Yep,it's another girl problem thread....

I know these threads aren't very appreciated,but I seriously need help(I've been caught up with my band so no time to post here sorry to all my friends(lol)...)Anyways, theres this girl I've liked(and possibly loved more recently)every since like second grade.I really really like her but i got this yesterday...I don't know what to do.

After I told her Merry Christmas:

Happy Merry Christmas to you too Brock Brock!


Also I wanted to tell you something.
I wanted to say that like mmm I don't really know if this is going to come out right, it's not a bad thing, but I hope you understand. I know that you like me and stuff, and I want you to know that I like you too, it's just that you've got so much in life to figure before I come in and ruin everything. Like sometimes I don't know what I am gonna do like.. I have a tendency to break peoples hearts because I runaway a lot and I can't stand it and I may do that to you and I don't want to do that because it would hurt you way worse than it would hurt anyone else, and it would like devastate you mayeb I don't even know your reaction, but I just wanted you to know that. So you shouldn't feel so down on yourself lol cause secretly I had a crush on you like ever since sixth grade. Hahahahaha for reals I did, but I just don't think that I'm ready and I don't think that your ready either but someday. ANd don't wait on me either, because I don't want you to do that for me, but just know that you never really left my mind, and I never forgot about you and I never will

Can you, maybe, re-phrase the part after "merry christmas"? I really didn't understand. :?

She doesn't want you, get over itesb1118

Harsh, but true :oops:

Definitely talk to her. It sounds like she may just have self-esteem issues and if you come through for her something may happen.

BTW congrats on the long-time feelings. I am trying to get something going with a girl I have liked since elementary school.

NVM to what I said erlier I miss read the post so didn't make any sense, but if you really love her then go for her.cowboymonkey21

Heh, me too. I read it way too fast.

Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.Setsa

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

Dude, you're in a band. You should have no problem getting chicks.

Unless it's like a polka band, or your high school marching band.

But assuming we're talking about a rock band, YOU'RE IN A ROCK BAND. The chicks should dig you.

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.muthsera666

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

Dude, you're in a band. You should have no problem getting chicks.

Unless it's like a polka band, or your high school marching band.

But assuming we're talking about a rock band, YOU'RE IN A ROCK BAND. The chicks should dig you.

MrGeezer

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"]

Dude, you're in a band. You should have no problem getting chicks.

Unless it's like a polka band, or your high school marching band.

But assuming we're talking about a rock band, YOU'RE IN A ROCK BAND. The chicks should dig you.

esb1118

Don't joke about the keyboard. It's an ingenius instrument!

[QUOTE="esb1118"][QUOTE="MrGeezer"]

Dude, you're in a band. You should have no problem getting chicks.

Unless it's like a polka band, or your high school marching band.

But assuming we're talking about a rock band, YOU'RE IN A ROCK BAND. The chicks should dig you.

Ilived

Don't joke about the keyboard. It's an ingenius instrument!

Seriously. Children of Bodom would be NOTHING without the awesome keyboard!

Dude, you're in a band. You should have no problem getting chicks.

Unless it's like a polka band, or your high school marching band.

But assuming we're talking about a rock band, YOU'RE IN A ROCK BAND. The chicks should dig you.

MrGeezer

try to comfort her...she has low self-esteem....this isn't rocket science.... She is afraid to hurt you and just make her think that she won't... its as simple as that...

on another note...my christmas was very nice

[QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.suicidalpoptrt

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

The way I see it, forming emotional connections is much more valuable and rewarding than physical forms. I've pretty much given up the idea of sex, because sex makes things more awkward and difficult. I strive to form good, solid connections with people that I can go to in times of need and they can do the same.

Sometimes through this outlook, you can find someone with whom you wish to develop a deeper relationship, but it's generally easier for this to develop if you are not exclusively searching for such a relationship.

Don't joke about the keyboard. It's an ingenius instrument!

Ilived

[QUOTE="Ilived"]

Don't joke about the keyboard. It's an ingenius instrument!

esb1118

[QUOTE="Ilived"]

Don't joke about the keyboard. It's an ingenius instrument!

esb1118

It's ok, at least you make good music.

[QUOTE="suicidalpoptrt"][QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.muthsera666

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

The way I see it, forming emotional connections is much more valuable and rewarding than physical forms. I've pretty much given up the idea of sex, because sex makes things more awkward and difficult. I strive to form good, solid connections with people that I can go to in times of need and they can do the same.

Sometimes through this outlook, you can find someone with whom you wish to develop a deeper relationship, but it's generally easier for this to develop if you are not exclusively searching for such a relationship.

[QUOTE="muthsera666"][QUOTE="suicidalpoptrt"][QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.suicidalpoptrt

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

The way I see it, forming emotional connections is much more valuable and rewarding than physical forms. I've pretty much given up the idea of sex, because sex makes things more awkward and difficult. I strive to form good, solid connections with people that I can go to in times of need and they can do the same.

Sometimes through this outlook, you can find someone with whom you wish to develop a deeper relationship, but it's generally easier for this to develop if you are not exclusively searching for such a relationship.

Honestly, I do feel for you. There have only been a few girls I've thought about going out with, and each time, I find out something about them that I didn't know and I realize that it won't work. A month or two ago, I thought I found someone who was really great and thought like I did. But I found out what she really thought of me, and I was in a funk for about a month and all of my classes went to hell. Intellectual connections are so much better than that...

[QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.suicidalpoptrt

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

you really can go from friends to more. it really does happen a lot.

but good luck, you just have to talk to her, like a few other people said, sounds like she is scared of hurting you because it sounds like she actually cares. TALKKING helps. girls love that i promise

I have a feeling this is some more OT "girl problem" shenanigans lol because she says "like" waaay too much to the point it sounds forced or made up.

But if it is true then she is basically using the whole "its not you, its me thats the problem" break up tactic. So sorry to say my friend but it sounds like she isn't interested in you a whole lot, your in a band start getting groupies and move on.

Shes just playing games!

Typical girl! Ignore her and see how she reacts.

Just an advise to the TC: Dont you ever make a girl that you are interested in feel like you like her. Remember that whether you like it or not, getting a girl to like you and be with you is like a game. Basically, you must be hard to get. Dont make her 100% sure that she got you by your ****. Make her a bit confused about your real feelings for her. Give her the impression that you dont want anything from her but itsher that is going to lose if she ends up not with you and either way it doesnt matter for you.

Its obvious from the email that the girl sent to you that she is knows for sure that you are into her. thats bad. No game no play! Girls like a challenge. Next time, make sure to give the girl your interested in a challenge, make her feel that you are different than the other guys by not giving in to her so easily. Good luck :)

Just an advise to the TC: Dont you ever make a girl that you are interested in feel like you like her. Remember that whether you like it or not, getting a girl to like you and be with you is like a game. Basically, you must be hard to get. Dont make her 100% sure that she got you by your ****. Make her a bit confused about your real feelings for her. Give her the impression that you dont want anything from her but itsher that is going to lose if she ends up not with you and either way it doesnt matter for you.

Its obvious from the email that the girl sent to you that she is knows for sure that you are into her. thats bad. No game no play! Girls like a challenge. Next time, make sure to give the girl your interested in a challenge, make her feel that you are different than the other guys by not giving in to her so easily. Good luck :)

Viper-snake

Don't follow this advice either...it's wrong.

[QUOTE="Viper-snake"]

Just an advise to the TC: Dont you ever make a girl that you are interested in feel like you like her. Remember that whether you like it or not, getting a girl to like you and be with you is like a game. Basically, you must be hard to get. Dont make her 100% sure that she got you by your ****. Make her a bit confused about your real feelings for her. Give her the impression that you dont want anything from her but itsher that is going to lose if she ends up not with you and either way it doesnt matter for you.

Its obvious from the email that the girl sent to you that she is knows for sure that you are into her. thats bad. No game no play! Girls like a challenge. Next time, make sure to give the girl your interested in a challenge, make her feel that you are different than the other guys by not giving in to her so easily. Good luck :)

LJS9502_basic

Don't follow this advice either...it's wrong.

Care to elaborate?

[QUOTE="suicidalpoptrt"][QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.muthsera666

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

The way I see it, forming emotional connections is much more valuable and rewarding than physical forms. I've pretty much given up the idea of sex, because sex makes things more awkward and difficult. I strive to form good, solid connections with people that I can go to in times of need and they can do the same.

Sometimes through this outlook, you can find someone with whom you wish to develop a deeper relationship, but it's generally easier for this to develop if you are not exclusively searching for such a relationship.

Giving up on the 'idea' of sex seems a bit retarded. Have you ever had sex? If you haven't, I'd try it before you give up.

Care to elaborate?

Viper-snake

As soon as you elaborate on how anyone hooks up if they act like they don't like each other. Oh that's right...she moves on to the guy she thinks she has a chance with.

[QUOTE="Viper-snake"]

Care to elaborate?

LJS9502_basic

As soon as you elaborate on how anyone hooks up if they act like they don't like each other. Oh that's right...she moves on to the guy she thinks she has a chance with.

Then you are talking about an average girl who just wants a date! I am not talking about such a girl. i am talking about a girl who knows that she is desired and wanted by many guys, a girl who knows that she is pretty. Such a girl guys flirt with her all time, telling her how beautiful she is. News flash: Such a girl does NOT like guys who give in to her very easily. Such a girl wants a challenge.

Then you are talking about an average girl who just wants a date! I am not talking about such a girl. i am talking about a girl who knows that she is desired and wanted by many guys, a girl who knows that she is pretty. Such a girl guys flirt with her all time, telling her how beautiful she is. News flash: Such a girl does NOT like guys who give in to her very easily. Such a girl wants a challenge.

Viper-snake

Ever wonder why people say they broke up because the ex only played games?

[QUOTE="Viper-snake"]

Then you are talking about an average girl who just wants a date! I am not talking about such a girl. i am talking about a girl who knows that she is desired and wanted by many guys, a girl who knows that she is pretty. Such a girl guys flirt with her all time, telling her how beautiful she is. News flash: Such a girl does NOT like guys who give in to her very easily. Such a girl wants a challenge.

LJS9502_basic

Ever wonder why people say they broke up because the ex only played games?

What you are saying is absolutely correct but before you enter into a relationship you date first! In order to date a certain girl that you like, you must make her feel attracted to you. She wont get attracted to you if you just show sincere interest or that you a serious person or that you really really like her. Trust me, if you do such things, she wont feel attracted to you. Attraction is NOT a choice, you need to understand what girls really want in a lover. If you just keep telling her that you like her and that you cant live without her then what differentiate you from the dozen other guys who probably said the same things or atleast gave her the impression that they really like her while they hardly know her.

What you said applies only when there is a relationship. The TC was NOT in a relationship with the girl he likes, thats why I told him why things probably didnt work out with him and the girl in my own personal opinion.

I'll definitly talk to her about it,but I just don't know what to say.suicidalpoptrt

best advice ever...............move on!! no matter what you want to think there is another girl out there hwo will make you just as happy. if you don't have a nice life of depression.

What you are saying is absolutely correct but before you enter into a relationship you date first! In order to date a certain girl that you like, you must make her feel attracted to you. She wont get attracted to you if you just show sincere interest or that you a serious person or that you really really like her. Trust me, if you do such things, she wont feel attracted to you. Attraction is NOT a choice, you need to understand what girls really want in a lover. If you just keep telling her that you like her and that you cant live without her then what differentiate you from the dozen other guys who probably said the same things or atleast gave her the impression that they really like her while they hardly know her.

What you said applies only when there is a relationship. The TC was NOT in a relationship with the girl he likes, thats why I told him why things probably didnt work out with him and the girl in my own personal opinion.

Viper-snake

That's not true. I know girls that won't date guys that don't show interest. Anyway, the minute you ask them out...you've shown interest. It's unavoidable dude.

As for only applying to a relationship...that was to show that interest is important every step of the way. You first said it only applied to dating....which is not true. If you want a relationship...you HAVE to be emotionally available.

Personally I would rather a girl just says she doesn't like me instead of keep going on about stuff like that... it hurts me so much worse.death_bagel

Good rule to live by...whether she says it or not...if she plays games...move on.

[QUOTE="muthsera666"][QUOTE="suicidalpoptrt"][QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="Setsa"]Well, it sounds like she s a reallynice girl... try talking to her about it, but i guess what she did was she said "let's just be friends" in a fancey way, sorry man. Wait a day or two then talk to her or e mail her or something to that accord.Jenova_Flare

Yes. That can be boiled down to the horrid four word phrase: "Let's just be friends." Especially if she says don't wait for her. But don't worry. The best thing you can do is just be friends with as many people as you can. Maybe you will find a good relationship someday. Maybe you won't. Either way, friends are what are truly valuable.

The way I see it, forming emotional connections is much more valuable and rewarding than physical forms. I've pretty much given up the idea of sex, because sex makes things more awkward and difficult. I strive to form good, solid connections with people that I can go to in times of need and they can do the same.

Sometimes through this outlook, you can find someone with whom you wish to develop a deeper relationship, but it's generally easier for this to develop if you are not exclusively searching for such a relationship.

Giving up on the 'idea' of sex seems a bit retarded. Have you ever had sex? If you haven't, I'd try it before you give up.

Why is it wrong to give up on something that has created so many problems for so many. I have seen several relationships that have ended badly, especially once the line with sex is crossed. I would much rather forego such a physical connection and focus purely on creating a deep and rewarding emotional connection.

By the way, morally, I can't try it before I give it up. I'm a firm believer in no sex before marriage.

Definitely talk to her. It sounds like she may just have self-esteem issues and if you come through for her something may happen.

Thechaninator

You really should talk to her, love is about commitment.