Make her sign a prenup and don't spend more than £500 on the wedding and then its worth the risk.

LOL, this thread is ridiculous. I especially dislike the way you've used 'trust'.

If a guy had been married previously, it wouldn't put me off, unless they've been divorced like 10 times, then I'd be wondering, ok, what's going on here 0_o.. but once or twice? Nah. Everyone makes mistakes, a lot of people get married early because they think it'll improve reltionships and whatnot, or as stated above, the partner could be abusive or have cheated, I don't think anyones in the position to say they wouldn't trust someone just because they've been married before. Judge later.

Why would you not? Just because she's divorced doesn't mean she's a bad person. The past partner could have been abusive, they may have just fallen out of love or maybe they were cheated on. They're no different than people who have had ex boyfriends and girlfriends before in my opinion.

I think my attitude would definitely change a little if I knew my partner had been married before.tofu-lion91

Why would you not? Just because she's divorced doesn't mean she's a bad person. The past partner could have been abusive, they may have just fallen out of love or maybe they were cheated on. They're no different than people who have had ex boyfriends and girlfriends before in my opinion.

MrsSolidSnake

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Why would you not? Just because she's divorced doesn't mean she's a bad person. The past partner could have been abusive, they may have just fallen out of love or maybe they were cheated on. They're no different than people who have had ex boyfriends and girlfriends before in my opinion.

suptats

One of the problems of modernity, marriage doesn't mean jack s*** anymore.

[QUOTE="tofu-lion91"]I think my attitude would definitely change a little if I knew my partner had been married before.cd_rom

I'm guessing the TC is 15, maybe 16 tops. Unfortunately for your judgemental naivety relationships, and especially marriages are extremely complicated. Sometimes they just don't work out. Sometimes people just grow apart. And to answer your question: yes, I would and do. Trust her with my life in fact. Even married her.

Sometimes a relationship just doesn't work....doesn't mean the next won't though.LJS9502_basic