Wouldn't it be near impossible to find your pefect guy/girl?

Since there are so many people in the world, I think it would be near impossible to find the best possible spouse you could have.

It doesn't really bother me that much, but it's definitely something that's been in the back of my mind for quite some time.

It also kind of bothers me that if I end up finding somebody near perfect for me, there will have to be other people who would have been just as good a spouse, there being so many people in the world.

What do you guys think? I think I'll probably forget I ever thought any of it if I find the "near perfect" person.

i agree

oh yeah and i used your ghost technique like 3 times today lol

That's why the divorce rate is so high. No such thing as a perfect partner. Every relationship is an ongoing struggle. Until you break the ***** will and she learns how to keep her ******* mouth shut.

j/k

i agree

oh yeah and i used your ghost technique like 3 times today lol

MVfalcons83

That's why the divorce rate is so high. No such thing as a perfect partner. Every relationship is an ongoing struggle. Until you break the ***** will and she learns how to keep her ******* mouth shut.

j/k

JiveT

i like to think that there is a perfect someone for everyone :) (please dont tell me there isnt. its the only thing keeping me sane right now)MichaeltheCM

me too

[QUOTE="MichaeltheCM"]i like to think that there is a perfect someone for everyone :) (please dont tell me there isnt. its the only thing keeping me sane right now)Bill900

me too

no, iv already found a perfect girl for me and i was only 14.serjitup

yes, the odds aren't exactly favorable. I thought I found somebody, but she just wanted to be friends :cry:

She has it all too, I'll have to tell her how I feel one day

yes, the odds aren't exactly favorable. I thought I found somebody, but she just wanted to be friends :cry:

She has it all too, I'll have to tell her how I feel one day

skullkrusher13

i like to think that there is a perfect someone for everyone :) (please dont tell me there isnt. its the only thing keeping me sane right now)MichaeltheCM

There is, chances are you just won't ever find that person.

Every person in the world does not find their perfectly compatible person.

Yeah, I highly doubt I'll ever find someone that I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with. That's why I just don't take relationships very seriously.Blood-Scribe

[QUOTE="MichaeltheCM"]i like to think that there is a perfect someone for everyone :) (please dont tell me there isnt. its the only thing keeping me sane right now)The_Ish

There is, chances are you just won't ever find that person.

Every person in the world does not find their perfectly compatible person.

The best woman is one who will hang around you for no apparent reason and doesn't need a whole lot of attention. She will also put up with a lot of head patting and teasing. This woman is rare in my experience. What is rarer still is a woman who will scream at you about these things but then go back to silently accepting the abuse. That woman is called Treasure.JiveT

The best woman is one who will hang around you for no apparent reason and doesn't need a whole lot of attention. She will also put up with a lot of head patting and teasing. This woman is rare in my experience. What is rarer still is a woman who will scream at you about these things but then go back to silently accepting the abuse. That woman is called Treasure.JiveT

Since there are so many people in the world, I think it would be near impossible to find the best possible spouse you could have.

It doesn't really bother me that much, but it's definitely something that's been in the back of my mind for quite some time.

It also kind of bothers me that if I end up finding somebody near perfect for me, there will have to be other people who would have been just as good a spouse, there being so many people in the world.

What do you guys think? I think I'll probably forget I ever thought any of it if I find the "near perfect" person.

PotatoSan

being happy with the person you're with is what makes a relationship work, so if you're going to have that type of attitude then get ready to be alone all your life.

no, iv already found a perfect girl for me and i was only 14.serjitup

people that young do not know what they want. They think they know what love is, yet the break up within a month. I wouldn't be serioust about it until you're in your 20s and yeaaaaaaa

[QUOTE="skullkrusher13"]

yes, the odds aren't exactly favorable. I thought I found somebody, but she just wanted to be friends :cry:

She has it all too, I'll have to tell her how I feel one day

PotatoSan

when I first read that I thought you typed You'll find another man.

[QUOTE="PotatoSan"]

Since there are so many people in the world, I think it would be near impossible to find the best possible spouse you could have.

It doesn't really bother me that much, but it's definitely something that's been in the back of my mind for quite some time.

It also kind of bothers me that if I end up finding somebody near perfect for me, there will have to be other people who would have been just as good a spouse, there being so many people in the world.

What do you guys think? I think I'll probably forget I ever thought any of it if I find the "near perfect" person.

firebreathing

being happy with the person you're with is what makes a relationship work, so if you're going to have that type of attitude then get ready to be alone all your life.

true.

My spouse is about as perfect for me as partners can realistically get. Only way it could get any better is if maybe she was a musician as well. But she loves music about as much as me anyway so it's all good.

Naturally of course we fight and other things. But I look at the fact that we can disagree and actually have some passion in our relationship as a good thing.

[QUOTE="serjitup"]no, iv already found a perfect girl for me and i was only 14.firebreathing

people that young do not know what they want. They think they know what love is, yet the break up within a month. I wouldn't be serioust about it until you're in your 20s and yeaaaaaaa

Spot on!

It's a flawed notion. It's romantic to think you'll find the perfect mate and live happily ever after, but the truth of the matter is that people contantly change throughout their entire lives. What's perfect for you when you're twenty isn't what will be perfect for you when you're sixty. That's why you shouldn't choose a mate solely on physical appearance, or their job, or their car. You've got to think about your relationship in the long term and be prepared for the time when your mate is going to want something different from you than what they started with.

Women, especially, seem hard-wired to evaluate a man not by what he is, but what he can become. Men, on the other hand, seem to judge mates by what they are currently and then bristle at the idea that their woman should ever become something else over time (and resent that theyshould have to change as well).

I'm not sure why men and women are wired so differently, it's just one of those things. It's why men have such a hard time with fidelity. They are instinctively wired to go out and find many mates. I'm not condoning that, of course. I think a civilized person should be governed by more than just instict. But it's interesting to think about how our society dictates behavior that seems contrary to natural, biological behaviour.

It's a flawed notion. It's romantic to think you'll find the perfect mate and live happily ever after, but the truth of the matter is that people contantly change throughout their entire lives. What's perfect for you when you're twenty isn't what will be perfect for you when you're sixty. That's why you shouldn't choose a mate solely on physical appearance, or their job, or their car. You've got to think about your relationship in the long term and be prepared for the time when your mate is going to want something different from you than what they started with.

Women, especially, seem hard-wired to evaluate a man not by what he is, but what he can become. Men, on the other hand, seem to judge mates by what they are currently and then bristle at the idea that their woman should ever become something else over time (and resent that theyshould have to change as well).

I'm not sure why men and women are wired so differently, it's just one of those things. It's why men have such a hard time with fidelity. They are instinctively wired to go out and find many mates. I'm not condoning that, of course. I think a civilized person should be governed by more than just instict. But it's interesting to think about how our society dictates behavior that seems contrary to natural, biological behaviour.

CheddarLimbo

Serious post is serious

(I don't agree that men have a hard time with a fidelity, unless you mean harder than woman, which of course, is obvious)

The presumption behind believing that every person has a soulmate is that they're destined to meet.

At least, that's what I believe.

[QUOTE="CheddarLimbo"]

It's a flawed notion. It's romantic to think you'll fi....blah blah blah...es. I'm not condoning that, of course. I think a civilized person should be governed by more than just instict. But it's interesting to think about how our society dictates behavior that seems contrary to natural, biological behaviour.

The_Ish

Serious post is serious

(I don't agree that men have a hard time with a fidelity, unless you mean harder than woman, which of course, is obvious)

Yeah, I wasn't really very clear there. I 'm not implying that all men have fidelity issues - I just mean that between men and women, men have a harder time with fidelity. There are more instances of men cheating than women.

"Once you've slept with everyone and it still doesn't work out, maybe you'll find the problem on the inside."

Jeff Ott of Fifteen